First visit to a club

[2bNakie]

We recently had our first experience visiting a club. Unfortunately, it pales in comparison to our very first swinging experience, which was a house party. I kind of expected that, though.

The club itself was a nice place, but we felt like a couple of out-of-towners visiting a local 'watering hole' that was full of regulars - the only people that introduced themselves to us were the owner and the rather attractive woman serving our drinks. We hung out there for about three hours when we decided to leave.

I'm not sure if we'll go again or try another place. Neither of us are very outgoing, so perhaps a club isn't the place for us to meet people.

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by 2bNakie

We recently had our first experience visiting a club. Unfortunately, it pales in comparison to our very first swinging experience, which was a house party. I kind of expected that, though.

The club itself was a nice place, but we felt like a couple of out-of-towners visiting a local 'watering hole' that was full of regulars - the only people that introduced themselves to us were the owner and the rather attractive woman serving our drinks. We hung out there for about three hours when we decided to leave.

I'm not sure if we'll go again or try another place. Neither of us are very outgoing, so perhaps a club isn't the place for us to meet people.

Don't judge all clubs by your experience at one club. Even if you're not the most outgoing types, sometimes a different club can yield entirely different results. But, maybe parties are better for you. Only you can decide Glad your party was good!

[BiloxiCouple]

It takes time and patience like anything else.

If you sit in the corner and don't socialize your corner will become your friend. People at a club aren't obligated to socialize with anyone. So take a little initiative next time and walk around and say hi to someone. Put yourself in a position at the club where it makes it easier for people to talk to you. Sit where you know people congregate or where they will be near you.

If you are not able to be outgoing, it's going to be real hard anywhere you go to get naked and have some fun.

[jjtrindc]

Was the club on or off premise? That can really make a difference. In our area, the off premise tends to attract more newbies and shy folks (heck, that's exactly how we started and why we think off premise clubs are vital to the lifestyle). Clubs can be hit or miss depending on the night, the theme, the crowd. One night hoppin, the next night dead. Of course, with on-premise you can always create your own fun!! At the end of the day you have to settle on what works for you as a couple to meet others - personal ads, house parties, meet & greets, or clubs. Each is different and attracts different types of people. Try them all...and enjoy!

[jandg]

Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple

If you sit in the corner and don't socialize your corner will become your friend.

So true, we see that at our club all the time. If you sit and wait for folk to come to you, you may be sitting most of the night.

We got past that by playing pool. It gives you a chance to start a conversation, while your partner is playing pool you can ask someone else to dance, or just get to know people.

If there's a group or "orgy" room where you can just watch others, that also helps if you start a quiet conversation there with someone else.

Whatever you do, just don't sit there.

[K&JIntimates]

I have to agree with the other posters. Some nights are better than others, more people more opportunity to talk to others. That being said, don't be wall flowers! Walk around, dance, try to initiate conversation. Believe me, I can relate to not being very outgoing but nothing ventured, nothing gained!

[2bNakie]

I thought I would follow up to this post. We went back, two more times, and had a blast! We met quite a few nice couples there, met the club owner, it was fun. Then we find out a couple of days ago that it has closed

Just our luck - whenever we like something, it either closes or they stop making it!

[ncmd_couple]

2bNakie,

Find a reputable on-premis club that is adhearing to all local laws and try that. I don't know where you are in Texas as my mind is fogging at this hour, but look for one that is within range of you two.

S

[MrkLin]

Time to start looking for another club near by. We had a similar situation here locally when one club closed down (The Riviera, for those that remember it.) Some folks gravitated to another club, and a new place opened up that is more of a house party than a club. Another club started having monthly Swinger's Parties. Whenever a door closes, a window opens. Just do a bit of looking around, and keep in touch with the people you've met - the more folks looking, the better.