Christian couple, how we started with swinging.

[tn_softswing2]

Did the title take you back a bit? Christian couple? Christian's have long been thought of as folks who don't swing, right? Well, we believed that lie too, for a long time, because of the lies some claiming to be knowledgeable of what scripture really says. We found out different. We've also joined a yahoo group of Liberated Christians, Christians just like us who have found having sex with the full knowledge of your spouse is NOT Biblical Adultery.

We are a normal, white married couple in our early 50's that have always been very comfortable with nudity. About 10 years ago we became close friends with a couple from church (yes, we are still very active in church), and went on some trips with them where there was hot tubs. Then they bought one and we started tubbing a lot with them. They talked about tubing nude when no one was around and one night when it was dark we all got nude after getting in the tub. This went on for several months, then the lady laid a 'guilt trip' on us by saying she was going to leave her suit on since she was a Sunday School teacher. It made us feel awful, like we had been doing something wrong when neither of us felt that way. We had chatted with some nudists on-line and met a couple, and we went on a weekend outing with them to the Smokies, staying in a cabin with a hot tub. The 4 of us spent most of the entire time naked: it was great fun. Nothing between us but each night the sex with spouse was great. We later lost contact with them. We then tried nude resorts and liked all but 1 in TN where we live: it was very 'stuck up', but we loved the 2 we've been to in Florida. Anyway, we've been married over 30 years and things sometimes get a little dull because of work, kids, etc.

So, about 2 years ago we found SwingLifeStyle.com and created an account. We were really looking for just other nudist couples in our area. We found a lot of folks are all talk, but a few were nice. We had reservations about doing anything except a little soft swinging, and that would have been limited to watching/being watched, some rubbing or kissing, but we knew we weren't going to do the full swap. Church folks don't do that, right? Old teachings die hard, but we knew when we were at nude resorts and with other folks nude, there was no sense of shame and guilt, only the time the lady laid the guilt trip on us by taking a 'holier than thou' attitude. We found out different.

We met a couple from a nearby town and met at a restaurant. We seemed to click immediately. About the same age and sizes, and a lot of common interests. We chatted a lot online and it took over a year for us to work up the courage to invite them to our house. We tubbed nude and had a wonderful time. They were very patient with us. We started kissing and feeling up each other's spouses and it was good, real good. That night we just got on beds with the other's spouse and kissed and hugged, but my wife got lucky and the other fellow did oral on her: durn, she said that wasn't gonna happen so I was a good boy and didn't do it on the lady I was with. The other lady made me feel so young: it was like I was back in college and for an early 50's man, that means a lot. Not surprisingly, after they left and wife and I talked, neither of us felt any shame or guilt. I've always believed if something is really wrong, our consciencious (or God's Spirit living in us) will convict us, and there was no conviction. So we were hooked. The next time we got together it was in a hotel with 2 beds, not much really happened then either but some great kissing/hugging/massage. Third time was charm: we both did a full swap, and again - NO GUILT AT ALL. It was just like we were 'doing it together'. There was no secrecy, no going behind anyone's back, no betrayal of trust. It just left us wanting more.

Then, we all went out of town for a long weekend and stayed in a motel with interconnecting rooms, and each spent the night with the other's spouse. We had the most enjoyable time, sex like we were in college again. Since then we usually meet just about every weekend and plan on continuing. Don't think right now we'll try to find anyone else and the other couple feels the same, so it's probably more of polyamory than swinging, but the aspect of swinging/having sex with another couple is what got it all started.

And the most amazing benefit: wife and I can't get enough of each other just like we were newlyweds.

So, if you're a couple thinking of trying swinging, go for it. It's well worth it.

[Chicup]

Someone needs a name change on the board

[hmr]

Love it. Went though a lot of the same, then realized it was done together and in love. Been doing this for 10 years now, and still feel like we are "good' people. Besides, according to an ABC poll a few years ago, this is much more prevalent among "conservatives", then " liberals" ( the wording they used on the poll)

[iapr]

Isn't it great when sane, sober, respectfull and responsible consenting adults can get past the dogma and indoctrination and actually take responsibility for their own sexualities?

[bbarnsworth]

Society and religion says it must be wrong, therefore it is. Or so the dogma preaches.

But, thinking, rational beings have an obligation to not be lemmings, and gain truth and wisdom from all around us for things that are important to us. Else, we're never fully actualized.

It's fantastic you had such a great time (and still are)!

[CockStamper]

Congrats...I've heard of a Christian Adult bookstore here in Jersey. I've never been to it, but I plan to get there sooner than later.

[lifeat56]

Your journey is very encouraging. Thanks for sharing.

[ViSexual]

Hey, I can't think of any religious experience more powerful than sex!

[Chitowndk4u]

Originally Posted by iapr

Isn't it great when sane, sober, respectfull and responsible consenting adults can get past the dogma and indoctrination and actually take responsibility for their own sexualities?

It sure is. My wife is still going through the Christian brainwashing thing, telling herself it's wrong to like this lifestyle.

I try to tell her it is nothing wrong with it.

She struggles with it and we haven't even had our first experience yet.

[djjwp]

If sex is not mandated from above, why do we yell "Oh my God" so much?

We are in the boat where the wife is "dogged" by the dogma. She has been willing to do soft swing with the right people but refuses to go all the way. I see no issue with it at all but will run at her pace. When she feels right, it may happen. We have had a couple folks over that we found were atheist, needless to say, they did not stay long by our choice.

We wonder to if there are many "conservative" swingers like us but I know there are. We are trying to build a group of them on Swing Lifestyle and it only took a couple days to find some members so we know you are out there.

We "may be" sinners but we "know" we are forgiven.

[curiouscpl72]

That is AWESOME!!I so respect your faith and ability to be free with each other and desire and well...I love it.I am rooted in Christianity, I go to Church(Catholic was raised...)I also have a yen for the eastern thought Buddhism and Taoist philosophy,and I so have trouble separating from my spiritual self and physical self.I sometimes feel that I am on a darker path, but reading your words puts new hope in my heart that your vision has shown that swinging and religion are not incompatible.I have always felt an incredible sense of grace, that I am in God's light, that my faith though is sometimes only a soft glow, never is snuffed out.OK I am going to stop here because this is , like, wierd for me lol.I am expounding too much-

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[curiouscpl72]

Originally Posted by ViSexual

Hey, I can't think of any religious experience more powerful than sex!

AMEN!

[Malachista]

Originally Posted by tn_softswing2

then the lady laid a 'guilt trip' on us by saying she was going to leave her suit on since she was a Sunday School teacher.

See, that is why I think that there should be a world wide law that makes any form of organized religon illigal!

[realcplub2]

First off, Great thread!! Second, Religon being the hot point it is.. Who woulda thunk it, lol

I dont agree with Malachista, Its my firm belief Robin Williams got it right.. GOD is the greatest jokester in the history of the universe.. What divine IRONY is it, placing a pleasure recreation area so close to a waste disposal site?

[dayhiker]

tn,
Thanks for sharing. I agree with you.

People think that dening themselves is the greats way to please God. But I think enjoying God's creation with a thankful heart is what pleases God most!

dayhiker