I should play the lottery...

[ShagUsThx]

It all started when my wife started watching Swingtown.... I did not even know about this show, but she was watching it apparently getting all kinds of ideas in her head. Finally those producer types did something right!
So one night we had some friends over and we had a great night of regular vanilla type fun and games and we all went to bed (separately). Well Im not sure what are friends were up to, but the wife and I got down to business. While having wonderful sex, she starts talking all dirty about how she wants to have her way with our friends and all the details of what would happen. Then it was my turn to tell her what I wanted to do and what I liked about their bodies. Ha! I could not believe my ears.... This was our first "conversation" and her way of finding out where my head was with this type of activity.

The next week was non-stop text messages (sexts) about this new subject. So now I'm super turned on, I mean I was rock hard for a week straight! (Not easy at work!) I HAD to do something to try and make this happen, so I created a profile on swinglifestyle and looked around. I wasn't finding much of anything and was about to give up when WHA? Who are they??? I got up the nerve to send them an invite to a public place where there was a neat event going on. I figured it was a pretty safe meet up for both couples since we could easily call it off if we did not click and disappear into the night. They responded back and were interested in meeting, since I had no pics on my profile (I know...) I sent them a picture of so they could see if they liked how we looked. We hit it off picture wise. They wanted to meet, but they already had plans, but would stop by if they could. Fast forward to the event, I'm busy working on this and that and talking to people when all of a sudden.... there they are and they are lookin' hot! We end up really getting along and went out to a few places before ending up at our house. We hung out and talked and did some sexy dancing... just kind of got to know each other. We did that till 5 am; we all had this nervous sexy tension, but that was it for the first encounter.

We have a really cool relationship forming with this couple and have been with them 2 more times since. The second time we did some soft swapping and there was the hottest FF action happening.... The third time we had some great hot tub fun and then moved inside. His wifey was tired and they had early obligations so she went to bed However, the three of us had the most sensual MFM experience. I never knew how pleasurable it could be watching another man wielding his sexy sword upon my wife as she sharpened my sword at the same time (sword play). We were all so comfortable together, I had no ill feelings and I actually enjoyed his touch and touching him as we all helped brace and encourage each other through this unbelievable experience.

I do have to admit I had some sword troubles, but as usual my wife had the wisdom. She said just relax and lets all spoon and caress each other. You know take a breath and mellow out. Well that was the key... all the soft touching and warm bodies really got both us guys back in action. It all takes getting used to, but as I have read the wisdom of many people in the lifestyle..... Take it slow and it will all work out if you let it!

Sorry if that was a long one, but I just had to vent all this steam building up over here! I'm sure there will be more stories in the future. I just feel so right about how this all came about and already our marriage has stepped up to a whole new level of communication and trust. This stuff is not for everyone, but if it is WOW is all I have to say to those who dare.

—Live life love life!

[SecretAsianMan]

Great story - thanks for sharing. Good luck to you in the continued exploration of the lifestyle... remember, communication & open-ness & honesty are key.

[ShagUsThx]

Thanks SecretAsianMan...

Your words are so wise. It is amazing to me how this whole thing is really opening up some serious communication lines, not only with the wife, but with the people you get involved with. Open is the key word and honesty is a must. I think being honest with yourself is probably one of the most important things, that way you will get out of it exactly what you want. Another good one is patience is a virtue for sure!

[fun4Ds]

Hell yes, buy a ticket I would

Just glad to hear how this went...... It was a good day to hear something that was so positive and for the good

[ShagUsThx]

Thanks fun4Ds... Im happy to report a good experience! The more I read, the more I realized just how lucky I was to have my wife be the one to introduce me, and then for us to meet another couple so quickly, and the other couple is SO cool!

Oh... and we found this message board too!

[SnowwwWhite]

I think it's nice that Swingtown is opening the door for couples who will probably benefit from the openness that swinging provides.

But at the same time I can't help being annoyed. There's just something more alluring about a person who chose to explore the lifestyle "before it was cool" and didn't need network television to popularize it before it became an option. Kind of like so many college-age girls are now mysteriously "bi-sexual" because it's the hip thing to do.

With swingers it's almost like there's two kinds: The real ones, and the followers.

Sure, none of us invented it... but a person who needed it to be cool on TV before they searched it out for themselves? Kind of like the women who buy fake Chanel and Luis Vuitton in Chinatown.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by SnowwwWhite

Sure, none of us invented it... but a person who needed it to be cool on TV before they searched it out for themselves? Kind of like the women who buy fake Chanel and Luis Vuitton in Chinatown.

Perhaps it's not that they needed it to be cool, but that they hadn't really thought about it before they saw it on TV? Or that seeing it on TV finally gave them the courage to speak up to their partner about it?

Some could say the same thing about anyone who started swinging after the advent of the internet made it so easy to find information about it.

or others could say the same thing about those who chose to swing on purpose vs those who just happened to fall into it with a neighbor without even realizing there was a name for it.

Don'tcha think?

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by SnowwwWhite

I think it's nice that Swingtown is opening the door for couples who will probably benefit from the openness that swinging provides.

But at the same time I can't help being annoyed. There's just something more alluring about a person who chose to explore the lifestyle "before it was cool" and didn't need network television to popularize it before it became an option. Kind of like so many college-age girls are now mysteriously "bi-sexual" because it's the hip thing to do.

With swingers it's almost like there's two kinds: The real ones, and the followers.

Sure, none of us invented it... but a person who needed it to be cool on TV before they searched it out for themselves? Kind of like the women who buy fake Chanel and Luis Vuitton in Chinatown.

I think it far more important that a person be sexy, happy, comfortable and pleasant to be with in bed than how they got there.

Maybe they were influenced by Swingtown. I don't think it matters. The pathway that each of us takes to get here is different, with its own permutations. You didn't get to swinging by the same pathway my wife and I did. I don't think that makes you less or more pure than our approach.

Flip it around a bit...would you want to have sex with a person who didn't think of it first, but instead was introduced to the concept by a friend, and later educated by multiple sources before engaging in sex for the first time or would you rather have sex with a person who was born horny and was thinking about oral sex while sucking on their sippy cup?

I don't think it matters. If the person/couple is a fake, they're a fake. You won't have to know they watched Swingtown to spark their interest in the lifestyle. It'll be apparent without that knowledge.

[avid]

Another way of looking at it is that maybe swinging was ALREADY cool, then the producers of the show noticed that it was cool, so decided to make a few bucks on it...

[JTcamp05]

Thats great way to start in the lifestyle......


Sounds like you are off to a solid start, which says alot for your communication and marriage. Best of luck you you two!

[ShagUsThx]

Thanks for all the positive comments... This board is full of great peeps!

[ShagUsThx]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Perhaps it's not that they needed it to be cool, but that they hadn't really thought about it before they saw it on TV? Or that seeing it on TV finally gave them the courage to speak up to their partner about it?

Some could say the same thing about anyone who started swinging after the advent of the internet made it so easy to find information about it.

or others could say the same thing about those who chose to swing on purpose vs those who just happened to fall into it with a neighbor without even realizing there was a name for it.

Don'tcha think?

The wife had been thinking about it for a couple of years before she watched swingtown. She had an FF experience a while back, but hesitated to approach me because she thought it was too far out. Swingtown just made her realize that WOW real everyday people do this! That got her mind really going and gave her the courage to see what I thought. Im glad she did!

[ShagUsThx]

Originally Posted by JTcamp05

Thats great way to start in the lifestyle......


Sounds like you are off to a solid start, which says alot for your communication and marriage. Best of luck you you two!

Thank you so much! One of the things I like most about swinging is the opportunity to meet and connect with interesting and sincere people.

[sweet_tna]

CONGRATS on a great first experience! Thanks for sharing, and I hope you and your wife have many more to come. (Pun intended)

=)