The time has arrived for our 1st experience

[NT69]

So the time has finally arrived, we’re going to have our first swinging experience tonight.

The wife and I are really looking forward to this, the other couple which has been in the Lifestyle for years too.

Mrs.N. bought some really nice lingerie and is very nerves.
I told her that we would be taking it slow which made her more relaxed.

Anyway we only planned to have a nice sexy evening with our friends and we’ll see where it leads us…

As knowing my wife, our friends and myself I’m sure we’ll have a great story to tell you all tomorrow.

[sweet_tna]

"I just wanted to say, good luck--we're all counting on you." (Airplane!)

Hope it turns out great and that you do tell us about it.

=)

[fun4Ds]

Sooooo..... what happened ?

Sorry, I wake up way to early

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

Sooooo..... what happened ?

Sorry, I wake up way to early

Yeah, me too!

I'm guessing it's actually "tonight" and not "last night", since NT69 is from Belgium. When the post was made it was "last night" for us, but "this morning" for them, being 5 or 6 hours ahead of us east coasters (I'm guessing at the time difference).

I think I just gave myself a headache.

Either way, NT69, be sure and let us know how everything turned out!

[NT69]

Hi all, so as promised here is what happened tonight…
Firstly the wife and I started to get ready around 17:30, she looked very sexy in the new outfit she bought and as I thought she was very excited.
I haven’t seen her this wet since a long long time.


Our befriended couple arrived around 19:00, we chit-chatted and we started to play some fun games (WII Sports – Bowling): every time someone had a ‘strike’ he/she could give someone in the group a task to do.
We played roughly an hour or two after which my wife and the other couple’s wife had to pull down the other guy his pants.
One thing led to another and both of them were sucking him like crazy.
Here is where I entered the game, the girls unzipped my pants and sucked me as well.


At this time we did a full swap.
As my wife was sucking the other guy you could clearly see she was really-really enjoying herself.

Although I was returned the pleasure, the other guy’s wife –in my opinion- did it just to take one for the team.
It even seems she didn’t even like to do this thing at all.


So eventually everything came to an end, we all had a quick snack together, were very polite to each other and thanked them for a wonderful evening.

Afterwards my wife and I were discussing the events of the evening.
She said it was OK for her and that she would consider going to a club in the future and asked me what I thought.
I told her what it felt like the other woman was taking one for the team, etc and that this experience wasn’t really a 100% for me.

With this she became somewhat confused, but I reassured her that everything is OK, that I still love her deeply and that although my experience wasn’t all together great it could just be the other couple.

Some thoughts on this would be appreciated.

[jdavisauto]

Sounds like way to much expectation for your first time full swap. I think that if you went to a swingers club with no expectations then you may find out that things will be different. Just go to have a few drinks, relax and enjoy the company of other couples before the sex part comes into play.

[dodgechevy]

It could be that she was just a pillow princess :-).

[NT69]

Anyway, the wife & I discussed it and we'll have a second experience with another couple in the near future...

[SecretAsianMan]

Talk it over with the other couple and see if they're 100% okay with everything as well - they might be having similar issues. If the other gal is just "going along with it" y'all just aren't going to be getting the best experience.

But I'm glad that y'all seemed to enjoy it and are open to exploring it further.

[NT69]

Yesterday the couple sent us a nice mail saying they enjoyed our company and would like to meet up again this weekend.
We will most likely politely decline the invitation as we already have plans.

But I think Mrs.N. is ready for a new step, she’s hasseling me to go to a swingers club.


I thought I read on the site that the man initiates the lLfestyle and the woman keeps them in it...

[fun4Ds]

Ya know, I can relate to your situation somewhat. I don't know if this is the case for you but...

I think for us, with couples in the beginning I had some shared feelings. My wife Mrs.fun, puts allot into sex. I think that left me with somehow comparing whats going on over there, to whats going on over here with me. On one hand I felt like this woman doesn't want to be doing this or maybe I'm not really what she wanted. I was just acceptable enough to give it a try. Then on the other hand I thought.... Wait a minute, I don't want to feel or be compared to someone els, while I am having sex. It seemed like I was being unfair to the woman I was with. Just because Mrs.fun is putting a little more on the wild side over there doesn't mean the woman I'm with is going to.

In the beginning I thought we all do it the same way. Well thats sorta true, but I took some of the responsibility on myself to get more in tune with the woman I was with. Listening to and understanding, what these new partners wanted was pretty important. Sometimes Its all out wild sex, some women want to just feel relaxed and pleasured. Some even like to be.... showy. I think it is important to understand these things.

So I wouldn't just say no to a second time around, you might have missed something like I did. Get to know the gal your with a little more, maybe she wasn't getting what she hoped for and didn't know how to explain things. They obviously like you guys. Maybe she felt she wasn't getting what she was wanting. I would in this case ask her what she hopes for or perhaps want to do different. If you chose to play again with them. It doesn't hurt to ask. Communication is pretty important with women your going to play with. Just like with our own partners. Sometimes very little needs said, some are givers and some are receivers. I know when a woman wants to play the second time around and I felt things weren't great or something just wasn't quite right. I ask, what could I do to make this better for you ? Do you feel like you were getting your needs met.. Then I listen. And I have gotten some incredibly wild sex in return, the second time... and more

I know going to the clubs and trying new things are also a great way to explore and you should have a blast from what I'm seeing. Let us know how that goes for sure, Thanks for posting

[shymxcpl]

Hey NTs... it sounds like you had a wonderful first experience! Yeah, it's never going to be the same, but from what I read it sure seems like you enjoyed the moment and the experience.

If you want to do the swing club, I would highly recommend Fun 4 Two on a Saturday night. We were there a few months ago and it's unbelievable! Like partying at the Playboy mansion... It's close to you guys near Rotterdam.

I think the most important thing, be it a house party or swingers club is to keep your expectations real and not to have too many. You are getting it on with someone for the first time and many times you barely know each other so it's not so easy.

Good luck!