First House party

[havefuninsun]

For those who read my threads, in the last few weeks it's been sprinkled with information that we were going to our first house party this past weekend.

We had a BLAST.

The host and hostess did a great job planning the evening. I think there was a total of nine (maybe eight) couples that were there. We happen to know three couples (the hosts included), which made me feel more at ease. And all the other folks we met were great too. The hosts did a fantastic job of blending folks, I think.

The theme was Mardi Gras, and we even had a King Cake to go along with it!!

It became apparent as the activities moved upstairs that some folks were more comfortable soft-swapping, but what wasn't clear is who was playing in what way. I haven't had a chance to talk to the hostess yet, but I thought of a fun suggestion for her. It would have been great fun to have had a "menu" of sorts for the evening. Like, on the appetizer menu, "havefuninsun" would have been listed, but on the full-menu side, the couples who were playing full-swap would have been listed.

I was chatting with the Ms. of one of the couples there yesterday, and she was saying that her Mr. was very interested in having a full-course meal with another guest, but wasn't sure if she was snacking that night or enjoying some filet. They, too, were party newbies, and just wasn't sure how to ask (seems simple to just ask, but I'm sure you all can relate being in the heat of the moment type of thing).

We also realized after the fact that we didn't communicate what our desires were for the evening well ... in fact, Mr. Fun seemed to be very stand off-ish. If we had communicated better that because this was our first party and we didn't know most of the couples, we were more comfortable playing as soft-swap, it would just have made for a more fun evening.

So -- live and learn ... but, as I said, we had a very very good time! I also know how to dress better next time, too ... (I was entirely too clothed for the event -- LOL).

[des1re06]

Great to hear you had a good time, and I like your menu suggestion too. I'm going to use it at our next party.

[Greg & Sheryl]

We're glad you had a good time. Hopefully, you'll have an even better time at the next house party. The "menu" is an interesting idea, so if the hostess is open to it, we'd love to hear how it works at her next shindig. However, if you are already engaged in foreplay and would like to move to the main event, a good way to ask is to say, "Shall I get a condom?" At that point, your playmate will either say "yes" or let you know if he/she would rather stick with the soft swinging.

[sweet_tna]

Glad to hear you had a good time. I love the menu idea, that's really cute. May your next party be even better!

=)

[havefuninsun]

Originally Posted by Greg & Sheryl

... say, "Shall I get a condom?" At that point, your playmate will either say "yes" or let you know if he/she would rather stick with the soft swinging.

I know -- you guys are right. I think folks may be surprised to hear a "no" though, and I'd hate for that to be a mood killer. Of course, instead of just saying "no," one could say, "tonight, we're playing appetizers ... and I'm enjoying this so much!" and maybe that wouldn't be such a mood killer.

[JustAskJulie]

That would be a very interesting way of letting people know up front who is up for what.... plus it would be just really funny. It wouldn't work in just any setting but for a house party of that size I do think it would.

You could also do it as a wine list.... from sweet to dry (might take a little more explaining for the non wine drinkers though).

[good times]

I would be interested to see if the menu idea could work too, I suspect it wouldn't though. We have been to a couple clubs that gave you a certain color cup or drinking straw to indicate your preferences for the evening and almost no one participated. I think the reason for this is what you feel like doing with someone else is often situationally dependent. With one couple you may only feel comfortable with soft swing, another one you may go all the way to full swap. The thing is, you don't know this until you meet them and get a feel for them.

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by Greg & Sheryl

We're glad you had a good time. Hopefully, you'll have an even better time at the next house party. The "menu" is an interesting idea, so if the hostess is open to it, we'd love to hear how it works at her next shindig. However, if you are already engaged in foreplay and would like to move to the main event, a good way to ask is to say, "Shall I get a condom?" At that point, your playmate will either say "yes" or let you know if he/she would rather stick with the soft swinging.

I would *much* rather hear that a couple is soft-swap before we get to the point of asking for a condom. In fact, one of the "appetizer" couples and I were, shall we say, enjoying the sampler course... and the gentleman reminded me that the main course wasn't on the menu. I was grateful to him for being upfront about it before I worked up too much of an appetite! So I made the same mistake as havefuninsun, only in reverse -- I should have asked! We all had a lot of fun though.

[BiloxiCouple]

Don't forget that even during the course of the evening you may go from full menu to just needing an appetizer or a dessert to being so full you can't move Just like at Thanksgiving. Too much and enough is enough.

[sweet_tna]

Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple

Don't forget that even during the course of the evening you may go from full menu to just needing an appetizer or a dessert to being so full you can't move Just like at Thanksgiving. Too much and enough is enough.

ROFL! http://bestsmileys.com/lol/18.gif

[havefuninsun]

Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple

Don't forget that even during the course of the evening you may go from full menu to just needing an appetizer or a dessert to being so full you can't move Just like at Thanksgiving. Too much and enough is enough.

Thanksgiving indeed!!! LOL!!!