Are we swingers?

[jules11]

I have been looking at all the different forums, and I really am enjoying this site, and the people on it so far. My question is I have recorded live, me giving another man oral for him to view at the same time it is happening and then of course he save the recording to view whenever he likes. Since he is out of the country that is all we have done so far. We talk about physically getting together with other couples and singles for some fun. But haven't done it yet. Is that considered a form of swinging, or headed in that direction or not? The first time was awkward, by the time my third one had been done, i was having so much fun i couldn't stop smiling.... He loved it.

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by jules11

I have been looking at all the different forums, and I really am enjoying this site, and the people on it so far. My question is I have recorded live, me giving another man oral for him to view at the same time it is happening and then of course he save the recording to view whenever he likes. Since he is out of the country that is all we have done so far. We talk about physically getting together with other couples and singles for some fun. But haven't done it yet. Is that considered a form of swinging, or headed in that direction or not? The first time was awkward, by the time my third one had been done, i was having so much fun i couldn't stop smiling.... He loved it.

Jules, I don't quite understand your post. When you say, "I have recorded live me giving another man oral for him to view at the same time it is happening...", who is "him"? Is this a man you are in a relationship with? Do you have a real relationship with a man who is currently out of the country, and you're taping these oral sessions for him while he's away? When you say "We talk about physically getting together with other singles and couples for some fun", do you mean you and your man who is out of the country? Do you mean separately while you are separated by distance, or as a couple someday when you are together?

Or, do you have an online friend that you've never met in person who is receiving these tapes?

[ShellyM]

I'm with you Tybee, I don't know whats going on either.

[socolais]

Ya know, there's no central authority to define exactly what it takes to "qualify" as a swinger. Plus, it could be easily argued that "we swing BECAUSE we're swingers" not that "we swing to BECOME swingers". On the other hand, JUST a lack of monogamy is not sufficient to be generally recognized as swinging.

I say if you've had (or about to have) a sexual encounter with or in the presence of others who were aware of your activities AND BOTH husband and wife were excited for each other by the encounter - then you're swingers. I think it's the attitude and excitement that's at the core of the difference.

I think "virtual presence" counts!!! I suggest if I were having sex with a friend and have a speakerphone connection with my wife (or webcab , whatever) for the purpose of our mutual excitement - I would consider that a swinging encounter.

[JW n Laci]

Originally Posted by Tybee Swing

Or, do you have an online friend that you've never met in person who is receiving these tapes?

Wow, I really hope this isn't the case but it does sound like that could be the situation. This is not something anyone should be doing for someone they have never met in person.

[ncmd_couple]

I went to her profile and read her previous posts. I am going to guess that her SO is deployed to Iraq, and that is who is receiving the video. Or at least I hope that is the case. I would be concerned if this was someone that she didn't know who she met on-line and is overseas.

[jules11]

Originally Posted by Tybee Swing

Jules, I don't quite understand your post. When you say, "I have recorded live me giving another man oral for him to view at the same time it is happening...", who is "him"? Is this a man you are in a relationship with? Do you have a real relationship with a man who is currently out of the country, and you're taping these oral sessions for him while he's away? When you say "We talk about physically getting together with other singles and couples for some fun", do you mean you and your man who is out of the country? Do you mean separately while you are separated by distance, or as a couple someday when you are together?

Or, do you have an online friend that you've never met in person who is receiving these tapes?

Sorry, I didn't clarify who "he" was it is my boyfriend who is in Iraq and has been for a little over a year now. And the talking was "getting together" with other couples and singles yes I would be talking about my boyfriend and me with other couples. Sorry to confuse you, i am not up with all the lingo but I hope this helps you understand.

[jules11]

Originally Posted by socolais

Ya know, there's no central authority to define exactly what it takes to "qualify" as a swinger. Plus, it could be easily argued that "we swing BECAUSE we're swingers" not that "we swing to BECOME swingers". On the other hand, JUST a lack of monogamy is not sufficient to be generally recognized as swinging.

I say if you've had (or about to have) a sexual encounter with or in the presence of others who were aware of your activities AND BOTH husband and wife were excited for each other by the encounter - then you're swingers. I think it's the attitude and excitement that's at the core of the difference.

I think "virtual presence" counts!!! I suggest if I were having sex with a friend and have a speakerphone connection with my wife (or webcab , whatever) for the purpose of our mutual excitement - I would consider that a swinging encounter.

Thanks, I actually felt the same way but I was a little curious to what the thoughts were of those really active in the lifestyle. And didn't want to have someone hear of my stories and ridicule ma as being a fake.

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by jules11

Sorry, I didn't clarify who "he" was it is my boyfriend who is in Iraq and has been for a little over a year now. And the talking was "getting together" with other couples and singles yes I would be talking about my boyfriend and me with other couples. Sorry to confuse you, i am not up with all the lingo but I hope this helps you understand.

Ahhh, I get it now!

Yes, you and your boyfriend getting together with other couples would definitely be swinging.

As for giving head to guys while your boyfriend watches and receives a tape from afar, I think that's sort of akin to what a lot of people call "hot-wifing". It's where the wife (or girlfriend, in your case) has interactions with other men that her own man enjoys watching, and/or hearing about after the fact.

These are just my thoughts, of course. Others may have other ways of defining these things. As long as everyone is having a good time, it's all good!

[jules11]

Originally Posted by Tybee Swing

Ahhh, I get it now!



As for giving head to guys while your boyfriend watches and receives a tape from afar, I think that's sort of akin to what a lot of people call "hot-wifing". It's where the wife (or girlfriend, in your case) has interactions with other men that her own man enjoys watching, and/or hearing about after the fact.

These are just my thoughts, of course. Others may have other ways of defining these things. As long as everyone is having a good time, it's all good!

I had never heard that terminology before, "hot-wifing" I have learned something, thanks. Although, I would never do anything without him being a part of it, he helps me pick the man out, by me reading profiles to him and sending him pictures, the man receiving also understands what is going on too. Thanks for your info. And we definately have fun.

[sweet_tna]

Originally Posted by jules11

I had never heard that terminology before, "hot-wifing" I have learned something, thanks. Although, I would never do anything without him being a part of it, he helps me pick the man out, by me reading profiles to him and sending him pictures, the man receiving also understands what is going on too. Thanks for your info. And we definately have fun.

Swinging or not (though I'd say it is), it sounds like ya'll are communicating openly and having fun. More power to you!

=)

[JW n Laci]

Hot-wifing, that's what we do. Always wondered what to call it. I like that

[Tia Vampire]

Not quite swingers yet, but we think that you guys have had a taste and would like more. Good luck in yalls search. If you guys have any questions or concerns, the board is a good place to ask questions and read up on others who may have been in your situation. Again, the best of luck.

[jules11]

Thank you, I'm sure we will have more quiestions, I haven't put a dent in reading everything yet. Very interesting forums I might add.