my first time (funny and embarrasing as well)

[billytk]

well my wife and i decided to try out swinging about a month or so back, we were talking about it and we decided that we was not going to "hook" up with just anyone, so we approached one of my friends and while he was in shock at our decision, he said that he would be willing to be the "crash test dummy" for the wife, as he is single that only filled half the equation, but he is a good friend to me and I am glad he said yes, i know i can trust him with my wife and i know i can trust her.

to fill the other half of the equation would take about two weeks, while looking back i see that things could have happened sooner, but i had no idea at the time of that, one of my wifes friends, who just happens to be married, was talking to her and my wife mentioned that we were intrested in this, thats when the wife found out that her friend and her hubby were swingers, man, we honestly had no idea, but moving on, with that relation ship there was one rule, he wants to watch. well, to be honest her friend is a hottie, so i readily said yes.

for about the next week i talked with both of them about what is and what is not allowed, which proved to be usless as i forgot as soon as they got here to my place, but they were patient with me knowing this was the first time i had been with anyone except my wife for over 10 years.

once they finally got me to loosen up a bit we really started having fun, ny wife and her friend were both on me like nobodys business, and that was awsome! but then the time came that my wife said that she was going to back off and just watch the two of us have fun, and that was when i remembered about her husband there in my recliner watching us! now i am not usually a shy person, i am the one who usually embarasses people all the time, but I am also the one who flunked gym class in high school because i would not get undressed in front of other guys, now here i am, buck naked with his wife and she is, well, lets just say it was a hell of a lot of fun till then.

needless to say i got stage fright at that point, and, all i am gonna say is i wished i had some scotch tape and a pop cycle stick right then, but they were very understanding, and we played for what seemed to be an hour or so, belive me, it was not the lack of trying that things did not happen the way i wished they would.

but after all was said and done, i went outside to smoke and her hubby walked out with me, he explained that it was no big deal and the fact that i was shy was part of what had prompted their next decision, also the fact that i have not had a diffrent partner as they also do not want something they can not wash off, but he told me that she really did have fun, and as much as she wanted things to go all the way, she thought it was cute what happened. and they, like me, do not want a diffrent partner every week. so they ask me if i would be willing to try again, of course i said yes, and we all got a good laugh from what had happened.

has this ever happened to anyone else, or am i the only shy nerd out here who gets all choked up on the first time?

and if anyone else was choked up the first time someone watched, what did you do to get over that part of it and enjoy the swing?

[essteecee]

Any man over , say, 25 who says he has never experienced the "Broken Arrow Syndrome" will probably also lie about really important things. You bet its happened to me. Fortunately, most women are used to working with a not-always-reliable device, and are pretty understanding.

Essteecee

[prettylady]

Not that I am an expert in the field of erection issues, from what I gather from reading other posts by the good people around here. You are likely going to have a harder time finding someone who has never had this happen to them, then you are someone who it has happened to.
It seems to be fairly common with new swingers or even experienced swingers with new partners. It's life my friend, I am glad you handled it so well
Good luck with your next play date.
Your friend,
Prettylady

[sereneiders]

Well, it happens, moreover the first time... probabily the second... less probaily the third time, and so. You know, both heads are connected, and while you feel unconfortable and/or not so confident (after all, you're facing an "experienced" woman), this is likely to happen. Even more if you're not used to wear condoms.

I'd ask my doctor for a pill recipe (viagra, cialis, ask your doctor). This doesn't means you actually NEEDS it, nor that you will need them forever, but it would help you by means of "disconnecting" both heads if they attempt to give you some hard time. Once you're done, see your partner reactions and feels everithing went fine, it's very likely that this won't bother you anymore.

I know of guys (including myself) who brings a pill with them to the party. You may not even need it, but just by knowing it is right there to help you at any time you want is often enough to make you forget about erection issues... and most of the times, this is the only thing the soldier needs in order to behave.

[prettylady]

Originally Posted by sereneiders

but it would help you by means of "disconnecting" both heads if they attempt to give you some hard time..

I think my dear friend, he would really like it if his head gave him a hard time.

Originally Posted by sereneiders

and most of the times, this is the only thing the soldier needs in order to behave.

And we like our good little soldiers to stand at attention when we inspect them.

Your friend,
Prettylady

[WildMiCouple]

Originally Posted by prettyl

And we like our good little soldiers to stand at attention when we inspect them.

Where's that inspection line start

Brett

[prettylady]

Somewhere in Tennessee.
I expect a spit polish shine on your soliders helmet.

Your friend,
Prettylady

[WildMiCouple]

Originally Posted by prettylady

I expect a spit polish shine on your soliders helmet.

So do I

Brett

[meandher2go]

its happened to me and its not fun. but me didn't make a big deal about it and pushed thru it for the night. Luckily the F part of the couple was understanding about it and also didn't make a big deal of it. Me got over it the next time and hasn't looked back since. Go slow, try not to think too much about it and relax.

here's a great idea::

I know of guys (including myself) who brings a pill with them to the party. You may not even need it, but just by knowing it is right there to help you at any time you want is often enough to make you forget about erection issues... and most of the times, this is the only thing the soldier needs in order to behave.