Officially a swinger! :D

[Concupiscence]

We just got back from our weekend at the Swing Camp and damn I am so overloaded with impressions and thoughts and excitement that I don't even know how to describe it all. There were good parts and weird parts and uncomfortable parts but in the end we found an AWESOME couple who was perfect for us! Funny thing is that they caught my eye almost immediately (they got there a day later than us) and we made an effort to meet and say hello. She is Bi and he was all kinds of adorable so I was able to get some seriously wonderful heavy petting. They were both so kind and loving to each other and considerate and passionate with us. I definitely surprised myself once I was able to allow my inhibitions to dissolve. ROFL my hubby had a chub the ENTIRE 6 hour trip home as we did our "after action review" and just kept telling me how amazing I was and how happy he was. I feel as though I am on the prowl now! It will be difficult to not look at everyone as a potential, dang is this normal?

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by Concupiscence

dang is this normal?

Yep, we could'nt stop talking about it for a week after our first time.

[intuition897]

Originally Posted by Concupiscence

ROFL my hubby had a chub the ENTIRE 6 hour trip home as we did our "after action review" and just kept telling me how amazing I was and how happy he was. I feel as though I am on the prowl now! It will be difficult to not look at everyone as a potential, dang is this normal?

OMG, I remember our first "success" too! Normal? No, it's not normal, because "normal" means the "most common". And you'll find that when you're now out and about in Vanilla Land, this kind of bliss is certainly NOT the norm. Question is, do you care whether or not it's "normal"? I sure don't. If this is deviancy, then sign me up for the loony bin! I just get to shake my head sadly at people when they wag their fingers at me, knowing they don't have a clue what they're talking about, because they've never experienced it.

Congrats, 'Cupie!

[blinkey]

Originally Posted by Concupiscence

We just got back from our weekend at the Swing Camp

For the unenlightened, what is swing camp? For some reason I'm doubting you're talking about this: http://www.swingcamp.com/

Thanks!

B.

[Concupiscence]

Oh hell no I don't want to go back to Vanilla Land but I wondered if the feeling of "being on the prowl" was normal or just a new swinger feeling. Do you still have that feeling or is it a temporary thing that cools as you increase the number of experiences you have?

FYI the new avatar was from the "pimps and ho's" theme night. It was a total hoot and if anyone would have told me 5 years ago that I would be dressing up as a 'ho' I would have laughed in their face. I just wish I could tell people about our weekend and share my observations. I suppose that is one nice thing about making friends with the people that you swing with, you can go to them and talk to them about it all.

I was definitely fresh meat and the campout itself was also a nudist camp. I had no problem with hanging out with naked people but it did get a bit annoying when a few people nagged me to shed my clothes. I decided that I am only a nudist in certain situations and don't wish to be so in general. I also didn't care for the general pawing that occurred amongst the regulars. Everyone kept grabbing each others tits and dicks and sucking on them. There were only a few attempts in my direction and I conveyed my distaste for it as politely and clearly as I could. There was a LOT of alcohol and quite a large number of drunk people which I also stayed away from but otherwise people were polite and nice. This really has been a learning experience as well as loads of fun.

[Concupiscence]

Originally Posted by blinkey

For the unenlightened, what is swing camp? For some reason I'm doubting you're talking about this: http://www.swingcamp.com/

Thanks!

B.

LOL nope. It was a Swinger Festival that took place at a camp ground/on-premise club that caters to swingers and alternate lifestyle groups.

[intuition897]

Originally Posted by Concupiscence

Oh hell no I don't want to go back to Vanilla Land but I wondered if the feeling of "being on the prowl" was normal or just a new swinger feeling. Do you still have that feeling or is it a temporary thing that cools as you increase the number of experiences you have?

Kinda makes you feel like the whole world is your candy store, don't it? Nah, I think that "on the prowl" feeling is pretty normal. It doesn't meant you're going to actually DO anything about it; it just means that you are delightfully aware of your sexual surroundings. I think it eventually becomes much more controlled once you get used to it, but you guys are kinda in that "honeymoon" phase where you just want to hump each other's brains out. We've been around the lifestyle for a few years now and, although we don't have a great number of experiences under our belts, we're pretty confident in saying that we've got a pretty good handle on it. On-the-prowl mode is at a pretty low level. On the back burner. But I definitely know it's still there. I work at a university, so although I wouldn't actually do anything about it, I notice that the "Cougar" in me wants to extend her claws playfully at some of the little hotties that wander through my office. <EG> *sigh* wouldn't life be interesting if there was no need for the "Don't shit where you eat" rule?

[Concupiscence]

I've never posted here before - always read - adding my two cents about the swinger’s campout.

The campout was a great experience! The swinger’s campout was a swing club in campground with multiple open bedrooms in the clubhouse. Some bedrooms were larger with lots of beds bumped up next to each other, some bedrooms with little curtains with a little more privacy than other, various toys and hardware. There was an extra large hot tub, bar, and dance area in the club house. Also a small swimming pool and pond added to the atmosphere. For sleeping accommodations people stayed in their tents or RVs. It was a campout; just a little different.

Everyone there was great. Some were regulars and many were new. I appreciated most of them and was disenchanted with a few but that’s life anywhere. Some people stayed mostly dressed but most people only put on clothes for the evening theme dances - my tan is more uniform now. In addition to the theme dances there were other activities. Daily nude volley ball with people that came out and dusted you off with feathers when you crashed in the sand. Pot luck dinners were mostly good and many other activities. It was not a boring time.

I was amazed by the number of older couples that were there. I mean people in their 70s out there playing hard all night – really. Then in the morning they would be out their wearing their Shopping Mall walking outfits and shoes doing laps around the campground have their passing conversations, “I’m on lap three. How about you?”… “Lap four.”… It reassured me that I’m going to be having fun for a long time.

I admit being a over zealous in trying to get my wife to execute in having fun and that very bad of me (very bad in a bad way, not good) but when she made up her own mind and saw a couple she liked, the concrete wall around her came down. I couldn’t possibly be happier.

I’ve decided that “vanilla land” is the not the “real life” but rather the façade that we are all subjected to live in on a daily basis.

Mr. Concupiscence

[LOL_OMG]

Yay, I'm so glad you both enjoyed it!

[NakedInSeattle]

Similar thing here. We talked and talked and described what the other partner did and how it felt and were on a sexual HIGH for days. Congrats to you two.

[AZ Dreaming]

Originally Posted by Concupiscence

I feel as though I am on the prowl now! It will be difficult to not look at everyone as a potential, dang is this normal?

I loved this line!!! I think this is totally "normal".

For me it was all about being free to be my sexual self that I had been holding back from for years because I was a "good" girl. Let me tell you I am NOT a good girl!

[Concupiscence]

Originally Posted by AZ Dreaming

Let me tell you I am NOT a good girl!

Neither am I, despite my mother's eternally misguided efforts. I can't wait to turn all my perverted little fantasies into a reality. I also learned a lot about what things that I do NOT find arousing.

Intuition lamented not being able to sample the hotties where she works and I totally feel her pain on that one. I met a professor where I go to school, who also happens to be teaching a class that I need to take in the future. Desperately trying to figure out how I can ethically have my way with him and still take the class.

[seattlecpl06]

Originally Posted by intuition897

Kinda makes you feel like the whole world is your candy store, don't it? Nah, I think that "on the prowl" feeling is pretty normal. It doesn't meant you're going to actually DO anything about it; it just means that you are delightfully aware of your sexual surroundings. I think it eventually becomes much more controlled once you get used to it, but you guys are kinda in that "honeymoon" phase where you just want to hump each other's brains out. We've been around the lifestyle for a few years now and, although we don't have a great number of experiences under our belts, we're pretty confident in saying that we've got a pretty good handle on it. On-the-prowl mode is at a pretty low level. On the back burner. But I definitely know it's still there. I work at a university, so although I wouldn't actually do anything about it, I notice that the "Cougar" in me wants to extend her claws playfully at some of the little hotties that wander through my office. <EG> *sigh* wouldn't life be interesting if there was no need for the "Don't shit where you eat" rule?

THANK YOU DEAR GOD IN HEAVEN.

Heh... I have missed this "on the prowl" feeling SO MUCH. It is probably one of the things I've missed most about being monogamous and one of the biggest temptations to cheat (but I haven't cheated, yay me!)

So when my girlfriend suggested that we spice things up by swapping, I realized that maybe... just maybe... I could really honestly have this "on the prowl" feeling WITHOUT hurting and betraying the one I love.

We still haven't swung yet, but just knowing that this is part of the deal, and maybe even normal (whatever "normal" is for us deviants) -- is just amazing and heartwarming and exciting.

I can't wait!

[Amanda69]

It is a wonderful feeling and it opens up so much potential fun with others...gotta love it.

[Mike and Jan]

Hey! I've always looked at every new acquaintence as a potential. Makes you enjoy them that much more!