We just had our first experience

[Coupling93]

It was great!

We knew it was going to happen, our couple friend, whom we've known for 10+ years recently let us know that they had tried it and loved it. We then let them know that we had tried with another couple once but it just didn't get past the talking part. After a few sexy emails we made a 'date' at our house for drinks without our kids.

We've spent the last three days since it happened as horny as ever. We didn't do too much seperate, we gave each others spouses blow jobs and her hubby finished with me but then we swapped back and my hubby finished with me. We then had some great sex with our respective spouses, with nothing more then a little more titty touching.

My hubby was the one who was the least sure of this decision, he was very nervous. Since Friday, he's been extremely pleased. He can't wait to do it again. I feel the same but at the same time have been plagued with a little guilt. Not sure if it's really guilt or just questioning the leap we made.

I'm 100% sure of my relationship with my husband and I know our friends are just as comfortable in their relationship. I just feel like I did something wrong by touching a friends spouse. Strangely I feel that way about being with her husband (just a BJ so far) but am totally okay with her being with my husband. Our lives our pretty busy but she & I are going to talk tomorrow afternoon when well have a few minutes when the kids & spouses aren't around. I just want to make sure she is fine. We've been friends for so long and I would never look at her husband if this wasn't something that we were both comfortable with, which she sure seemed to be Friday night but in the end, our friendship is more important then sex.

We're going out Saturday night to dinner. We've both mentioned repeat performances.

Another added benefit from our experience is after being together with my husband for 13 years, I guess I took him for granted because I've fallen in love with him all over again. Just him walking into the room has made my heart go pitter patter again. It's been great to be so touchy and loving

[Pinmonkey]

That's great that you had such a wonderful experiance. The only problem with being with friends is that there is a potentional for the friendship to crumble. It doesn't seem like that will happen for all of you, though. Please come back to the board and let us know how things progress, and thanks for sharing your story.

[Drewcifer69]

We are glad it has worked so far. Good for you! As far as the guilt feelings, it seems the slower you take it the easier it gets. You are doing the smart thing by going slow. Especially with friends. As long as you keep your own feelings in check and not confuse love with sex you should be fine.

You mentioned they had done it before. How did the topic come up between you and them? Did they approach the subject or did you? It would be interesting to know. A lot of couples might have similar questions.

My wife and I started slow with exploring her bisexual side and then bringing me into threesome situations that she initiated. We started our swinging with a couple we met online. That has worked out really well. We often wonder what it would be like to swap with friends that we know who are not swingers. We think it would be fun to bring up the topic to see their reactions. But ultimately we would rather not risk the friendship. So they remain fantasies. In your case, how did the the ball get rolling and what led up to the whole experience? Have you posted it the story section? If you don't mind us asking.

[Coupling93]

Originally Posted by Drewcifer69

My wife and I started slow with exploring her bisexual side and then bringing me into threesome situations that she initiated. We started our swinging with a couple we met online. That has worked out really well. We often wonder what it would be like to swap with friends that we know who are not swingers. We think it would be fun to bring up the topic to see their reactions. But ultimately we would rather not risk the friendship. So they remain fantasies. In your case, how did the the ball get rolling and what led up to the whole experience? Have you posted it the story section? If you don't mind us asking.

This was my first post as I had just found this website when researching my feelings post-swap. The friend & I had always had an open discussion in all these years we've known each other, we would always comment when we had good sex with our husbands. We were discussing a recent trip to Las Vegas and how faithful my husband was -- joking about the ranches in Vegas. She mentioned that her hubby would love to do something at one of them and I joked that I had offered it to my husband to be with a prostitute and he turned it down, telling her that he said if we were ever going to swap it would have to be fun for all and not paid for sex. Well, after that, the discussion just kept going, a little each time we talked. We didn't give too much details at once, just to see if anything we said would shock the next person. After about 3 weeks, we seemed to have shared enough information to realize it was an option and well, we just joked that she could blow my hubby and viceversa.... and thus we set a date. I guess, even though we never said we'd serious DO IT, she showed up with condoms and beer and I had bought my own supply to..... so the guys were very pleased.

They have done swapped with one other couple and she said that her husband wasn't into the other couple's wife so they weren't really keeping up with that couple.

It's interesting because I love her like a sister, she's the only woman I've ever felt comfortable with telling all my "secrets" and her husband is a nice guy. Our husbands have known each other since high school so I thought it would be strange for them, but they were pretty cool about the whole thing.

How do most sexual events actually start up? I know we tried with another couple once, we found them on www.adultfriendfinder.com but just wasn't meant to be between us.

[sir_dragonfire]

It sure sounds like it's fine & I doubt if your marriage falls apart. Remember #1 You & hubby sleep together #2 keep it honest #3 keep comunicating with Your hubby &#4 do not compare how swing partner compares to your spouse, it will lead to disaster!

[DBL D]

Sounds like you have the basis for a long satisfying relationship with them. Just don't push anything and always move at the speed of the slowest person.

I'm sure on the one hand it is terribly exciting for you and it's also so new, but on the other you are worried about the right things: The friendship is most important to have continue on. You can always direct your newfound desires towards others.

Male D

[rounder]

Interesting account of your first experience. Just curious...are you & the wife attracted to each other (sexually)? Sorry...probably putting the cart before the horse here but just wondered if the issue had come up with either your husband or with your friend (I would guess it hasn't from the tone of your post). Didn't know if you had any desire to try the bi-thing with your friend(s). Again, apologies...just got caught up with your story.