We did it!!!! However...

[Atilla]

K, first of all I must clarify something. It is us, who is the inexperienced couple and believe me we are adults. The couple we have met is the experienced couple and they are the same age as us and are both adults as well. It was them that had the issue, not us. We have acted as adults and have apologized for my hubby's mistake, it will not happen again.

Secondly, how do you get experienced if no one will play with you because you are a novice. I mean, we all have to start somewhere don't we and you did too, Soflafun. Am I not correct? We all learn from our mistakes and how can you not learn if you don't make mistakes to begin with. We've learned our lesson here.

As I said before, he's cool with everything and we will be meeting again. I'm personally taking this as a character building experience and a situation in which we've all gotton to know each other a little bit better.

[northindycpl]

Originally Posted by Atilla

I'm personally taking this as a character building experience and a situation in which we've all gotton to know each other a little bit better.

Everyone has to learn by example, most of the time. We have all learned from mistakes.

it is good that you have found an understanding experienced couple to share your thoughts, and time with. Most don't have that opportunity. Good Luck!

[Atilla]

I, too, consider ourselves fortunate.

[vegascouple250]

We love the lifestyle but there's no excuse for not wearing a condom - if it's a clearly understood rule. It shows disrespect for everyone involved.

It's so hard to find a great couple. When you do, respecting the rules is mandatory.

[curiousRI]

Originally Posted by Miss_Piggy

(curiousRI, you can find more information on using condoms for oral in this thread.)

thank you Miss Piggy!

[ninanadam]

I am no expert on swinging, or even very knowledgable for that matter. I do however know human nature. Your husband is taking way too much grief over this for the information at hand. Did she invite him in one way or another, or did he take the initiative too quickly for her to understand and ask him to stop before penetrating. If it's all him, shame on him. Learn and move on. If it wasn't all him, share the blame. Still, move on. I agree with one of the earlier posts, what you're describing sounds way too much like work.

[Bella&Cooper]

Atilla, your experience sounds almost identical to ours. With a few minor changes, we basically had our very first real life encounter with a couple last Saturday night. Things got pretty heated and intense, and boundaries were ultimately crossed (her hubby, my hubby and myself all being the ones doing the crossing over his wife's boundaries) and it looks now that we've lost a pretty decent friendship out of the deal too.

I think swinging is definitely an exciting lifestyle, but not for the faint of heart, which I wonder if maybe I am, since for the past 6 days I've been in absolute misery, not being able to talk to my friends. She has asked for some space and time to figure things out, but I know things won't ever be the same again.

I hate to say it, but I'm glad I'm not the only one going through this right now. We should talk, lol.

[knightmare]

Originally Posted by northindycpl

I think it is worse because it was a man breaking the womans rule and not the woman breaking the mans.

Sorry, but why is the woman's rule more important than the man's? In fact, is there even any such thing? I would think it is couple A's rules plus couple B's rules that make the rules for the encounter.

Seems to me that nobody's rule should be any more or less important than anybody else's rule and assigning importance by gender is just plain sexist.