Wife's First Bi-Experience Soon! Share Feelings, Nerves & Excitement About Your 1st!

[clecouple]

This has probably been covered before somewhere on this website, but I would like to help my wife with her nerves and excitement about her first bi-exoerience. I know I read somewhere, about how women were afraid to try and didnt't feel that it was right. But, after going through with it, most women thought it was a wonderful, soft, sexy experience!

I just would like to hear some thoughts about how your first bi-experience came about (suggestion from husband? early college days?). Your thoughts leading up to it, and when it happened, did you enjoy it? DO you enjoy licking another woman or to be licked? Toys maybe?

What should us guys (husbands) do when we see our wives "going at it". Should we "be there for moral support", help out with toys? Or just let the women experience each other?

Any advice for my wife and I would be greatly appreciated!

[HotMoCpl]

If it were my wife, I'd be sitting there with a stupid smile on my face and the biggest woody I'v ever had. Hell, just let them go until asked to join.

Cheers. <EG>

[somethingnew332]

I am curious to know also. For I am the woman of a couple getting ready for this also..lol. I was with a woman 1 time several years ago...a good friend...I was very drunk..lol. So needless to say i wasn't nervous then, but I don't plan on being drunk this time.

[SnozzberryBlu]

I have always been bi... so my first experience was at around age 13. It happened at a sleepover, and I was both full of butterflies and totally turned on.

I have not talked to women who tried this as a curiousity thing -- my experiences have been with bi women who have "always" been bi. But I do have some suggestions that might help, especially with someone who is very nervous. Of course this all assumes both women find each other attractive, like the other's personality and are comfortable with them, etc.

1. Let the women play alone (or somewhat alone) the first time or two... I would think it far easier for them to connect, explore, etc if the focus was totally on what they were doing. Nothing to me is more nerve wracking than trying something for the first time (such as performing oral) with an audience.... especially an audience already very experienced in that area. Course, your wife may want your support, or love for you to watch.. everyone is different.

2. The more experienced woman should take the lead... of course! But, perhaps hold back on oral, toys, etc. Let the first experience be with kissing, holding, caressing, and with fingers used for stimulation... with no pressure to perform oral. I would think for someone who has no deep desire/need to perform oral on the same sex person (ie someone not truly bi, but just curious) that this is something that needs to be worked up to a little. Perhaps tasting her fingers would be a good first step, or kissing all over for a good warm up. Toys are good, but it can detract from the soft sensualness between women... which is what I believe a new woman needs to fall in love with (the sensuousness) in order to happily persue this avenue. Course they can be a ton of fun later!

Again, everyone is different, and these are just suggestions. But if you, or your wife, truly wishes this to become a part of your playtime then a soft introduction is probably the best option to ensure that she enjoys the experience fully and will want to come back for more.

Final note.. on eeeek .. hygeine.. ok we know all women can um get a little funky at times (me included).. but some women, regardless of what they do remain funky 24/7. I would also suggest this be a woman you (husband) has been with a few times, so that you know she has a pleasant unfunkiness about her. Nothing will kill your wife's desire to venture into this quicker than another woman with a funk that could clear a room! Even at their best, there is still something there at times.. perhaps starting in a hot tub, or a bath/shower would also get things going on a sweet smelling note

[Vespertine]

When I had my first Bi experience, I was a little nervous and unsure what to do, or if I would really enjoy doing whatever it was we were going to do!

What helped me get over my initial fears, was to explore the woman with my husband. I had no problem kissing her, it turned me on, but to take things further, it was not only a major turn-on, but more reassuring to do it along with my husband.

When I touched her pussy for the first time, my husband's hands were over mine, guiding them. When my tongue explored her body, my husband's followed. We tasted her and then our tongues would meet.... you get the idea.

My first bi-experience was during a FMF, but I would think that you could take this approach with a couple too.

Whatever way you do it... Have fun!

[LikeMinds321]

Snozz and Ves gave great suggestions.

I only recently became interested in exploring sex with a woman since we began swinging. I'm not turned on by women like I am by men, but I think this may be because I haven't had an experience with a full bi-sexual female.

We have played with two couples, both woman were open to playing with me, and me with them. It was fun because we knew--ahead of time, and this is important--that neither of us was experienced in FF activity. But we were open to it and very curious. That mutual curiosity, along with getting along well and finding each other attractive, made for a wonderful introduction to soft play between us.

We were always in front of our men, and did what we did FOR our men; we wanted to turn them on as well as ourselves. It worked and was great. facelick

It is so different being with a woman. I love it. I look forward to more sex with women. The soft, senuousness of a woman brings something different out in me.

My advice: Your wife should only do what she is comfortable with, with a woman she really likes. Let the women decide. Make sure she communicates to the other woman what she will and won't do.

LM