Our 1st MMF

shycouple89801 · 12-13-2004, 02:29 AM

Well last Wednesday night we met with "our Guy" and had our first MFM. It was great and mostly due to us being so selective in "our Guy" We've chatted and spoke over the phone since June and he was very patient. My wife and I are still talking about it and how we both feel..............everything we've been saying is very positive and I have a new respect for my very sexual and sensual wife. Shes the most sexy woman I've ever met and we had mind blowing sex after our guy left us last night.
Any advice on what to do or talk about now, we are still very new to the game.
Shycouple

Denver2some · 12-13-2004, 04:12 PM

Congrats, shycouple,

Sounds like a fun time was had by all!

You say you have been spending time talking about the experience and your feelings, and they've all been positive. That's excellent!

We'd encourage you to continue spending time talking about your first experience, particularly when you're outside the bedroom. Exploring your feeling fully can give you pointers about what your next steps are.

Talk about what, specifically, you liked about the evening. What turned you on the most? (You may be surprised by your answer, or your spouse's.)

If at some point some negative feelings do surface, be sure to discuss them thoroughly too. What would you want to try differently? Were there any awkward moments that might have been made "smoother" with a code phrase to communcate better? Did you encounter anything that made one of you uncomfortable: if so, do you need to establish a boundary or "rule" in that area?

dave110256 · 12-13-2004, 04:30 PM

Congratulations...it's our turn now.

RMRx2 · 12-13-2004, 04:44 PM

You may have read about the situation here before. Sometimes in the excitement of the first expierence, one or the other may feel that this is what thier sex life will now be all about. New toy syndrome. It's hard to control the enthusiasim some times.

Congratulations on your first. Keep it in prospective. Talk alot. Make some time for just together sex where the focus is just the two of you. Both of you may find alot of benefit from some reinforcing that "your" sex life is not being altered or replace,,,,,,just enhanced.

Some folks have reported either jealousy or the wife feeling guilty in the light of day no matter how much she enjoyed it. Reinforce for her that YOU were there too, and you enjoyed it also.

My guess, you heed the advice here, talk alot about how you both feel, keep it in prospective and you will be enjoying many other successful encounters in the future.

the rmrx2's

Denver2some · 12-13-2004, 04:59 PM

RMRx2 makes an excellent point. New toy syndrome can be deadly to new swingers! Playtime and fantasy-talk-time should always take a back seat to your relationship and your intimate time together.

Swinging is a dessert. Your loving relationship is the whole four-course meal.

shycouple89801 · 12-14-2004, 03:26 PM

Wow,
Very great info, tkanks to all of you..............We are still talking it through and have really enjoyed how much it has enhanced "our one on one" sex life. We are talking about what we'd like to do next tim as well as going out on a "date" with just the two of us next Sat. We both feel like teens who are head over heels in love and lust with each other soooo much. This board has been a life saver, THANKS

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Originally Posted by Denver2some

RMRx2 makes an excellent point. New toy syndrome can be deadly to new swingers! Playtime and fantasy-talk-time should always take a back seat to your relationship and your intimate time together.

Swinging is a dessert. Your loving relationship is the whole four-course meal.

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12-13-2004, 02:29 AM	#1 (permalink)
shycouple89801 Here to Stay Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 10 Location: Elko Area, NV Swing Lifestyle Name:Coolnsexything	Our 1st MMF Well last Wednesday night we met with "our Guy" and had our first MFM. It was great and mostly due to us being so selective in "our Guy" We've chatted and spoke over the phone since June and he was very patient. My wife and I are still talking about it and how we both feel..............everything we've been saying is very positive and I have a new respect for my very sexual and sensual wife. Shes the most sexy woman I've ever met and we had mind blowing sex after our guy left us last night. Any advice on what to do or talk about now, we are still very new to the game. Shycouple

12-13-2004, 04:12 PM	#2 (permalink)
Denver2some Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 261 Location: Denver, CO	Re: Our 1st MMF Congrats, shycouple, Sounds like a fun time was had by all! You say you have been spending time talking about the experience and your feelings, and they've all been positive. That's excellent! We'd encourage you to continue spending time talking about your first experience, particularly when you're outside the bedroom. Exploring your feeling fully can give you pointers about what your next steps are. Talk about what, specifically, you liked about the evening. What turned you on the most? (You may be surprised by your answer, or your spouse's.) If at some point some negative feelings do surface, be sure to discuss them thoroughly too. What would you want to try differently? Were there any awkward moments that might have been made "smoother" with a code phrase to communcate better? Did you encounter anything that made one of you uncomfortable: if so, do you need to establish a boundary or "rule" in that area?

12-13-2004, 04:30 PM	#3 (permalink)
dave110256 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 308 Location: Maine Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:dave110256	Re: Our 1st MMF Congratulations...it's our turn now.

12-13-2004, 04:44 PM	#4 (permalink)
RMRx2 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 277 Location: Texas Status: Couple	Re: Our 1st MMF You may have read about the situation here before. Sometimes in the excitement of the first expierence, one or the other may feel that this is what thier sex life will now be all about. New toy syndrome. It's hard to control the enthusiasim some times. Congratulations on your first. Keep it in prospective. Talk alot. Make some time for just together sex where the focus is just the two of you. Both of you may find alot of benefit from some reinforcing that "your" sex life is not being altered or replace,,,,,,just enhanced. Some folks have reported either jealousy or the wife feeling guilty in the light of day no matter how much she enjoyed it. Reinforce for her that YOU were there too, and you enjoyed it also. My guess, you heed the advice here, talk alot about how you both feel, keep it in prospective and you will be enjoying many other successful encounters in the future. the rmrx2's
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12-13-2004, 04:59 PM	#5 (permalink)
Denver2some Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 261 Location: Denver, CO	Re: Our 1st MMF RMRx2 makes an excellent point. New toy syndrome can be deadly to new swingers! Playtime and fantasy-talk-time should always take a back seat to your relationship and your intimate time together. Swinging is a dessert. Your loving relationship is the whole four-course meal.

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