It finally happened! First MFM

luvingcple · 12-06-2004, 12:32 PM

After having a fmf five years ago and discussing a mfm for some time and having a possible scenario become a problem before it started. We finally had our first mfm this weekend. It happened with a friend of my husbands who had "shared" girls in the past. (Not wives mind you.) Well, I was a bit nervous but enjoyed myself. I was not able to totally relax and not sure if we will ever repeat...I kinda felt that my hubby was left out at times and I did everything I could to keep him involved. I wanted him to enjoy it too. Well, one of the benefits is that hubby and I had an amazing time after the friend left the room. In fact we woke up about 4 am and had more sex. Then again the next afternoon. That I think was the best part of the whole thing. It strengthened our bond. That being said. I am not sure if we will do it again as hubby wasn't really into it like I'd like. Should we look at couples so that we could both enjoy or should we just leave it alone. I'd love to hear your opinions. You all have such great insight here and are very helpful!

Pinmonkey · 12-06-2004, 12:52 PM

Wow! That's great. I'm glad you enjoyed yourself. If you aren't sure how the hubby feels about the situation, and if he had a good time then you should definately talk to him about it. After our first couples swap we weren't sure if we would do it again either, but now we are both hoping our "friends" come over sometime soon.

northindycpl · 12-06-2004, 01:26 PM

I think finding a couple is much better, personally. A MMF is a lot of work for the F sometimes. I also feel like Mr. Indy is sometimes left out, or the other guy and then I am not a gracious host!

With couples, everyone has atleast one playmate, and the women don't have to work as hard at pleasing everyone, and can enjoy being pleased.

dave110256 · 12-06-2004, 03:45 PM

That was great..............my wife and I are getting closer to having our first MFM, just need the right guy and timing is everything.

***JustAskJulie*** · 12-06-2004, 10:26 PM

I think the hardest part of being the female in a situation like that is that you end up feeling like it is your job to please everyone. SHouldn't it be THEIR job to please you with you as the center of attention? Why does it never seem to work out that way?

SexhoundDog · 12-07-2004, 02:47 PM

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Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

I think the hardest part of being the female in a situation like that is that you end up feeling like it is your job to please everyone. SHouldn't it be THEIR job to please you with you as the center of attention? Why does it never seem to work out that way?

Boy, I know if my wife ever wants to do MFM, there ain't no doubt the primary focus will be her attention and pleasure! Seeing her in the throes of ecstasy will ensure that I get intense pleasure later, as if watching her giving her best head to a guy she thinks is hot wouldn't do the trick right now!

luvingcple · 12-08-2004, 02:43 PM

Julie you hit it on the head. But I think that is somewhat of a male thing (not to insult anyone) but I think that typically men are wired to get off and not necessarily looking to get us off. Otherwise women would never complain that men are not romantic or into foreplay. My hubby is very good in that dept usually. And to be honest the "play partner" just didn't know what buttons to push. I was not able to orgasim with him but it only took me a minute with my hubby. (Maybe stage fright.) I would love to be able to let two guys (Maybe more) just spend time pleasuring me. But that sounds selfish. But I still have fantasies. The more I think about it and that night, the more I want to pursue this lifestyle further. Hubby and I will be discussing this more in the future. We will guage his feelings as he is still a bit undecided. But not out of the question.

curiousagain · 12-08-2004, 03:36 PM

I thought in a MFM the object was maximum "pleasuring" of the F. I think y'all are playing with the wrong people or something here.

Luvingcple, if swinging is the double diamond slope of marriage then MFM or FMF is the double diamond slope on one ski. It's not for everybody, and some have problems with it afterward. Maybe you should try couples for awhile at least. As far as the play partner not knowing what buttons to push, speak up, tell him. He is there to pleasure you and if he can't understand that, then you need a new play partner.

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12-06-2004, 12:32 PM	#1 (permalink)
luvingcple Active Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 16 Location: tn Status: couple	It finally happened! First MFM After having a fmf five years ago and discussing a mfm for some time and having a possible scenario become a problem before it started. We finally had our first mfm this weekend. It happened with a friend of my husbands who had "shared" girls in the past. (Not wives mind you.) Well, I was a bit nervous but enjoyed myself. I was not able to totally relax and not sure if we will ever repeat...I kinda felt that my hubby was left out at times and I did everything I could to keep him involved. I wanted him to enjoy it too. Well, one of the benefits is that hubby and I had an amazing time after the friend left the room. In fact we woke up about 4 am and had more sex. Then again the next afternoon. That I think was the best part of the whole thing. It strengthened our bond. That being said. I am not sure if we will do it again as hubby wasn't really into it like I'd like. Should we look at couples so that we could both enjoy or should we just leave it alone. I'd love to hear your opinions. You all have such great insight here and are very helpful!

12-06-2004, 12:52 PM	#2 (permalink)
Pinmonkey Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2003 Posts: 650 Location: Buffalo, NY Status: M. Male	Re: It finally happened! Wow! That's great. I'm glad you enjoyed yourself. If you aren't sure how the hubby feels about the situation, and if he had a good time then you should definately talk to him about it. After our first couples swap we weren't sure if we would do it again either, but now we are both hoping our "friends" come over sometime soon.
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12-06-2004, 01:26 PM	#3 (permalink)
northindycpl Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 1,425 Location: Indiana Status: Blissfull SITCOM Swing Lifestyle Name:northindycpl	Re: It finally happened! I think finding a couple is much better, personally. A MMF is a lot of work for the F sometimes. I also feel like Mr. Indy is sometimes left out, or the other guy and then I am not a gracious host! With couples, everyone has atleast one playmate, and the women don't have to work as hard at pleasing everyone, and can enjoy being pleased.
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12-06-2004, 03:45 PM	#4 (permalink)
dave110256 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 308 Location: Maine Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:dave110256	Re: It finally happened! That was great..............my wife and I are getting closer to having our first MFM, just need the right guy and timing is everything.

12-06-2004, 10:26 PM	#5 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,294 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Re: It finally happened! I think the hardest part of being the female in a situation like that is that you end up feeling like it is your job to please everyone. SHouldn't it be THEIR job to please you with you as the center of attention? Why does it never seem to work out that way?

12-08-2004, 02:43 PM	#7 (permalink)
luvingcple Active Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 16 Location: tn Status: couple	Re: It finally happened! Julie you hit it on the head. But I think that is somewhat of a male thing (not to insult anyone) but I think that typically men are wired to get off and not necessarily looking to get us off. Otherwise women would never complain that men are not romantic or into foreplay. My hubby is very good in that dept usually. And to be honest the "play partner" just didn't know what buttons to push. I was not able to orgasim with him but it only took me a minute with my hubby. (Maybe stage fright.) I would love to be able to let two guys (Maybe more) just spend time pleasuring me. But that sounds selfish. But I still have fantasies. The more I think about it and that night, the more I want to pursue this lifestyle further. Hubby and I will be discussing this more in the future. We will guage his feelings as he is still a bit undecided. But not out of the question.

12-08-2004, 03:36 PM	#8 (permalink)
curiousagain A gentleman never tells Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 2,131 Location: Southeastern USA Status: half of a couple	Re: It finally happened! I thought in a MFM the object was maximum "pleasuring" of the F. I think y'all are playing with the wrong people or something here. Luvingcple, if swinging is the double diamond slope of marriage then MFM or FMF is the double diamond slope on one ski. It's not for everybody, and some have problems with it afterward. Maybe you should try couples for awhile at least. As far as the play partner not knowing what buttons to push, speak up, tell him. He is there to pleasure you and if he can't understand that, then you need a new play partner.
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