Had our first club visit!

DanBridget · 09-13-2004, 11:07 AM

Hello Everyone,

Well I am sure this is somewhere on the forum already. But I couldn't find, so I thought I would post this. We just got back from our first club experience in Northern Ky. And we both agree we have been missing out from the whole thing for too long. We met more people in one night at this not so large club then we have in 8 months tring to make dates via the internet.
We fought going for a while because both me and the Mrs are shy people. We normally don't open up in crowds. But we were made to feel welcomed and everyone was talking to us. We even met a couple last night, that had been there only 2 times before. And had a great night with them, and are planning on meeting out of the club soon.

I just thought I would post this for those new swingers or old that are shy like us. And didn't want to go to a club. Well go you will enjoy it. We thought we were doing something wrong when we couldn't find other couples to met. It just proves that it is the internet not US. The club we attended was the Pure Social Club in Newport Kentucky. I know that they have a few negative reviews, mostly becuase of some BBW men and women that attend the club. BUt being a little heavy ourselves thats what brought us there. I submited a review in a postive note. Maybe some of you more experienced couples and singles will chime in here. And continue with the topic of clubs nice places to go.

**good times** · 09-13-2004, 01:40 PM

I agree, the clubs are the way to go to meet new people. We have also tired the add sights and have had very little luck. At the clubs it is rare for us not to have a good time even if we don't hook up with anyone.

funcouple_gt · 09-13-2004, 03:51 PM

We went to our first club a few weeks ago, and we were both disappointed. After our arrival, where we were greated warmly and shown around, we were not spoken to all night. After this attempt, We are not to sure we want to try that again. It seems to me ( Tammy) that the people in the regular bars and clubs are alot more friendly. Everyone at the club we attended had their own little groups and even after a few looks, smiles and what not, nobody approached us. Maybe we were wrong for not approaching people, but with this being our first time, we were not sure what to expect.

I have to say that my one and only experience with the club let me not wanting to attend another.

***JustAskJulie*** · 09-13-2004, 05:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by funcouple_gt

We went to our first club a few weeks ago, and we were both disappointed. After our arrival, where we were greated warmly and shown around, we were not spoken to all night. After this attempt, We are not to sure we want to try that again. It seems to me ( Tammy) that the people in the regular bars and clubs are alot more friendly. Everyone at the club we attended had their own little groups and even after a few looks, smiles and what not, nobody approached us. Maybe we were wrong for not approaching people, but with this being our first time, we were not sure what to expect.

I have to say that my one and only experience with the club let me not wanting to attend another.

Don't judge all clubs based on that one experience. There are clubs out there that are very clickish and some that are not. Sometimes you get lucky as Dan & Bridget did and find that the first one you visit is great, and other times you have to visit one or two to find the club that is right for you. That might be harder if you are in an area where there is only one club (or if you are having to travel to get to clubs in general). If there are other clubs you can visit tho, I would definately suggest doing so.

**good times** · 09-13-2004, 05:50 PM

Hi Tammy,

I agree with Julie that some clubs just aren't much fun, it seems rare but we have been to at least one club twice that just didn't seem very friendly.

On the other hand, it isn't unusual for a couple to go to a club and feel that people are a little cliquish, I think a lot of this has to do with the fact that a lot of people keep their swinging life and vanilla life completely seperate. So the only time they ever see their swinging friends is on the nights they go to the club, naturally they will spend time with the people they know when they first get there to catch up. You will also find that it varies from night to night at any given club. Some nights at the club we go to we get a large quanity of couples that just aren't very sociable, they will sit in the corner and not talk to anybody. and on nights like that the whole mood of the club comes down. We have had nights were we just sat at the bar and visited with one or two couples all night and I'd bet more than one first timer visiting on those nights tells their friends how cliquish we were even though they could have came up to us and introduced themselves at any time. Other nights you will get some people that are real outgoing and this seems to raise the mood of the whole place and pretty soon everyone is introducing themselves. So the best pollicy is to not be shy and introduce yourself around because in the end the only one responsible for your good time is yourself. As a general rule we have always found that the people in swingers clubs are much more friendly to strangers than the people at regular bars. I think the reason for this is most couples go to the swingers club to hook up with other couples where at a regular club people are often there just to spend time with the people they came with. Another thing you will find is often times on your first visit to a club you are a little nervous, That often makes new people seem unaproachable to others.

I would recomend you give it another try before giving up on it as I haven't found any comparable venue for meeting like minded people.

DanBridget · 09-13-2004, 06:08 PM

Well I will say it depends on your approach too. Like I said we are shy people. But we figured that if we want to meet more swinger we need to get out of the corner. I spent must of the night palying pool with I believe on of the owners and several other. The coupe we ended up talk with the most, still new to them. I met him when he was waiting to use the restroom and he started talking. They club them sleves told us not to stay in the corner. They told us to do what ever we wanted to do and speak to all. Pretty much their opionion was that if you keep to yourself you might give the impression that you don't want to approached by anyone. But if you play a public game they you being seen. They also have a game every night, which invloves the whole club. They didn't have on this last sat becuase it was meet and greet night. But on the first sat of the month they do a bead me game. The club is split into two teams and the compete against each other.

But like Julie said you have to look. The other couple we met told us of the horror stories at other places.

I find that some people are Clickish in a way, but when you are new. The older people just don't know you. I am talking about being ignored or not spoking to alot in all clubs and places, not just swing clubs. Think of it in a way if you are a jokie person do you joke with everyone. Or do you sometimes hold back a little when some one new is there. Until you learn that person.

I will correct one thing, we didn't meet everyone at the club. We met abotu 85% of them. But there was the few that kept to themselves in small groups. But we are adults and entitled to it.

What kept us from going to a club since we started swinging last spring was, the stories of public orgies. Although this place had a location if y ou liked being watched. It was very clean, most people just used one of the rooms upstairs. And not sure if this a policy in every club. But this one preferred y ou to stay if you had a drive like we did, or been drinking. It was confortable, and since hotels in the area tend to run around 100 a night. We think it would be a waste of time to pay 100 for a hotel, return there at 4am and have to leave by 10-11am.

BradAndJanet · 09-13-2004, 08:27 PM

Dan, you've reminded me that I must teach Janet how to play pool.

I think you're right, playing pool, darts or whatever is available will get you noticed and possibly approached. It's also a great way to start a conversation. Next time, we'll try it...

-B

DanBridget · 09-14-2004, 03:34 PM

Brad and janet,

Since you all are from Cent. OH have you been to this club yet.

BradAndJanet · 09-14-2004, 06:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DanBridget

Brad and janet,

Since you all are from Cent. OH have you been to this club yet.

No, we have not, sorry.

-B

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09-13-2004, 11:07 AM	#1 (permalink)
DanBridget Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 77 Location: Kentucky	Had our first club visit! Hello Everyone, Well I am sure this is somewhere on the forum already. But I couldn't find, so I thought I would post this. We just got back from our first club experience in Northern Ky. And we both agree we have been missing out from the whole thing for too long. We met more people in one night at this not so large club then we have in 8 months tring to make dates via the internet. We fought going for a while because both me and the Mrs are shy people. We normally don't open up in crowds. But we were made to feel welcomed and everyone was talking to us. We even met a couple last night, that had been there only 2 times before. And had a great night with them, and are planning on meeting out of the club soon. I just thought I would post this for those new swingers or old that are shy like us. And didn't want to go to a club. Well go you will enjoy it. We thought we were doing something wrong when we couldn't find other couples to met. It just proves that it is the internet not US. The club we attended was the Pure Social Club in Newport Kentucky. I know that they have a few negative reviews, mostly becuase of some BBW men and women that attend the club. BUt being a little heavy ourselves thats what brought us there. I submited a review in a postive note. Maybe some of you more experienced couples and singles will chime in here. And continue with the topic of clubs nice places to go. __________________ Thanks Daniel and Bridget

09-13-2004, 01:40 PM	#2 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,400 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times SLS Name:randp	Re: Clubs!! I agree, the clubs are the way to go to meet new people. We have also tired the add sights and have had very little luck. At the clubs it is rare for us not to have a good time even if we don't hook up with anyone. __________________ R (He is R, she is P)

09-13-2004, 03:51 PM	#3 (permalink)
funcouple_gt Registered Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 7 Location: Evansville, IN Status: Couple SLS Name:funcouple_gt	Re: Clubs!! We went to our first club a few weeks ago, and we were both disappointed. After our arrival, where we were greated warmly and shown around, we were not spoken to all night. After this attempt, We are not to sure we want to try that again. It seems to me ( Tammy) that the people in the regular bars and clubs are alot more friendly. Everyone at the club we attended had their own little groups and even after a few looks, smiles and what not, nobody approached us. Maybe we were wrong for not approaching people, but with this being our first time, we were not sure what to expect. I have to say that my one and only experience with the club let me not wanting to attend another.

09-13-2004, 05:50 PM	#5 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,400 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times SLS Name:randp	Re: Clubs!! Hi Tammy, I agree with Julie that some clubs just aren't much fun, it seems rare but we have been to at least one club twice that just didn't seem very friendly. On the other hand, it isn't unusual for a couple to go to a club and feel that people are a little cliquish, I think a lot of this has to do with the fact that a lot of people keep their swinging life and vanilla life completely seperate. So the only time they ever see their swinging friends is on the nights they go to the club, naturally they will spend time with the people they know when they first get there to catch up. You will also find that it varies from night to night at any given club. Some nights at the club we go to we get a large quanity of couples that just aren't very sociable, they will sit in the corner and not talk to anybody. and on nights like that the whole mood of the club comes down. We have had nights were we just sat at the bar and visited with one or two couples all night and I'd bet more than one first timer visiting on those nights tells their friends how cliquish we were even though they could have came up to us and introduced themselves at any time. Other nights you will get some people that are real outgoing and this seems to raise the mood of the whole place and pretty soon everyone is introducing themselves. So the best pollicy is to not be shy and introduce yourself around because in the end the only one responsible for your good time is yourself. As a general rule we have always found that the people in swingers clubs are much more friendly to strangers than the people at regular bars. I think the reason for this is most couples go to the swingers club to hook up with other couples where at a regular club people are often there just to spend time with the people they came with. Another thing you will find is often times on your first visit to a club you are a little nervous, That often makes new people seem unaproachable to others. I would recomend you give it another try before giving up on it as I haven't found any comparable venue for meeting like minded people. __________________ R (He is R, she is P)

09-13-2004, 06:08 PM	#6 (permalink)
DanBridget Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 77 Location: Kentucky	Re: Clubs!! Well I will say it depends on your approach too. Like I said we are shy people. But we figured that if we want to meet more swinger we need to get out of the corner. I spent must of the night palying pool with I believe on of the owners and several other. The coupe we ended up talk with the most, still new to them. I met him when he was waiting to use the restroom and he started talking. They club them sleves told us not to stay in the corner. They told us to do what ever we wanted to do and speak to all. Pretty much their opionion was that if you keep to yourself you might give the impression that you don't want to approached by anyone. But if you play a public game they you being seen. They also have a game every night, which invloves the whole club. They didn't have on this last sat becuase it was meet and greet night. But on the first sat of the month they do a bead me game. The club is split into two teams and the compete against each other. But like Julie said you have to look. The other couple we met told us of the horror stories at other places. I find that some people are Clickish in a way, but when you are new. The older people just don't know you. I am talking about being ignored or not spoking to alot in all clubs and places, not just swing clubs. Think of it in a way if you are a jokie person do you joke with everyone. Or do you sometimes hold back a little when some one new is there. Until you learn that person. I will correct one thing, we didn't meet everyone at the club. We met abotu 85% of them. But there was the few that kept to themselves in small groups. But we are adults and entitled to it. What kept us from going to a club since we started swinging last spring was, the stories of public orgies. Although this place had a location if y ou liked being watched. It was very clean, most people just used one of the rooms upstairs. And not sure if this a policy in every club. But this one preferred y ou to stay if you had a drive like we did, or been drinking. It was confortable, and since hotels in the area tend to run around 100 a night. We think it would be a waste of time to pay 100 for a hotel, return there at 4am and have to leave by 10-11am. __________________ Thanks Daniel and Bridget

09-13-2004, 08:27 PM	#7 (permalink)
BradAndJanet Only slightly cracked... Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 7,071 Location: Seattle Status: Married Couple	Re: Clubs!! Dan, you've reminded me that I must teach Janet how to play pool. I think you're right, playing pool, darts or whatever is available will get you noticed and possibly approached. It's also a great way to start a conversation. Next time, we'll try it... -B __________________ "If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." - Mark Twain All about us...

09-14-2004, 03:34 PM	#8 (permalink)
DanBridget Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 77 Location: Kentucky	Re: Clubs!! Brad and janet, Since you all are from Cent. OH have you been to this club yet. __________________ Thanks Daniel and Bridget

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