at long last our 3some ...but should I feel this way?

[2much]

and one final thought... I am not mad at anything other than myself for ruining something that I had been SO eager about; I am going to try to talk to the wife, and him (if he's willing) to try and resolve because other than the drama it sure was fun!

[adventureUS2]

Wow. I personaly love having another man join me and the wife. But I dont think I would be comfortable with her just pickin someone I didnt Know. Our 3 sums have been with a man I have know for years and trust very well. Not that I wouldnt do it spontaniousely with someone but if it was someone she knew much better than I did trust would be an issue. I would trust her but I would always wonder what his intentions would be

[eroticsensation]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

I think you have every reason to be upset and to feel the way that you do. If I were a guy and in your shoes I never would have let things get to the hotel room. He made several overt attempts to do things behind your back and disclude you. This is a guy who has no idea how lucky he is or what he is getting into really. He doesn't understand that this is about the two of you and he's just been invited to join.

totally agree! if it were me joining you guys I would never kiss your wife behind your back and never ask her to ride in my car while you ride along. that sucks and takes the fun and trust out of everything. Anyhow the main thing I guess is you are now cool with everthing.

[2much]

You know, at first it was great becasue I thought "wow, this is gonna be even hotter since she actually wants this guy" but then I found myself in that position, that I had doubts in the back of my head.

[Pepper & Drew]

Congrats for registering! I tend to agree with you, 2much. You had a discussion with the guy during your wife's first bathroom trip in which you basically said as long as everything's out in the open, it's ok. I read that to mean as long as things are done in front of everyone, there wouldn't be a problem. When he got up to "run into" your wife, that seemed to me to be completely opposite of what you had just discussed. If it were me (Pepper) and the same situation had occured with another woman, I would have showed my tail, and I wouldn't have had to have been drinking to have done it. But, that's just me. I'm ok with lots of things, but the fastest way to shut things down is to do something that seems like it is excluding me. I think your concerns are valid ones and I don't think it would have taken a brain surgeon to figure out that wouldn't be cool with you.

As for another encounter with this guy, I really don't think it's in the cards. He's probably not cool with someone who went ballistic on him on the last go-round.

[2much]

Thanks for the welcome - it's good to be here and registered. I continue to be impressed with the great feedback I am getting & hope I can do the same for others.
Our male "friend" kept insisting that "he knew a guy married to such a beautiful woman couldn't handle seeing her with another guy" - it's so unfortunate that what he didn't get was that I can not only handle it, but I loved every second of seeing him with her, and her with him; it's what I didn't see that got me unsettled! I did feel excluded, very excluded, and that feeling stirred together with a bunch of drinks to make a big fat "cock-blocked drama-rita" that we all drank. LOL, but seriously, it was my inability to handle being/feeling excluded that ended our fun evening. The wife and I have pretty well agreed that he was the wrong guy because he didn't know or respect his position; to prevent that from happening again we will do a better job of screening & communicating with our playmates prior to the fun.
And I don't forsee us having him join us again, which is unfortunate only for the fact that his heater was a nice big one that mrs 2much thoroughly enjoyed swallowing in morethan one way.

[ChloeandHubby]

Congrats on an exciting first time experience even if it left you feeling a little uncertain! Always listen to your gut it is seldom wrong. From a womans perspective it conerns me that there was an "accidental" kiss and that she was happy to drive with him in his car to the hotel. I would not dream of this behaviour, my husband being my life partner is my primary focus and anbody else is secondary. You say that not are not sure whether he will be back, I get the feeling she would like to get it off with him "one to one" just my perception... The fact that they work together means there will be constant temptation even if you 3 do agree to swing again, won't it be a matter of time before they bump into each other in the passage for an "accidental" kiss or a drive together to the local hotel?

[2much]

The wife & he do not work together, he is an occassional customer; I do think there is an attraction, but am confident she would ever act solo. In fact, when I told her I was uncomfortable about the driving in the car/kiss thing she immediately sunk as she knew it was wrong for her to even consider.
After a month, we have considered repeating but it may end up fizzling; I spoke with him recently & we will likely keep the option open but not arrange anything at the present time.
All in all, it's like a great experience that had a little awkwardness, but was still great - maybe chasing it too hard will prove a let down, so we will take it as it comes... literallty?

[HotCoupleGnS]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

When my wife took her 1st trip to the restroom, he asked me if everything was ok and I told him as long as we keep everything out in the open, we will be ok.

Ok here is where I think that you have the right to feel this way. You may not have told this guy every rule that youguys had, b ut you did express that you wanted everything out in the open. So I think what he did was totally wrong. I wouldn't give him the benefit of the doubt. I wouldn't even play with him again. Hubby & I are real big on that kind of stuff. We feel that if you can't do it in fromt of the whole party, then you shouldn't do it.

If you still want to play with him, then I would tell him what the deal is. I would let him know that you didn't think that was cool. It is your call wether you play with him again. But I do think you have every right to feel that way.

[2much]

I love when people give me feedback!
Well, I agree - I just wondered if I was making too big a deal out of an innocent kiss, considering that he was going to be "down in the trenches" about an hour later.
You know it's funny, cause I did tell them both in the elevator on the way to the hotel room that "kissing in the hallway was not cool" and got kind of a stunned silent response - my wife agrees it was wrong, and wrong of her to even think about leaving me to drive to the hotel alone - so maybe it was a "yeah, that wasn't cool" silent response.