Our first on-premise club

[BradAndJanet]

Thanks to several members of this board , we finally worked up enough nerve to attend our first on-premise club. We're glad we did, as we had a wonderful time! The people there were friendly, there was no pressure from anyone and we felt very much at home.

Why didn't we do this before? The usual fears, I suppose. What if no one will talk to us? Will people push themselves on us? Will we really be able to have sex in private if we want to? Will we feel pressure to join in because everyone else is having an orgy and we're the only ones with our clothes on? Et cetera, et cetera... They seem silly in retrospect.

The Lady had it all figured out and was much less nervous than I. She said, "I'm treating this like any other night out at a dance club with my husband." She is so wise. It was exactly like that. Nobody was screwing on the bar or running around naked. No obnoxious drunks accosted us. Sure, there was a bit more flirtatious behavor than at a 'vanilla' club, but nothing too outrageous.

True, this was only one night and the next time might be different, but I thought those of you who are 'on the fence' about attending one would like to hear of our experience.

We'll be going back, count on it!

-B

[ALilOEverything]

Hearing positive posts about a couple's first time makes me really want to attend one. I'm so glad to hear you had a good time. I've had those same visions of people going at it on the bar and naked people running around. Is it safe to assume most don't play their first time at one of these?

[BradAndJanet]

Originally Posted by ALilOEverything

... Is it safe to assume most don't play their first time at one of these?

Well, I don't know about that...we did. We met a nice, polite, attractive single gentleman who was quite complementary of J's legs...and other things.

However, if we had chosen not to play, no one would have given it a second thought, we're quite sure.

-B

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by BradAndJanet

Well, I don't know about that...we did [play]. We met a nice, polite, attractive single gentleman who was quite complementary of J's legs...and other things.

Who made the decision to play with the single gentleman, Brad or Janet?

Did you and Janet come up with a code ahead of time to let each other know if you approved of the males (or couples) you would be meeting that evening?

LM

P.S. So happy that your first on-premise club experience went well!

[BradAndJanet]

OK, here's how it went down....

We had just come back into the club from the patio and the small table where we'd been sitting was occupied. Instead, we sat at the bar. There was a single guy sitting on the corner and J chose the seat next to him. I asked her later if it was on purpose, but she denied it. Actually, I had intended to sit there myself, but she slipped in before I could.

She'd lost her lighter somewhere and in the course of looking for it we struck up a conversation with him, just chit-chat. J was too hot, so we went back outside in the breeze for a while.

When we came back in, I'm not sure if we passed him at the bar or not, but we went upstairs, watched the pool players (boring!) and decided to go upstairs and check out the lounge with the couches. We were sitting there, watching porn on the TV. I got up to use the bathroom and when I returned, he was sitting with J on the couch. I asked her later and she said he'd asked politely and she accepted. I sat on the other side of her, we chatted and introduced ourselves. At some point I whispered, "Do you want to fuck him?" and she said, with a twinkle in her eye, "We'll see...", in that way I've come to know means, 'probably'.

He'd been admiring her legs and had complimented her on them and asked me if I minded if he "checked them out". I told him, "That's up to her, but I don't mind." J told him, "Sure...". We both spent some time running our hands up and down them, to her apparent pleasure, when she said, "Before this goes any further, I need to hit the bathroom." We talked while she was gone and I made sure that he understood that intercourse meant a condom. When J returned, she said, "Let's go find out if a room is open..."

Does that answer the first question?

We did have a code for 'No Way!'. We never use the word 'soda', we say 'pop'. The agreement was to use soda in a sentence ("I'm going for another soda', 'This soda is flat') if we were not interested for some reason.

We figured that interest would be easy to figure out from the flirting. Plus we scoped the room and talked about who we liked. That was part of the fun!

-B

[Spoomonkey]

Yay!

We are glad to hear it went so well. You are right - there will be up nights and down nights. The pool tournament can through the flow off a bit, but single men aren't generally allowed into the pool tournament, so it sounds like that worked out well.

I think this is cool because you are the only active couple on the board (that we are aware of) that goes to our club... That's awesome guys!

Spoomonkey

[LikeMinds321]

You did a great job of answering my questions. Thanks!

Do you intend to see this gentleman again, either at the club or on your own time? Or do you all finish with a handshake and say "Nice meeting you, see you around."

How much time were you in the playroom? Does time seem to expand, or zoom by when you play?

Brad, if you don't want to answer these (or other questions) just cue me. I'll stop bugging you.

LM

[ALilOEverything]

You know... I'm curious as to how you leave the situation too now that I think about it. Really not as much as to what you say but what the single guy says "hey man, thanks for letting me get it on with your wife" Now I have more awkward moments to worry about

[DandS]

Hi Brad and Janet,

So glad you guys had a good first exerience!! Congratulations

I drove through Columbus on my way to Cleveland Friday afternoon, I waved at you guys and the spoomonkeys...

D

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by DandS

I drove through Columbus on my way to Cleveland Friday afternoon, I waved at you guys and the spoomonkeys...

Was that you?

I just thought another chick was hitting on me... I mean - if I had a dollar...



Spoomonkey

[BradAndJanet]

I don't mind answering questions; I wouldn't have started this thread if I did!

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

Do you intend to see this gentleman again, either at the club or on your own time? Or do you all finish with a handshake and say "Nice meeting you, see you around."

Well, basically the second one. We told him we'd probably be back, he said he might be too. I shook his hand, he gave J a hug and a peck and that was that. There was nothing awkward about it. We'd play with him again, most likely, unless we are otherwise engaged. It was fun and enjoyable. (J has been smiling ever since.)

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

How much time were you in the playroom? Does time seem to expand, or zoom by when you play?

I have no idea! I'd probably say 'zoom by'. When first we got upstairs, all but two of the seven rooms were closed, and there were people using the massage table too. By the time we got out of there, the place was pretty empty.

Y'all should think about giving this a try...

-B

[BradAndJanet]

Originally Posted by DandS

... I drove through Columbus on my way to Cleveland Friday afternoon, I waved at you guys and the spoomonkeys...

D

Most likely I was napping at the time, as I'd been up late the night before, welcoming J home from Dallas.

If you ever have time to stop, we'd love to show you around the club.

-B

[twohotblondes]

We hope to try it ourselves one day...sounds like fun..are there any near us in Toronto????


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[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by BradAndJanet

Y'all should think about giving this a try...

We want to! . . .but out of town.

Our first choice of cities (about 2 hours away) doesn't have an on-premise club and this is what I think would be nice because of the way they are set up.

We also want to walk in a club without being recognized.

At the first off-premise club we attended in our hometown, the hostess greated us loudly by stating our first AND LAST names, our profession, that she had been a client, etc., it was a very uncomfortable way to start out the evening.

LM

Originally Posted by BradAndJanet

OK, here's how it went down....

We had just come back into the club from the patio and the small table where we'd been sitting was occupied. Instead, we sat at the bar. There was a single guy sitting on the corner and J chose the seat next to him. I asked her later if it was on purpose, but she denied it. Actually, I had intended to sit there myself, but she slipped in before I could.

She'd lost her lighter somewhere and in the course of looking for it we struck up a conversation with him, just chit-chat. J was too hot, so we went back outside in the breeze for a while.

When we came back in, I'm not sure if we passed him at the bar or not, but we went upstairs, watched the pool players (boring!) and decided to go upstairs and check out the lounge with the couches. We were sitting there, watching porn on the TV. I got up to use the bathroom and when I returned, he was sitting with J on the couch. I asked her later and she said he'd asked politely and she accepted. I sat on the other side of her, we chatted and introduced ourselves. At some point I whispered, "Do you want to fuck him?" and she said, with a twinkle in her eye, "We'll see...", in that way I've come to know means, 'probably'.

He'd been admiring her legs and had complimented her on them and asked me if I minded if he "checked them out". I told him, "That's up to her, but I don't mind." J told him, "Sure...". We both spent some time running our hands up and down them, to her apparent pleasure, when she said, "Before this goes any further, I need to hit the bathroom." We talked while she was gone and I made sure that he understood that intercourse meant a condom. When J returned, she said, "Let's go find out if a room is open..."

Does that answer the first question?

We did have a code for 'No Way!'. We never use the word 'soda', we say 'pop'. The agreement was to use soda in a sentence ("I'm going for another soda', 'This soda is flat') if we were not interested for some reason.

We figured that interest would be easy to figure out from the flirting. Plus we scoped the room and talked about who we liked. That was part of the fun!

-B

Sounds like A HOT time!!
Thanks for that GREAT post!!!!