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I was chatting with someone I might possibly like to meet. They told me they have very little experience giving oral because, in their words, it was not something they had been interested in doing in the past. I like oral a lot, giving and receiving. They say they are now interested in giving. They of course love receiving. If someone is not going to enjoy going down on me that is a deal breaker. Would you meet someone if they told you this?

 

I have made this gender neutral so anyone can respond!

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Well they've said they are now interested in giving so I would think you would give them the benefit of the doubt. The good news is that you can teach them the way you like oral performed on you. I enjoy receiving (alot) but also enjoy giving to both men and women. I get a great deal of enjoyment from knowing that I've made a woman cum by using my tongue, lips and fingers.

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If someone is not going to enjoy going down on me that is a deal breaker. Would you meet someone if they told you this?

 

If it is that important to you, then you might want to pass.

 

For me, it's more important that I'd be able to be the giver than the receiver. So, this arrangement would be just fine. I enjoy a good beej, but it isn't important enough for me to pass on the sex.

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HELL NO!!! lol. Having previously been in a few relationships/marriages when I was the giver for over a decade in one and 7 years in another I say "out out damn spot!!". But that's just me...............:eek:

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I could do this. Really, there are worse things in the world than being the guinea pig while someone learns oral. Can be even more fun if Mr. funcoupledayton wants to help teach.

 

If you approach as less of a swing date and more of a training session you make everyone else at ease. And if your student does well, be sure to reward them in kind. :)

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I could do this. Really, there are worse things in the world than being the guinea pig while someone learns oral. Can be even more fun if Mr. funcoupledayton wants to help teach.

 

If you approach as less of a swing date and more of a training session you make everyone else at ease. And if your student does well, be sure to reward them in kind. :)

 

Thank you for the positive spin on the situation!!

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This is an easy one. Do you need oral sex to have good sex?

 

If the answer is no, go, if yes, don't go.

 

Oral sex is a skill and if someone has waited this long to learn it odds are there is a reason.

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It sounds like they are willing to try, so it would be fine by me. My wife and I dont "need" oral for a fun evening. We like it, but it's not necessarily required depending on what else is going on.

 

Kissing on the other hand would be tough to go without. And someone else just brought up a situation this past weekend that would definitely be a no go for me, he said the gal refuses to do anything with her hands or mouth. So no kissing or touching pretty much. That is a complete killer for me.

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Oral sex is a skill and if someone has waited this long to learn it odds are there is a reason.

 

Agreed, they might just suck at it ; non-literally of course (or would that be literally, instead of blow?) hmmm

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It sounds like they are willing to try, so it would be fine by me. My wife and I dont "need" oral for a fun evening. We like it, but it's not necessarily required depending on what else is going on.

 

Kissing on the other hand would be tough to go without. And someone else just brought up a situation this past weekend that would definitely be a no go for me, he said the gal refuses to do anything with her hands or mouth. So no kissing or touching pretty much. That is a complete killer for me.

 

What?! I can't think of anyone who would be interested in hands-free, mouth-free sex! I wonder what their experience has been like.

 

We played with a non-kissing couple once. I said sorry about a hundred times because it was an impossible rule for me to abide by. Fortunately they didn't get mad. The wife wanted the rule, but the husband clearly didn't. It was a little awkward.

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The thing is only the female half of that couple was hands/mouth free.

The guy was "normal".

 

My friends mentioned when it came up they felt like those cartoon characters that have the huge dropping lower jaw. She didnt bring it up until they started taking their clothes off.

 

No idea how their play has worked, we aren't going to go out of our way to get to know them, and since there are plenty of other fish in the sea, we dont need to. The thing is they dont advertise it either, their profile has a tiny little blurb about having some rules regarding intimacy, but nothing else. They talk more about group play fantasies and other things than they do about this rule.

And you dont see profiles when you meet at a party, so it's really up to them to bring it up, preferably very early in discussion because for most people it's a deal breaker.

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Honestly, for the first several years of my marriage, I wasn't big on giving oral myself. It was a combination of a really bad first experience (not Mr. Sweet), and thinking I was bad at it.

 

I am happy to say I've gotten over that. Of course, Mr. Sweet is even happier. :) So would we play with a couple that's iffy about oral? If the chemistry was right, we'd be willing to see how it went and go from there. It could be that all they need is a little more experience and/or some encouragement.

 

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sweet_tna said:
Honestly, for the first several years of my marriage, I wasn't big on giving oral myself. It was a combination of a really bad first experience (not Mr. Sweet), and thinking I was bad at it.

 

I can totally relate from the other side. We've been married for quite some time and blow jobs have just never been a big part of our sex lives. We're not prudes, I love to go down on her, and we are adventurous with everything else, but for some reason BJs just didn't happen very often.

 

When we started researching the lifestyle, we added a bunch of books on general sex topics to our reading list and we both read up on fellatio and cunnilingus. More importantly we started talking about it.

 

It turns out she was unsure of her abilities and intimidated by the porn depictions she'd seen (and turned off completely by the dominant male control scenarios that are so prevalent - head grabbing, face fucking, gagging, etc). More importantly, I was a lousy recipient, I needed to take an active role as the BJee, encouraging her and offering direction, and expressing my pleasure. Once we started communicating and approaching BJ's playfully things changed dramatically... I am still smiling from the orgasm she gave me last night ;)

 

So, if the OP can determine if their potential playmate is sincere in their desire to learn, I see no reason why that couldn't be enjoyable for all involved.

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We would not want to meet up with a couple that was not ok with giving and receiving. We met with a couple that had that they are both orally gifted. When we got together, "Nothing". We will never meet with this couple again. The only one we have seen alot of and we are alright with is the "No kissing rule".

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We would not want to meet up with a couple that was not ok with giving and receiving. We met with a couple that had that they are both orally gifted. When we got together, "Nothing". We will never meet with this couple again. The only one we have seen alot of and we are alright with is the "No kissing rule".

 

We just can't get past the no-kissing rule. One thing I like to do on occasion is to simulate cunningulus on my lover's mouth. There is that instant when she'll realize what it is I'm doing and it gets pretty erotic (Mrs. DontStop had an orgasm the other night from me doing just this). It's not something I do all the time, but it's nice to pull it out every so often.

 

To each their own, but please count us out.

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