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Me, my wife, and my nephew

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My wife has an attraction to my nephew. And it is obvious he likes her as well.

 

I have talked to my wife, Kim I will call her, about having a threesome for the first time. I think my nephew Jack would be willing and she would as well. I think I would enjoy this as well. My problem is I'm afraid it is too close to home.

 

We are both new to this and would like it to be safe and and with someone we both trust to keep the secret. We have been married 30 yrs and are very curious to try this.

 

Are we crazy? Has anyone else played this way before? :nono:

 

p.s. my nephew is 25 yrs of age and I don't want male to male contact. Neither would he, just fun with the wife.

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This would not be a good idea for many reasons.

 

You said that you felt he could be trusted to keep a secret. My feeling is that because he is your nephew, he would be more apt to let it be known that he has had sex with his aunt. Maybe not on purpose, but is the risk of your family finding out worth it? I also think that at 25 yo he could become attached to your wife.

 

I'm guessing your a couple around 50 years old. It's hot to think about being with a man that young. It seems so convenient since he's someone you know and he's hot for your wife and she is for him. However, I think you'll realize, on further consideration, that this is a bad idea.

 

It's not uncommon for couples to look at people they know to start their swing journey with. It seems "easy" and "convenient" that way, but going this route is like driving through a dirt road full of land mines waiting to tear you apart.

 

If you want a MFM threesome there are hundreds of men to choose from who are registered on swinger ad sites. You can take your time finding the right man for you. You never need to give him your last name, you don't need to tell him where you live, or what you do for a living. Spend some time with him over dinner or drinks, or meet him at a swingers club, and when you feel you can trust him, you'll have your man.

 

Take plenty of time to learn about swinging through reading these forums. You'll find there is a lot to consider before swinging. Find out what you'll be getting yourselves into.

 

:Welcome: to the Swingers Board.

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WELCOME to The Swingersboard. I'm glad you found us.

 

I will not offer an opinion on whether this is good or bad. I will offer an opinion as to whether or not this is swinging. It is not.

 

~Michael

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Welcome to the board! :)

 

Did you read the reply from LikeMinds321? Good! Now, read it again. ;)

The number of things that could go (horribly) wrong in this scenario makes it a situation that we'd definitely avoid.

 

Best of luck to you!

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Thank you everyone! We have not approached this with my nephew, and after reading the advice from likeminds321, we WON'T! I guess the thought of the situation outweighed my common sense. I'm glad I had a place to post my question!

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Although you may need to wade through a certain number of pretenders, there are lots of honest, respectful, single males out there to take this leap with. There are also, trustworthy, honest married men in open swinging marriages who can help. HINT. LOL.

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marcuss said:
Thank you everyone! We have not approached this with my nephew, and after reading the advice from likeminds321, we WON'T! I guess the thought of the situation outweighed my common sense. I'm glad I had a place to post my question!

 

Thanks for listening to some great advice marcuss, and welcome to the Swingers Board :)

 

What do you guys think now?

 

Do you think you'll take different alternatives? If so, what would you find exciting?

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fun4Ds said:
What do you guys think now?

 

Do you think you'll take different alternatives ? If so, what would you find exciting?

 

yes fun 4ds were definitely going to move in a safer direction. We're going to start talking with other couples on swinger sites and slow our game plan down a little.

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Why is this NOT swinging? To the OP, typically playing with family especially young guys who may be apt to talk is probably not the best choice. As you said too close to home. That said, to answer your question, my first threesome was with my (now ex) husband and my sister in law (my brother's wife). Granted no blood relationship involved anywhere in the scenario so it's a little different. Other than possible age/maturity/discretion issues I don't see an issue with your scenario.

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