How do YOU find potential swing partners?

[2HotNFl]

Hope these are not to dumb of questions, but here goes anyway........
How do you actually meet other couples?
Do we need to attend a party? If so, not sure if there are any close by, and if not, wouldn't know where to go to find one.
Do you meet others on the internet and if so, is it safe?

We're both excited about the possibilities, just not sure how to get it going.
Thanks,
T&J

[biblonde]

Well since we dont attend clubs or dances we meet all our playfriends through online services. It is safe if you are careful. dont give out to much personal information to anyone! We always chatt with them online for a while then phone calls and if we feel comfy we will meet at a public place for drinks or dinner. By then you can usually tell if they are crazy or not..lol We have had very good luck this way...no real problems so far. Just beware there are crazy people out there no matter how ya meet um!

best of luck to you !!!!

[Spoomonkey]

2Hot

We are club folks ourselves, and for us this is the easiest way to be active in the lifestyle.

But, I suppose there are other ways:

1. The internet or similar services - Not bad. We've had success with this, but also failure (mostly after spending a lot of time, effort and money). If you go this route, you have to spend a lot of time - you meet for drinks, then for dinner, then wrestle with when to have them over, etc. It can be a long process and can wind up being pretty frustrating. We did this at first, and it got to the point where keeping these friendships up was just too doggone labor intensive. However, this is a great way for people who want to have a deeper friendship with their playmates. We will likely go back to it when we have the time.

2. Clubs or parties - our favorite. We like it because you can "browse" real people and pick up a lot about them in a short time. Plus - even if you don't "play" you get a really full night of flirting. You become familiar with a large amount of people who are regulars... The draw back can be where you live and the cost. If you don't have a club around - well, you have no choice. If you do, there may be price issues. We are fortunate that our club is very reasonable, but some are quite expensive. But, take that with a grain of salt - this Spoomonkey has the world's tightest wallet sphincter...

3. Alura's way... This is only for those with incredibly large balls... Definitely an advanced art form... However, if you have the cahonas, you may want to give him a PM. The originator of the term "intermarital sex" is by far the gutsiest person I've ever met (virtually)... Well - he and his wife... My balls are sad little raisins compared to his...

I am sure there are more, but that's the run down...

Spoomonkey

[good times]

Like Spoomonkey (who often cracks me up (sad little raisons and all)) we are clubbers. We have a couple of adds on the net but really haven't got the time or energy to pursue that approach. We also feel that the odds of hooking up with somebody and the process of selection is much easier at the clubs. This board has a pretty good listing of swing clubs, you can pick the "Club listings" tab above or go to this link for the Florida listings.

Florida swing clubs

If you do a little concentrated searching for your area on the internet it would surprise me if you couldn't find some clubs reasonably close to where you live.

[Alura]

Why don't we feel gutsy? We're just friendly. It's common in Oklahoma.

Mr. Spoomonkey thinks we have a lot of nerve because we met a couple in line at a Pizza restaurant, chatted with them while waiting, had dinner with them, and eventually (not that evening) played with them.

Or maybe he means the time Mr. Alura met a man who was checking out the same "swingers bulletin board" in a bookstore. I mean, hell, man! He was obviously interested in the same thing. Why not chat with him? We played with that couple for several years.

It's not like we walked up to a cute couple on the street and said, "Hey! Y'all look like swingers! Wanna fuck?"

Intermarital Sex! Indeed! The best way to go, in our opinion...



Alura

[Spoomonkey]

See what I mean?

Raisins...

Spoomonkey

I love that!! What can it hurt to ask? If youre next to us in line at Pizza Hut and you find Mrs naughty unbelievably sexy( ) you don't know 'less you ask!!!! I wish that would happen to me

[BradAndJanet]

Originally posted by 2HotNFl
Hope these are not to dumb of questions, but here goes anyway........
How do you actually meet other couples?
Do we need to attend a party? If so, not sure if there are any close by, and if not, wouldn't know where to go to find one.
Do you meet others on the internet and if so, is it safe?

We're both excited about the possibilities, just not sure how to get it going.
Thanks,
T&J

Hey, no, those are great questions. In fact those are usually the questions that most new people ask. Answering them is one of the reasons this board exists.

Not to cop out, but my one post can only begin to give you the answers. The way it worked for us was to spend a bit of time here reading together (more like me saying, "Hey J, come here and read this!" actually), coupled with getting involved in the conversation. Over a period of a few months we began to figure it out, but I'll tell you, even though we've been around for a while, we still have questions that pop up with each new situation we find ourselves in.

So, the short answers are:

1) There are lots of ways, from clubs, to ads, to Meet & Greets and even the salad bar at a restaurant, or so I'm told. They all can work and have their pluses and minuses.

2) Only if you want to. They don't tend to advertise too much. We found one near us through friends we met here on the board, but we haven't attended yet.

3) Yes, but use common sense. Have a phone conversation first. Meet in a public place with other people around. Trust your gut and don't let your excitement outweigh your reason.

I hope that helps, at least a bit!

-B

[sexypairca]

Originally posted by 2HotNFl
How do you actually meet other couples?
Do we need to attend a party? If so, not sure if there are any close by, and if not, wouldn't know where to go to find one.
Do you meet others on the internet and if so, is it safe?

We have tried various methods of meeting others. Off premise clubs, meet and greets, meeting friends through friends and the internet have all worked with respect to meeting others in the lifestyle, not to say that they have all resulted in play couples that we click with.

If you do a little fishing on the net I'm sure that you can come up with a site or two for a club in your area. They are just about everywhere but sometimes it may take a few different searches to find the site for a club near you. If you do have an online ad, look for someone in your area and ask if they know of one, could be a conversation starter.

Is meeting off the net safe? If you take the precautions like others have suggested (ie. meeting in a public place) it is just about as safe as striking up a conversation in line at the grocery store. You never really know who you are talking to until you have the chance to spend some time with them. Don't say too much that you wouldn't want anyone to know until you are sure that this person is safe to trust with your personal information and even then they might surprise you. Sometimes you will be pleasantly surprised and other times not. If something seems strange go with your instinct.

I don't think that there is a foolproof way, but try to find your comfort level and go with it. If you don't make yourself available the odds of meeting people are zero but you remain in the safe zone. If you step up to the plate you take a risk but just might find what you are looking for.

Good luck

Annette

[Vjklander]

SLS has been good to us.
J

[da2ofusgb]

Hi and Welcome

There is nothing wrong with the questions ya guys asked

We have met quite a few quality couples over the internet and we still do. I guess the biggest thing is when talking over the internet is trying to weed out the wannabees. It seems like sometimes you can look or talk to countless people out there, but only a few turn out to be genuine. It is also good to ask for pics, g rated, and really try to get to know them, than if you feel comfy with them, meet at a public place like a bar or restraunt, that way if they turn out to be somebody less than they said they were you can always LEAVE!!!!!

Meet and greets are also a good place to meet other couples, after all they are there for the same reason.

We have also met quite a few couples at house parties, and at on-premise clubs. Although we perfer the house parties as they are usually free to get into and you meet the same quality people as you do in the meet and greets and on-premise clubs.

Hope this helps and have

Peace...

Ed & Tammi

[MrYaWanna]

We've tried all of the things suggested. We met the most people through a local swingers chat room. What YaWanna would do is invite friends from the chat room to a local club. Then we spent the night introducing everyone to everyone. What we think host couples should do. Worked out fine for a while. Lately the club scene is not for us but we met enough people then to just attend house parties now-a-days.

However you do it, be careful, be friendly and you'll spot the real people in the crowd.

Have fun!!

[SluttyWife]

I find the best way to meet couples is to dive in to a swing club near you. Many have websites, which can give you a better idea which club may or may not be right for you. I would try an off-premise club at first. Just go there, meet some people, talk and flirt a little. Take a delectable little bite the first time around and go home with each other. A nice, no obligation sort of beginning anyway. Sir Mike and I did this for awhile.

Slutty Wife

[TNT]

2HotNFl

Welcome to the Board.

Can't offer much more than everyone else has here, they have pretty much covered everything...what we can do is if you are interested in attending a club and/or social, PM us...we know numerous places all over the state of Florida and can point you to a good one.

Teresa

We started off by asking male friends if they wanted to have some fun with Mrs naughty. That is pretty easy. I dont think you will ever get no for n answer.

When we decided to actively seek the lifestyle we went to a club to meet people. Actualy last weekend was our first club outing. It was a great place and meeting people was not a problem. Everyone was very friendly. Wether or not all clubs are like that , I dont know.

We also are using the personal ads that are linked from this board on top of the page.We were VERY surprized to see how many swingers we actualy have in our area. We also found that just putting an ad in doesnt work that well( although we did not put pics in our ad). If you e-mail people you find interesting they usualy will e-mail you back. We are talking with three or four couples right now but havent met any yet. But I dont think it will be long before we do.