Howdo you like to meet people?

[cupl4fun]

Would appreciate you guys sharing how you like to meet people and why you like to meet them that way. For example do you prefer online or clubs and why?

[gnb4u]

Definately clubs and parties. You will know more about someone and if you are interested in them or not in 5 minutes worth of face to face conversation than months worth of cyber chat.

Also, even if you do strike up an interest chatting online with someone it can take months or more before everyone has the courage to meet in real life and get everyone's schedules balanced out. If someone is standing in front of you they are right there and are probably at least somewhat open to the idea of something happening otherwise they wouldn't be there in the first place.

There is no substitute for real life.

[LFM2]

http://www.swingersboard.com/forums/...playmates.html

[cupl4fun]

Sorry i missed that thread, but as a newbie i would still like to know why and a lot of the posts don't address the why. I can see benefits and failings in all and just would like more info.

[Bama0468]

Prefer Online only as we have kids and do not like (in this day and age) to leave them alone any longer than we have to. We meet, chat, then Meet RL for drinks and maybe more.

On a side note, were we home alone as it were, we would likely go to clubs to meet folks, just to hang even as we find Lifestyle folks more open, honest, communicative and genuine. We have been burned so much by Non swinger types that the LS folks (whether we are interested or not or vice versa) are more fun to hang with and we don't have to feel we are hiding and worrying about slipping up

[LFM2]

Originally Posted by cupl4fun

Sorry i missed that thread, but as a newbie i would still like to know why and a lot of the posts don't address the why. I can see benefits and failings in all and just would like more info.

Totally OK that you didn't see it. Thought I'd bring it up to see if that helped you. We don't live near a club. We only meet online people and with those people we've met more. We have a few meet & greets every couple of months and those are great.

BTW... to the board!!!

[thegardiner]

Given where I'm from most initial meetings occur online and then come to fruition to real meetings when persons travel down. There have been occasion while out I've met lifestylers, however that is not the norm.

I am comfortable in either environment however as someone said earlier face to face is great.

[sweet_tna]

We prefer parties and Meet & Greets. It's a fun atmosphere, and you have the advantage of meeting people in person (without all the back and forth of emails and chat) right away. Not to mention, if you don't hit it off, you can move on to someone else right away.

=)

[Hot Raleigh Cpl]

Our playmates predominately come from two sources: folks we meet on-line and ones we meet at adult theaters and bookstores.

We have nothing against clubs and parties -- they're great! We just get fewer playmates there than at adult bookstores or from folks who contact us on-line.

S and L, Hot Raleigh Cpl

[two4youinswva]

We're club people.

We've met people off of Swing Lifestyle, but as previously mentioned, it's easier at the club.

Kind of like ordering the buffet instead of off the menu. Don't like an item? Try a different one!

[screaminggood]

We prefer on-premise clubs because the people there are usually more "serious" about the reason we're all there. When we first started, we tried online but got too many no-shows, so we never use it anymore.

HotRaleigh...I'm curious....how do you "pick up" people at the bookstores and theaters?

[good times]

We only meet people at the clubs, even if they contact us on one of the ad sites. The reason for that is that we have found it takes more time than it is worth to us doing the on-on-one meeting thing. With the club, we can decide to go and in less than an hour we are there. Their are lots of people to meet, and if we don't hit it off with one couple, we simply move on to the next.

When meeting folks online, it is much more involved, and takes much more time to set up a meet, go to the meet, and then determine if you are compatible and go somewhere else to play. More often than not, when we have met folks online and then met in person, we didn't hit it off. Then we have more wasted time trying to extract ourselves from the meeting without offending them. For us, when we used to do this, it was pretty much a wasted evening almost every time we met people online, so we don't do one-on-one meetings any more.

[JustAskJulie]

For first meets either at a club or some other group social setting. We have been trying to put together a local dinner group in an effort to meet more local people.. and a couple of the local socials also have similar dinners so we go to those. It's much easier to meet multiple people at once (in whatever setting) and have options than to go to dinner with one couple and wish it were over before appetizers arrive. That said if we meet a couple in one of the above settings and we decide we want to get to know them better we will do a one on one dinner after we feel comfortable that we can make it through one.

[des1re06]

1) House parties - people are seriously there to have sex, and lots of it!

2) Poolside at a lifestyle resort - you know what you're getting

3) On-premise clubs - must be more direct and outgoing, but it works

4) Meet and greets - getting to know you...

[sexychoclit]

Online. I can chat with couples, try to get a feel for them, chat by phone and then choose whether or not I want to meet them in public. It's a little bit harder and there are some people who want to play games, but you can weed people out and you don't have to worry about hurting someones feelings if you tell them "no" to their face.