Stripper interested in us or just trying to pry our wallet from us?

[kamasutracpl]

Hello- this is Mike, and my better half is Beve. We are wondering if there are any statistics done as far as the percentage of strippers/dancers who are into the lifestyle? Also, is there a good way to tell if a dancer is genuinly interested in you or just trying to pry your wallet from you?

Our reason for asking is this: a dancer at our local club gives Beve what seems to me to be "extra" attention whenever we show up at the club. I realize that each dancer has an "act" that they implement to get dances but this seems to be a bit beyond that.

The first time we saw her dance, I put a buck in front of me when she was center stage, and there were quite a few other people around. Beve was sitting next to me. The dancer came over took the buch , and did her routine for Beve. She leaned down and pinched both of my hon's nipples and sucked on her ear lobe. This of course turned Beve on to NO END! We put a buck up again a couple songs later, and she again danced for Beve, nothing special, then leaned over and gave her a kiss on the cheek before she left.

We went back a week or so later, and got similar attention. Beve intentionally wore a sheer top with no bra. When she got her dance the gal buried her face in beve's chest and inhaled and told her how good she smelled and that she wished she could crawl right in.

The next time we went she asked Beve to stand up "So I can feel your ass..." Which she did. The dancer gave her a BIG hug, and grabed her ass with both hands- and whispered in her ear that she had beautiful eyes and kissed her on the lips.

All of this was an INCREDIBLE turn on for both of us. We are thinking about asking her out for a drink to see what she is into and what she is not, but wanted to get some thoughts on the subject. It seems to me that it is pretty safe to say she is showing more than just passing interest in Beve (maybe not me- but at least her).

How would you take it if a total stranger (like this situation) passed you a phone number? Would we be better just to come right out and ask what we are thinking? How would you approach it? Any advice would be great. We don't want to offend her- since the attention we get now is great!

Thanks- Mike & Beve

[TNT]

My advise would be...Don't mess with a good thing.

If you are happy with the attention you are getting now, just enjoy it. If the dancer wants to take if further, she will let you know.

Never forget, she's there for the money. It's her job to make everyone feel special.

If you do want to pursue it further, I would definitely let your wife bring it up or slip a phone number. I think that would go over better coming from her, instead of you.

Good luck !

Teresa

[dave_susie2001]

Originally posted by TNT
My advise would be...Don't mess with a good thing.

I disagree. You can bring it up in a humorous way...but if you want something, ask for it.

Never forget, she's there for the money. It's her job to make everyone feel special.

On this, I agree totaly!

If you do want to pursue it further, I would definitely let your wife bring it up or slip a phone number. I think that would go over better coming from her, instead of you.

Maybe it would work to your advantage this way since she seems to be interested in your wife. What ever you decide...good luck, and keep us posted on how it turns out!

[Brit_Pair]

Yes, the rapport definitely seems to be between the dancer and your wife . . . so if you plan on raising the subject of an off-premises meeting, allow your wife to initiate the conversation and to take charge of any subsequent negotiating.

Sounds like you're both having a pretty horny time of it even now though!

[KSUCouple]

You can always ask, it couldn't hurt, but I think more often than not strippers know who to exploit the average guy's female-female fantasy. In my experience and that of any women I know who have visited a strip club, the dancers make a beeline for the women because they know what a turnon it is for the men (more turned-on=more tips.) Once, when my husband and I and another couple went to one, we noticed that the men in the joint were paying far more attention to my friend and me than to the dancers, just to see if we were watching the girls, enjoying it, etc.

The last time my hubby and I went alone, this EXTREMELY attractive girl came up to us and without a word to my husband, asked me if I wanted a dance. She gave me a lap dance and she kept throwing extra attention my way. Then later she came by and asked me if I wanted to go to the bathroom with her. She took my hand and we walked away (I thought my hubby's eyeballs were going to pop out.) I must admit that I too was wondering what was coming......turns out she was just very friendly and wanted to chat. She thought we seemed really nice and she wondered if we wanted to go partying with her and her friend afterward. We also talked about our kids.....she told me she had a seven week old at home......I remember thinking that anyone who could look like that seven weeks after giving birth deserved as many tips as she could get!!!!! We declined (I am not sure why) but who knows what that may have led to?

[OhioCouple]

Without going in to too much detail, I think I can speak due to my experiences of being associated with lap dancers.

Most have no desire to do anything other than earn a living, and they are no different than the person that waits on you at your local pancake house. Instead of serving flapjacks they are serving up lap dances. They go that extra mile in order to hopefully receive a few extra dollars, again no different than a restaurant server, so keep that in mind.

I have known several women that have put themselves thru college and raised children by working as lap dancers as they had the bodies and personality to capitalize on it and make even more than what would be earned in your local restaurant. It doesn't however signify that they are sexually open to whatever suggestive measures they use during their "on clock" time.

Lori

[bimrdcpl]

Being and ex-stripper myself, I can tell you that if the dancer is really intrested in your wife and you she will let you know. Because when I when I was dancing I knew exactly how to push the buttons of any guy that walked in the door. With or without his wife, girlfriend whatever. And that was to play out any fantasy that they had on stage or at the table. I was there to earn money. And as far as whatever I said or did was to ensure that I made as much as possible.

But I did meet a few nice people that I became friends with outside of the bar scene. But that was because I chose to. This makes me sound like a cruel heartless person. Which I wasnt, I didnt go to far from the truth in what I said. If I was asked out by someone and I wasnt intrested I told them that. But I didnt go out of my way to make them think I wanted anything more than what we had in the bar.

I take Hubby to the bar every year for his birthday and who do you think gets more attention? Thats because they all know what turns the guys on. And not just the one I am with. The other guys see it too...and gets there fantasies going also. So everyone in there spends more money on drinks and dances.

But bottom line is the dancer more than likely is playing up the fantasy of 2 females. But if she does want more she will approach your wife or you. But definatly dont ruin a good thing by asking first if you and your wife enjoy the attention that you get from this girl.

[kamasutracpl]

Thanks for the advice everyone... we were especially looking for first hand info from a dancer (thanks bimrdcpl). Seems like good information... we are going to stay low key for awhile yet and see what happens.

We will let you know if it goes anywhere!

Mike & Beve

Where ever you go, there you are.

[JustAskJulie]

I know a couple of strippers that are also swingers, but I know a lot more strippers that aren't.

As others have said, most strippers know that if they pay attention to the woman they will get more tips. If a couple comes in they aren't going to just attend to the man (if they do at all) because that would piss off the woman = no tips. But if they pay attention to the woman it's a win/win for everyone.

If you do choose to make a move, make sure it's your female half that does so. Slip her a card with your number on it and leave it up to her. If she's interested hopefully she'll call. If she's not, she'll be flattered and you can all still enjoy the attention she gives you when you are there.

[kycpl4bifem]

They are right the girls only care about the money that's why they will never give you their number but will gladly take yours and toss it in the trash can most clubs have just inside the dressing area door. Every stripper that is any good at her job will make you feel special and almost believe she is interested in making all your fantasies come true. If one is really wanting something she will let you know.

Of the countless strippers we have sat and talked with only 2 have been interested

The first was a hooker and let us know it early on once she was sure we were not cops.

The second was for real this is how it went.

She had been doing the usual flirty stuff and we had been ignoring it as usual. The second time my husband went for a couch dance he told her it was the last dance for the night we had to go. During the dance she asked if we could come back at 4AM (closing time) Confused he said "Why?" she leaned in nose to nose and said "I will f*** you" Knowing accepting offers without asking me is sure death, he told her he would check with me. I thought she was just trying to get us to hang around and spend more money but we came back at 4AM just to see. I was wrong and glad I was. She knew what she wanted and told us straight out. We all had a great time that morning.

[ciscosv]

The only thing I can back up is the strippers give the ladies more attention. I get most of the attention form the waitress as I tip them much more than strippers. My wife gets more attention from the strippers. This has already been said here as well as:

Strippers want your loot.
Strippers want more loot.
Strippers will use your wife to get more loot from you both and the other patrons.

If you two want to see what she's about...be blunt and ask. This environment can be confusing because it is their job to strip and tease. Some people are introverted and will not make the first move. You have to remember that strippers are people too and want the same things. It has been my expierience that the majority of strippers prefer beav to cock.

[Michcouple]

I've dated few strippers in my past. Yes there are some strippers that are in the swinging lifestyle, and yes there are some strippers that do that job because the love being naked. However, most strippers are only there for one reason.....It's a Job that pays them good money.

[SDFuntimes]

I would tend to agree with all before me, that strippers are out for the dough. Even the strippers I know that are involved with the lifestyle, when they are working, its all about bringing home the money. All the extra attention paid ends up fattening the cash cow, and that's about it. If the dancer in question wants something else, she will come right out with it. You won't mistake her interest in after hours activities. Hope it works out, and you get some off the clock time with your private dancer.