Whats your opinions on hiring a male escort for MFM?

[sugar-nightlife]

Hi there we are obviously new at this whole swing lifestyle, my wife and I are very interested in an MFM but sofar searching sites like Swing Lifestyle and CL have yielded nothing worthwhile.

My wife is a very private person so going to a public function where swinging is out in the open is completely out of the question for her atleast at this point..

She recently brought up the idea of hiring a male escort for our fisrt expereince, which kinda makes sence cause the guy is a professional and he will not try to pick on my wife afterwards...

What are your opionions on this matter?

Thanks..

[Tybee Swing]

Hi sugar-nightlife,

We're a couple that likes single males and MFM.

My first thought is, why pay when there is so much available for free (and legal)? I suppose it varies in different places, and probably on different adult sites, but there are lots of sexy, intelligent, discreet, respectful single men out there ready to play. Yes, there are creeps, but all we do is weed through those.

My second thought is that male prostitution is just as illegal as female prostitution is. That's risky. If your wife is so discreet that she won't even mingle at a private (and legal) swinger's event, how will she feel about having a record for committing a sex crime? Maybe you're talking about traveling to where it's legal or something. That would be a different matter.

It sounds like you had some concern that a single guy will try to have an affair with your wife or something. That's not as common as you might think. The gentlemen we know are respectful and wouldn't think of coming between us. In fact, they clearly understand what casual sex and friendship is, and they seek no-strings, no drama.

Best wishes.

[MoonLightKiss]

IMHO it would be a no for us. Like tybee said, there are alot of single guys out there willing to do it for free, AND it's legal that way. If your wife has an inhibition to mingle at a club, perhaps an ad placed on Swing Lifestyle or swappernet is the way to go. Are there jerks out there? yes...but there are jerks no matter where you go. The key is taking the time to get to know them and weed the good from the bad. Once you find a good one, you can move forward. And you won't have to worry about breaking a law (other than speeding because if the excitement to get there).

But I would not reccomend it, if for no other reason than it is illegal.

[tribbles]

I've met a couple who only did FFM that way. They went to Nevada.

I think there was suppose to be a new stud farm there run by Hedi Fleiss sp?

If you do it, do it LEGAL.

[good times]

Originally Posted by tribbles

I've met a couple who only did FFM that way. They went to Nevada.

I think there was suppose to be a new stud farm there run by Hedi Fleiss sp?

If you do it, do it LEGAL.

I think that most of the legal brothels in Nevada would accomodate couples for FMF, but as far as I know male prostitutes are illegal in Nevada, in fact, I do not believe male prostitutes are legal anywhere in the US.

[Amanda69]

Sorry can't imagine paying anyone to have sex...as someone previously said there is so much out there for free.

[tribbles]

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/10313009/site/newsweek/

Newsweek on the Stud Farm

[Tybee Swing]

tribbles, interesting article!

"If Nevada lawmakers try to run her back across the state line, Fleiss says she's primed for a legal fight, on grounds that the state's existing laws discriminate against men. "What's good for the goose should be good for the gander," she says."

If I were a lawyer, I'd take her case...she's right about discrimination!

"She's vague about the funding for her $1.5 million sexual fantasyland, but she says she has other investors. And she just landed a six-figure deal with HBO to let a film crew document the brothel's birth."

I can't wait. I'll be tuning in!

"For the time being, Fleiss plans to cater to women only (shall we call the johns janes, and the cathouse a doghouse?). But she says she may target the gay market next. She could be forced to: Nevada lawmaker David Parks, who is gay, plans to ask for a legal opinion this month on whether Fleiss would be violating the state's anti-bias law by letting only women hire her studs."

Interesting, the omission of the mention of couples looking for MFM. I would think that would be higher demand at a place like this, than single women alone!

[LikeMinds321]

I wouldn't no where to find a female prostitute other than than a dark street in a bad part of town; I'm not using the word "escort" because I thought escorts could be hired for dates, without sex...am I totally naive here?. I see ads for escort services all the time.

Are escorts just a fancy name for prostitutes?

And if male prostitutes/escorts are so rare, I would imagine finding one would be a heck of a lot harder than finding a single male swinger.

LM

[ShellyM]

Originally Posted by sugar-nightlife

Hi there we are obviously new at this whole swing lifestyle, my wife and I are very interested in an MFM but sofar searching sites like Swing Lifestyle and CL have yielded nothing worthwhile.

My wife is a very private person so going to a public function where swinging is out in the open is completely out of the question for her atleast at this point..

She recently brought up the idea of hiring a male escort for our fisrt expereince, which kinda makes sence cause the guy is a professional and he will not try to pick on my wife afterwards...

What are your opionions on this matter?

Thanks..

Okay, this is JMO: But I would feel like I was hiring a prostitute. And to me thats just not something I would prefer to do, because I want to know that I really turn him on, and that he really does want me. I would hear him say that and would think he was just doing his job.

On the other hand, if Tony Stewart is ever selling it I'm the first one in line to buy me a ticket.

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by ShellyM

...I want to know that I really turn him on, and that he really does want me. I would hear him say that and would think he was just doing his job.

Great point!

LM

[ShellyM]

Originally Posted by sugar-nightlife

She recently brought up the idea of hiring a male escort for our fisrt expereince, which kinda makes sence cause the guy is a professional and he will not try to pick on my wife afterwards...

Regarding this...is this her concern, or yours? I know that swingers who are married men will not try to pick up your wife after. Its amazing to me how you can have hot, passionate, lust filled, sweaty sex with a man and then not feel love at all for him, only a different sense of friendship. I mean, we had an incredibly hot time. And then the next day we are talking like hey, how are you doing? Good, and you? lol. The love I have for Jay was not affected in the least, only enhanced. I don't think you have to worry about a man picking her up, maybe try playing with couples if your wife is comfortable with that.

[Pepper & Drew]

We actually have some friends that hired a male prostitute for their first swing event, and they had a good experience. Because the guy was a "pro", he was very patient and kind of took charge--in a good way--and they felt comfortable. Now, personally, I'm waaayy too stingy to think of paying for sex, but in their case, it turned out well.

Pepper

[ShellyM]

Originally Posted by Pepper & Drew

Now, personally, I'm waaayy too stingy to think of paying for sex, but in their case, it turned out well.

Pepper

Now you really sound like me Pepper lol.

[good times]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

Are escorts just a fancy name for prostitutes?

Yes, I think that is pretty much the case, while thier may be an escort that exists that wouldn't have sex with a client, I have yet to meet one. I think they use the word escort because escorting isn't illegal, whereas call girls, prostitutes, etc. are illegal almost everywhere, so if they described themselves as such they would most likely spend more time in jail than working.

One escort I knew once told me that her clients were paying for time with her, not for sex. She said she would throw the sex in for free. Of course, all her clients got the free sex after paying for her time. I would guess though that if she ever got busted, that explaination wouldn't get her very far.

The biggest problem I see finding a male escort, or female escort for that matter, is avoiding prison, a lot of them are actually vice cops. In fact, just recently one of my buddies got busted trying to get a female escort. I don't know how they handle it where you all are, but in Reno if you get busted for solicitation your name gets a mandatory headline in the local paper, very embarrassing, I'm told.