Ready! Now how to find people

[mytits4yourcum]

My bf and I are ready ready ready to step into the swinging lifestyle. We have discussed everything...the rules, the expectations, etc, etc. Now it's just a matter of finding the right couple. We live in Western Texas. Anyone here live nearby that would like to negotiate some? And how are the rest of you choosing couples/singles to play with? Did you decide to swing b/c there was someone out there who interested you, or are you looking too? I am 27. My bf is 42.

[OhioCouple]

Originally posted by mytits4yourcum
And how are the rest of you choosing couples/singles to play with? Did you decide to swing b/c there was someone out there who interested you, or are you looking too?

We take our time in getting to know people via online pay sites, then eventually meeting with them for dinner or drinks to see if anything clicks between us. We have also met others at Clubs, though that hasn't worked as well for us.

We tend to enjoy having a friendship with others that we can enjoy both in and out of the bedroom. We decided to swing after years of fantasizing about it and then a few more years of research before finally taking the first step.

Lori

[RnKin Fla]

R and I had a whole lot of discussion before we decided to embark on this lifestyle.

We meet people through yahoo groups, and also through other internet sites, as well as at clubs.

Like Lori and her hubby, we are looking more for couples we can be friends with both in and out of the bedroom.

We have had some experiences where people we were friends with found out about our lifestyle and decided they wanted to join us. We had much discussion with them about our rules, such as that we don't ever play alone, and it seems the friends did not listen because they (one particular female friend especially) expected different things than what we were willing to give.

So, I offer this caution. If you are going to swing with friends who were friends before the lifestyle switch, and who are also new to the lifestyle, be very careful. You could end up losing the friendship because you and they are not communicating on the same wavelength.

Remember, unless you are just looking for a one-night-stand, you have to communicate not only with your bf, but also with the other couple - everyone's expectations need to be clear.

Good luck! And have fun!

[mytits4yourcum]

RnKin, you are exactly right. Your advice will be very helpful.

Ohio couple, what pay sites do you use?

There is a couple that are friends with us that are willing, but I don't really want to involve them b/c I'm concerned about how it would turn out, and they are friends of the family, so we would always have to deal with the "tension" if things didn't end well.

Thanks for the replies y'all. :-)

[OhioCouple]

Originally posted by mytits4yourcum
Ohio couple, what pay sites do you use?

This topic was brought up recently. Most everybody who responded belong to different pay sites that they like. Most of them also offer a trial period so that you can surf through it and decide whether or not it is right for you before committing to joining.

Here is the link to that topic.

http://www.swingersboard.com/forums/...&threadid=2549

Our original reason for joining a pay site was out of concern for discretion and we wanted to meet people WAY out of our local area as we were new and were not really sure how all of this worked. Within about six months though we began a search for couples in our immediate area as we were comfortable in knowing that swingers are very discretionate (is that a word?...LOL). Now we have local swing friends.

We personally will not go the route of our life long friends, I think they would faint if they ever found out what we do behind closed doors....but then one never knows, do they?

Happy surfing!

Lori

[mytits4yourcum]

Thank you, Ohio. I really am finding SB to be very helpful. I appreciate your comments.

[Phanta_Scyzor]

The site I use is http://www.SexyAds.net . We've started talking to a couple and it seems like we'll hit it off amazingly well.

Hopefully next week we'll meet at the local comedy club and see where we go from there.

[Phanta_Scyzor]

Originally posted by BostonDLT
Seriously though....any comedy clubs I've visited were pretty noisy places. I could barely speak with people I alreay KNEW really well...nevermind try to get to know someone new/

Have fun!
S

The club here opens an hour or so before the acts come out. That way, they can serve food to the masses. I hope that it'll be long enough to talk enough to get to know one another.

If not, of course, the conversation could continue over coffee or something later. And everybody at that time should be in a good mood from the comedy acts we just saw.