Being 'selective' stinks

[MrXxotic]

I am far less selective/picky than she is when choosing playmates. Neither of us is as picky as we would be if we were dating though. I'm more the "She's attractive because of hair/smile/eyes/laugh" while she is the exact opposite and has a hard time over looking things she finds unattractive. Neither of us have a particular "type" we must have either. After the first impression we just go by vibe. There are also levels of attractiveness that can change based on personality and sense of humour.

[NJCouple]

We've only had one threesome and are just beginning the search for a couple, but I don't think looks are as important as how comfortable you feel with a person. I had lots of great phone sex with the guy we chose and he met us as an anniversary present to ourselves. He came well dressed and brought along a bottle of champagne. We had a few drinks before going to our hotel room. I think it was just that he looked at me as if he really wanted me. Shared desire is a key thing. I got really hot knowing he wanted me and that hubby was sitting there excited and with a huge grin. We already knew what each other wanted and enjoyed as well because of our phone conversations so there were absolutely no awkward moments. I think someone would really have to be rude or very ugly for that to play a major role. To me, it is more about shared desire and compatability of sexual preferences. Maybe I'll get picky if we have a bad experience, but for now I'm all for being as open minded as possible.
S

[mickey&minnie]

(Post #19 ) We do not get the chance to be selective. I am a bigger girl and because of that we don't get to many responses. Even though I am very smart and fun and pretty, alot of people see BBW and immediatly turn the other way. Thats ok with me because when I do get this extra weight off I will be one of the "beautiful ones" again and boy will they be sorry!!
Minnie

[HappyPeople]

Originally Posted by mickey&minnie

(Post #19 ) We do not get the chance to be selective. I am a bigger girl...

Hey now, don't sell yourself short. A lot of people like BBWs. The number of responses to your ad does not accurately calculate the number of potential admirers that you would have in person. I think internet ads are a difficult and strange way to meet people anyway.

I'm about ready to discontinue our ad because we prefer to meet people in person where there's more than a few pictures and awkward paragraphs to go on.

I am not a BBW but have been known to be very BBW friendly. *wiggles eyebrows*

[NandTfromCA]

I would guess that there is a correlation between the degree of friendship people look for before play, and how selective they are.

We are getting to a point were we have enough friends we have met that we enjoy being around vertically as much as horizontally (true friends) that we are becoming much more selective about who we will meet with 2-on-2. But it’s more a factor of who we want to spend time with than who we will have sex with. I differentiate that because we will have sex with people that we would not other wise hang out with, if they surpass the “minimum requirements”; good grooming and hygiene, moderate attractiveness, an obvious attraction to us, a good relationship with each other, and friendliness.

Don’t get me wrong. If someone meets just the minimums we won’t have sex with them. But if they meet the minimums AND are funny, sexy, really nice, and/or intellectually stimulating…we have a good chance of ending up naked with them (at least once).

We definitely have sex with people we would not have dated. Just like we will have sex with people that we might not become true friends with.

When it comes to just sex N was pickier at first. We were about the same after a month or two. I have been slightly pickier lately. Go figure???

Mr.

Edited to add "(at least once)" to third paragraph

[NJCouple]

Hi,
And thanks for the response. Being novices, I guess we just haven't come across what you are talking about. I can't imagine having to deal with someone with poor hygeine etc. Uggh! I also can't imagine a large number of encounters, which would of course increase the risk of undesireable characters. We had one threesome (MFM) 15 years ago and just decided to try something new again. Hopefully, all will go well, and we'll meet a great couple to play with. Our first experience was great! It hasn't been from lack of interest, but from a hectic lifestyle. I can also see how you could become pickier with time when the initial thrill wears down a little. Right now, just thinking about all the fun scenerios has us jumping into bed 4 times a day. LOL.
Thanks again,
NJ_couple_fun

[Concupiscence]

My hubby is a perverse mix of pickiness and perfectly capable of sexing up anyone with a stable core body temp. I, on the other hand, have a laundry list of items the person would have to adhere to in order for me to feel comfy. Personality and intellect are SO IMPORTANT to me that the stereotypically unattractive person can make me swoon and get goosebumps if they have a captivating personality and keen mind. Of course, I have not had occasion to test whether my attraction translates to the bedroom but I think it will.

[Dog69]

The only way I'm selective is,"what kind of guy I want my Pretttylady to play with". This is going to sound down right BAD,but here it is in a nutshell."WEIGHT ISSUES" I guess that also goes for me too!!! Since both of us are in above avg shape for our age brackets we tend to look for they same. We are not looking for the Barbie and Ken type but shape and SIZE does matter!!! If I have offended anyone and I know I have . I apologize but that is the way I am!!!
I call them as I see them and at least that makes and keeps me HONEST to me and everyone.