Is Being Too Into Each Other limited our opportunities?

[WildMiCouple]

Spoo.....when I first read your post, I thought her meaning was you two were physically dancing too close. So she butts in and dances close with Mrs. Spoo.

Just wondering if you may have mis-read her meaning.....what with the loud music and perhaps a few adult beverages

Brett (and Tammy)

[DBL D]

Paralysis by analysis? Write it down in a journal and move on.

Male D

[dutch51]

Disclaimer:The opinions of the writer do not express the feelings of the general public,or the swinger community in it's entirety.Only the views of the writer and spouse. Okay ,with that out of the way here's our take on this subject....We always thought that one of the advantages to the lifestyle was the closeness it fosters between spouses.With the new freedoms come new opportunities for understanding. New definitions of trust,understanding,love,ect.By removing the "you only fuck me " rule,it enables couples to identify and treasure what really makes up a person and a relationship.So the idea of you being "too close" is almost a joke.It's like saying "I had too much fun at the amusement park".In our experiances we have found that many people use this lifestyle as a relationship fixxer upper.When they are not getting enough attention,intimacy,sexual relief,ect.They tend to use this lifestyle to augment their own relationship.Which may be what you are encountering.You two are close and happy:for someone craving attention this can be a turn off.But what are you going to do to fix it?Nothing we hope.You're happy and very into each other.Hooray for you(sincerely any bits of sarcasm are totally unimplied.)If you kept to yourselves and only spoke to each other,we could see where this could pose a problem.But from what we have read in your posts so far this is not the case.Yes you are going to have difficulty in finding partners,mostly because of where you are,and the level of intimacy between you two.But it is not something to be discouraged about,more like something to brag about.You two have a great relationship that allows freedoms most people only dream about(and bitch about to their co-workers).Yes your relationship may make finding partners difficult,but it also means the couples you connect with will probably be of a higher caliber than what most people get.(No offense to the "other"people,whatever you want from this lifestyle we hope you get.We just do not want anyone to settle for what's available.OK?)Anyway time to stop proseletyzing...Night all Alex and MAria..

[EvilMJ]

I think I would prefer to be around couples that are into each other. It seems to me that there would be less issues and drama around people who obviously love each other, and hopefully communicate well.

It is the people who are snapping at each other and don't spend any time near each other that we tend to avoid.

As long at the 'into each other' couple shows us some interest ofcourse.

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by WildMiCouple

Just wondering if you may have mis-read her meaning.....what with the loud music and perhaps a few adult beverages

We actually thought of that - or, at least I did... But based on some comments that she made later to Mrs Spoo (in the restroom - she was quite the talker in the restroom, apparently) this wasn't the case.

As everyone has said - this certainly isn't something that we are ever going to change - at least not on purpose. It is who we are. We are the giggly, hand-holding, "what are we doing for lunch" couple at work (one lady called us "Love Chickens" - and while I have no idea what the hell that means, I assume that she meant that we are obviously close). But - I appreciate what BradandJanet said - since they've been our occassional dinner/short-north-shopping buddies. I don't think that we are "over the top" with it. It's just "where she is, I am".

I don't know. Like Male D said - paralysis of analysis. It's not something we over think - because it's nothing that we'd try to change. But - we certainly wondered if this was one of the things that has contributed to a recent "dry spell".

Of course, being busy, not being able to find time to meet with couples that we DO have interests in, has probably been the biggest part of it...

*sigh*

Oh well - I quit my part time job at the end of June and then get my little monkeys for the month of July... After that - maybe we'll get our life back and things will take a turn for the better...

Spoomonkey