Do you care if the couples you swing with are married or not?

[easygoin]

Maybe this has been posted before...im not sure if it has been feel free to kill the post..im just curious..about when you swing does it matter if the couples you swing with are married or just boyfriend and girlfriend?

[biornot]

It would't matter to us.It just up to you.

[vividpleasures]

Hello! I'm really new to this swinging and as I discuss things with my husband, I find it easier for me to go with married couples. It makes me feel better to know that the other couple is in a happy and secure relationship and I like to see the love they have for each other. I also prefer to be with people that are similar to us. I do not want the drama that may come with unmarried couples. Not that this is true of every unmarried couple. I would consider unmarried, long term relationships also. Really, it's just what makes me feel more comfortable. Every one is different. I do not think it makes a difference to my husband. What ever makes me feel the most comfortable is what he will go along with.
The Mrs.

[Spoomonkey]

We prefer married couples. We've been with unmarried, and inevitably one of us ends up getting hit on by one of the partners in an inappropriate way somewhere down the line.

Of course, not everyone has had those experiences, so it is not something that I would call a hard and fast rule. But, for us, it is what makes us the most comfortable.

Spoomonkey

[northindycpl]

We prefer that the couples are married, committed and stable. We are not looking for one-time activities, if we were it probably wouldn't matter.

We enjoy couples that we can relate to in life as well as sex. Additionally, part of our excitment is sharing the activity together, and knowing that we are sharing the activity with others.

When you are in a committed, long term marriage, there isn't the insecurity of wondering what the other partner feels, is thinking or wanting. I think until you can abandon all insecurity with your own partner, you cannot truly live the whole experience. I don't know that you can do that with someone you are just dating.

Good luck!

[BradAndJanet]

A piece of paper does not a committed relationship make.

We prefer couples in long-term relationships. We know some married people we wouldn't touch with a ten-foot pole (were they swingers), but some unmarrieds that we would 'do' in a heartbeat.

It's all in how they treat and respect each other - and how they look into each other's eyes - that matters to us.

-B

[TNT]

It doesn't matter to us if they are married or not. Our latest play couple are not married, they don't live together and have only been dating for about six months and they're a blast to be around. We actually know quite a few couples in the lifestyle that are not married, but all are committed to each other and are stable individuals.

I think it all boils down to the individuals in a couple, whether they are married or not. We have met couples who have been married for years, but due the fact that one of them seems to not really be into it, we wouldn't play with them.

Both individuals in a couple are important to us, we want to know they are both into it, that one is not being pushed by the other and they are both comfortable and having a good time, not how long they have been in a relationship.

Teresa

[EUcpl]

We prefer married couples because we have learnt that unmarried couples sometimes started discussions. Married couples - so our experience - knows very well why they are visited a club and they knows very well what they want. For instance: No problems to fuck mfm with a married couple but a not married couple - so our experience - every time asked if his partner agrees. To much stress.

[Alura]

Married couples seem safer to us and offer a lot of playful possibilities.

Alura

[ALilOEverything]

We want at least a long term committed relationship where they might as well be married. The only couple we've played with that wasn't married did tie the knot later on.

[WesternSwing]

Being legally married is not as important to us as being a stable couple. We know several people in the lifestyle that are not "married", but have been togehter a long time and have a marriage-like relationship. We wouldn't eliminate them as possible playmates if the occasion arose.

Mr. WS

[HotCoupleGnS]

For those of you that say you will only play wiht married couples, does it matter if they are common law or if theyr eally have that piece of paper? I know Oklahoma just did away with thta law, but I think some other states still have it. Just curious.

[OhioCouple]

In our eyes, a marriage does not mean commitment, as we have found out in our general lives. For us, I think BradandJanet summed it up well:

It's all in how they treat and respect each other - and how they look into each other's eyes - that matters to us.

[J & K]

We say married, but also know not everybody gets married by law. So we also take in account long term relationships. We look at cpls and see if they are in love with committment. We watch body lang. and the way they speak to eachother to find that answer. If there is no love then we pretty much stay away from them and know they are out to soil their oats which is ok, but not for us.

[Pepper & Drew]

Two of our playmate couples are living together, but not married. In each case, they are committed and get along as well as any married couple we've been with. To us, married doesn't necessarily equal stable.