Do you care if the couples you swing with are married or not?

[coupleinCT]

Married isn't important to us, but the couple needs to be committed to each other. We've been with a married couple that filed for divorce less than a year after we stopped seeing them, and unmarried couples who have had stronger relationships than most of our married friends outside the lifestyle. I suppose the fact that we were together for 7 years before getting married biases our opinion on that.

[CB_n_Red]

It's no big deal to us whether the other couple is married or not, as long as they are in a stable relationship. We don't want to get embroiled in "issues"!

CB

[LadyHawke]

I'm so glad I stumbled onto this thread ! I am new to this board and to swinging. My husband and I have a 'friendship' with a female friend but no experiences outside of that relationship. My husband and I have been together for 6 years now and married for 4 of those. I have been reading posts and learning a lot for 2 days. It was his suggestion that we try swinging because he (with my approval) has a friendship as well as sexual relationship with this female friend. I have been with them on two occasions, but he satisfies his overactive libido with her often. Very often. Along the way, I have become more active with him than ever before. Not that this is a bad thing, but I sometimes get jealous. Not of her. I like her a lot. Jealous, I think, because I don't have any extracurricular play myself that does not include my husband and no real outlets to find a suitable partner. My biggest problem is that I often get self-conscious about myself. I'm a size 20, 5'7 or so and a 44D. Not exactly what I've ever considered attractive. My husband tells me I'm beautiful though. I think his interest in swinging is in large part to help me find suitable partners.


One of my personal concerns is that it was all about sex. I basically had the idea that it was all impersonal one-nighters. And it is such a different thing for me. I'd have to have real attraction to be interested sexually. And attraction to me has a whole lot to do with personality and likability of the other person/people or I might as well not bother at all.

I am thrilled to see that the lifestyle seems to be about finding friendship in compatible couples and partners. Any thoughts from anyone. I'm not sure where to go from here.

[good times]

We prefer Married or long term relationship, in any case they have to be committed to each other. To many times we have met couples that got together just to be able to come to the club on couples night and really didn't get along very well. At the very least this kind of ruins the mood for us and several times it has resulted in problems similar to what the Spoomonkeys experianced.

[easygoin]

i got some replies i made a thread hehe..ok enough of the joking i was just curious as to what people preferred...and im trying to get more active in posting other then welcomes and hello's thanks guys for replying