Decoder Rings & Secret Handshakes.. lol

[intuition897]

Originally Posted by curiousagain

Not always, but enough to make me suspicious, when someone wears their religion on their sleeve, they are usually trying to compensate for something.
Screw'm

I couldn't agree more. I'm a Christian, but I don't go out on a daily crusade trying to convert the wicked. I've got enough sin in my own life to deal with without worrying about what the Jones' are doing behind closed doors. Not to spark another debate, but I don't feel that in the end God will disapprove of what my husband and I choose to do together, as it only enriches our marriage, which is a sacred relationship. And we only associate with other couples who are similarly minded. Sex isn't the issue; dishonourable intentions and deception of one's partner are.

[intuition897]

Originally Posted by hotsummers

... These people are terrified because sex with other people WOULD destroy their lives. While on the other hand, lifestyle'rs revel in the very activity that would totally destroy the naysayer’s relationships. People are afraid of what they can not understand. They can not relate to being 100% honest with their SO. They don’t want to hear that their spouse is unhappy with being sexually repressed. They don’t want their SO to admit that they have fantasies. Don’t be angry, just pity the poor soles because they are living in their own private hell and don’t even know it.

I think that monogamy works just fine for some folks and it's not a matter of denial. It's just a choice they've made. As long as they're both happy with the arrangement - truly happy - and there is good communication and intimacy, monogamy works just fine, too. But you're right, there ARE lots of these people on there with VERY close-minded attitudes, swearing that they'll never believe that swinging can do anything but destroy lives. They swear up and down that we're sexually voracious and can think of nothing else but getting laid when in fact it's the very opposite. Don't you love some of the posts? "Have you ever thought about how you're spreading STD's???", "What about if somebody gets pregnant, hmm? What then?", "These people care nothing about their partners", "They have no respect for themselves", "Their vows mean nothing to them", "Why bother being married in the first place if all you want to do is whore around?", "This is a sexual addiction", "Deviants", "Perverted", "Something is obviously missing in their marriage", "True intimacy is only possible in a completely monogamous relationship", and my favorite: "Will somebody PLEASE think of the CHILDREN??!!" LOL What a crock.

[NaughtyKatt]

This is something that I really wanted to post over there whenever someone would ask why we get married in the first place, or where is the intimacy:

If their idea of marriage is based on sex alone, that is a sad marriage indeed. Sex is a wonderful part of our marriage, but I didn't get married because he's good in bed. I married my husband because he is my best friend, because we laugh together and cry together, because we share similar interests and have fun little arguements about our differences in opinions when it come to sports teams, music and chick flicks. I love watching him play with our spoiled rotten dog and one day I'll watch him with our children. I love his family, as crazy as they may be; and they have always been wonderful to me. We were high school sweethearts that went through a whole bunch of drama and eventually ended up together again. I never want to live my life without him again. He knows just the way I like to be kissed, and I know how gets completely focused on hockey for the whole day before he has a game. He knows just how I like my eggs in the morning, and I know the weird way he eats pancakes. He'll gladly come with me to yard sales and help me dig for those hidden treasures - toys that remind me of my childhood. I understand those times when he just wants to be a slob and sit in front of the TV all afternoon. That is our intimacy. These are things that our other partners will never really know or understand about us. Sex is such a minor part of our lives - a wonderful part, but a small part of ourselves that we choose to share with others.

Wow. I really wrote a novel there!

[intuition897]

Take a bow Katt, that was perfect. Very eloquently put.

[curiousagain]

These people don't get it. Finding people to have sex with is easy. Finding someone who will stick with you through thick and thin and be there through good and bad, Now that is difficult. You don't bond because you orgasm together. You bond because you go through life together. You have to remember, these are often people who see sex as "sacred" or a "duty", not as a fun pastime. They cannot begin to comprehend what others do naturally without regret or jealousy.

[good times]

good response Katt so did you get to post it over their?

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by intuition897

Ok, so maybe a secret handshake is a little lame but is there someplace I could find some really good swingers jewelry? The bitten apple, for example? ..................................... Any ideas out there?

I know this is an older thread, but wanted to share what I bought for Mrs two4you, and she loves it! Our playfriends got a kick out of it, and the only "vanilla person" comment she got was "that's really sexy" (or is he a swinger and we don't know it? )

Anyway, here's a link. I got her the bracelet. It's at the bottom of the linked page. Actually, we talked the website into making the bracelet for her, and now it's on their website. Originally they only had anklets.
Check it out and see what you think!


http://www.nipplecharms.com/swinger-jewelry.html

[charms123]

Thanks for the kind words. We are the owners of NippleCharms.com for Nipple Jewelry.

If anyone here wants a discount on their next purchase, go to the site, e-mail us saying you saw this on swingersboard and we will be happy to take care of our friends!

Talk to you soon,

Nikki and Michael
www.nipplecharms.com

[Amanda69]

Okay, Okay there really isn't one but wanted some attention to this topic. There have been a few threads recently asking about various things swingers are alleged to do to identify themselves as swingers to others.

The nasca apple, an ankle bracelet etc....

So in reality is there anything swingers in your area may do to id one another? Are these all just urban myths? Is it a throw back to when we were kids and we put a special mark on our hands (with pen) to show we belonged to a certain group?

[ShellyM]

If there are signals around here I'm out of the loop completely lol.

[jimnjan]

Originally Posted by Amanda69

Okay, Okay there really isn't one but wanted some attention to this topic. There have been a few threads recently asking about various things swingers are alleged to do to identify themselves as swingers to others.

Hey, my hubby was acosted by a woman at a M&G because he didn't know what her ring meant. Let me explain, she was wearing a ring on her hand (not sure left or right, thinking right) and asked him "you know what this is, right???". When he said "NO", she declared him "not a real swinger, because all REAL swingers know what this is and what it means". Then began our search for the ring, when we couldn't find the ring on the net, we then questioned it in the Swing Lifestyle chatroom. Most of the people there had never heard of it, and chalked her up to being "full of sh**. Since then we just laugh about it. Though it would be nice to have something low-key (like a ring) to identify ourselves!

Jim & Jan

[Amanda69]

Okay what happened I started a new thread this morning and come back on a few hours later to find it has been joined up with one from 2004!! Yes I know we do keep recycling these things but since I haven't seen other threads joined up why did we do this with this one????

Heck we could end up with just 20-30 threads going if we keep this up??!! If you want to refer back to another thread great but give us new folks a chance to post information, pose questions and start threads...thanks

[ohash01]

Last night in Columbus Swing Lifestyle had a "party" at Whiskey Dick's bar and grill. I couldn't go cause I was sick and Jon was out of town, but apparently if you wore a rubber band on your wrist...just a plain old brown rubber band...that marked you as a swinger for the night, since "normal" people would be there watching the Buckeye game and drinking as well.

I think perhaps each little group sets up it's own decoder rings for each little meeting.

[NJCouple]

Originally Posted by Southern Lady

I don't see this on the page. I think I saw something about an anklet, anyone ever heard of this?

The pin is free with membership. I'm not sure if you cn order it seperately.
mrs. njcouple

[warkman]

The problem of the "secret" object to identify people out in the real world whom you don't know already as swingers, is keeping that piece of i.d. secret within the swinger community and unavailable to anyone who might use knolwedge of somebody's swinger status against them. I would think many folks who don't post sensitive information about themselves or readily identifying photos on swinger sites, would be very reluctant to to wear a "sign" out in public. I guess you could just claim ignorant coincidence if exposed, but.......