How do we find a woman for a threesome?

soosicc · 07-26-2004, 07:52 PM

Hello all!

I am just curious if anyone can help us. My boyfriend and I have discussed the idea of a threesome and are very interested however we are unsure how to get started. He thinks we can go to a bar and pick someone up but I would rather not do it that way because I would like it to be more than just a drunk night threesome. I don't know how to go about looking for a women. I have looked on the internet but have came out empty handed. Im not sure how to go about this. Is there anyone out there that can help? Any feedback would be appreciated Thank you!

Spoomonkey · 07-26-2004, 08:18 PM

Finding single women is tough.

My guess is that everyone will say that very thing. We recently had our first threesome with a female and this week sometime, Mrs Spoomonkey is supposed to have her second...

The reason is, we found a couple with whom we are comfortable enough to swap wives for that very reason. His wife came over here one night - my wife is going to be going over there soon. Honestly, that is the easiest - and I would say less troublesome - way to go.

You'll find that even on a board such as this, the single females are few and far between. Worth pursuing? Well - the ones around here seem worth the trouble

But generally speaking, it may be a lot more trouble than it is worth. Lots of couples are looking for just that though, so maybe others can offer a more optimistic insight.

Spoomonkey

ALilOEverything · 07-26-2004, 08:33 PM

We've never looked just because I know they are far and few between. We have had discussions of doing just what Spoomonkey has done/is doing. Not only doing it just for us but I would love to do that for someone else as well. It's the only reason why we would ever swing seperately or be with someone who's seperate from their spouse. We would have to know them pretty well so we know that there wasn't going to be any drama in end but I definitely think it's a situation that would work nicely and benefit all those involved.

**good times** · 07-26-2004, 08:38 PM

I agree with Spoomonkey, finding a women for a threesome is real hard. We know a quite a few Bi women that will hook up with the couple but will only play with the woman, the man can watch, usually, sometimes not even that. We know very few, if any, that will play with both the man and the woman of a couple. Good luck.

BradAndJanet · 07-26-2004, 08:48 PM

I think what y'all should do first is sit down and do some reading here.

I think you'll learn a lot about swinging in general how to find what you're looking for. You're right, it's not something to rush into in a bar somewhere; there are things that you and your boyfriend should think and talk about. Your quest is not uncommon and I'd suggest using the Search feature on the board to look for threads discussing the subject. If you need help with that, just ask.

The thing is, single bi-females are scarce. What Mr. Spoomonkey suggests is probably where you'll find the most success, unless your boyfriend has reservations about sharing you with another man. You'll need to talk to him about that, should you decide to take that route.

Most of all though, take it slowly. As you learn more, you'll more than likely figure out what will work for you.

BTW, are you the one who posted a similar question as 'Unregistered'? If so, I'll remove that post, so that all replies will go here in one place. Thanks!

-B

soosicc · 07-26-2004, 09:25 PM

oh. Yes I am the one who posted it. Sorry. My computer was being a little bit temptermental at the time. I'd appreciate it if you could delete that post. Thank you!

BradAndJanet · 07-26-2004, 09:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by soosicc

oh. Yes I am the one who posted it. Sorry. My computer was being a little bit temptermental at the time. I'd appreciate it if you could delete that post. Thank you!

No problem, I took care of it.

-B

WA_Cple · 07-27-2004, 01:22 AM

When we first started we were looking for a SF as well... and... well we found a female partner but she just happened to have this nice husband who understood it was our first go round and was willing to watch us play together with his wife. That lasted for our first get together... but after that we realized that it felt good and right for us to bring another person (male) into the picture... and we've never looked back. I can't believe we ever considered not doing a couple thing...

Just my input... keep looking... keep talking... keep your options open!

Mrs WA

sensuality · 07-27-2004, 12:54 PM

We had a FMF 3-some with someone we met one night and it was really interesting and exciting.However,like everyone says...it's pretty hard to come by.You can always go to a "vanilla" club and either have him flirt or have you flirt with some girls and get to know them that way...and see what happens,this is actually a fun idea

Since our encounter,we've come to the conclusion that it's a lot easier to find a couple with a bi-female than it is to pursue a single bi-female. There are always escort services

WesternSwing · 07-27-2004, 01:30 PM

When you find out how, let us know. We've been looking for months, and all leads dry up. Our best chance at a FMF experience said she was bi, but when it came down to it she chickened out. If you find the secret, let us in on it.

Mr. WS

Phillip57 · 07-28-2004, 08:12 AM

Hello there, this is my first posting and would like to share my thoughts on the subject. My wife and I have been together for over 15 years and have lead a very active sex life but have limited it between the two of us. Though we visited a swingers club about 7 years ago, we didn't pursue any encounter with anyone but have always felt that we should have but were afraid to. Since then, the idea of having sex with another woman have always turned both of us on and I've since shared a most intimate fantasy with her by admitting that I would love to have a threesome with her girlfriend. This same girlfriend of hers who comes over for a visit a couple of times a year and is very close to us. She has shared some real juicy stories of her sexual encounter in the past including one with a couple where she was sexually actively involved with for almost a year. Some of the juiciest stories I have ever heard and knowing her, its not made up stories but actual sexual encounters she had with one couple over many years ago. She also shared a story with my wife about her sexual adventure with two lesbian who did all kinds of nasty things to her which she enjoyed very much. Though this girlfriend does not consider herself as a lesbian, she;s more of an occasional bi-female when the need arises but really loves being with men. She is not loose or sexually promiscious and wouldn't just go out with anyone for the sake of fucking but those ones that she does have sex with, seems to be some real wild sexual encounter including an occasional anal sex. By the way, she has got nicest ass and have made sure in the past to show them off to me when she knew I was looking. The last time was when she bent over behind me to pretend fixing something in her shoes. Needless to say, she got me hot and she noticed it with the bulge that she saw grew inside my pants. I just smiled at her and she knew it.

She will be coming over for a visit in the coming week and though I've flirted with her girlfriend in the past, I didn't go any further than that. The last time was during a visit in which we were drinking and having a casual conversation with her when i mentioned to her that her ass is a real turn on for me and I would love to bury my face between her cheeks at which point, she just smiled at me and said, Maybe sometime soon... we'll see and she kept looking over to me during the evening. I told my wife about this and she said that I should have made a go for it as it would have been just fine with her as she and I have both fantasize about having sex with her friend and get into some hot threesome. Yes we have had some hot fantasy about it and admit some of our hottest sex together have been when we were both fantasizing about doing her girlfriend together and also some role playing too. She feels very comfortable with us having a sexual encounter with her girlfriend and basically gives me the go ahead to initiate it.

I'm looking forward to doing everything to her when the opportunity presents itself and hope that this first threesome encounter will be one of many more to come. I think she'll be a good one for us to do it with.

soosicc · 07-29-2004, 05:36 PM

Well I appreciate all the replys. Thank you! I'll keep you posted. Although it's only been a couple days since we started searching Im not actively searching because I feel like when it happens it happens. Also I didn't really know how to approach the situation. I know the time will eventually present itself. There is this club around my town that has alot of bi-couples,lesibians, etc so maybe I'll go down there a couple nights and see what happens. I don't really have any friends who I am attracted to at this point but hey maybe I need to make new friends

I appreciate everyones responses . Thank you so much!!!

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07-26-2004, 07:52 PM	#1 (permalink)
soosicc Registered Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 4 Location: Washington State	How do we find a woman for a threesome? Hello all! I am just curious if anyone can help us. My boyfriend and I have discussed the idea of a threesome and are very interested however we are unsure how to get started. He thinks we can go to a bar and pick someone up but I would rather not do it that way because I would like it to be more than just a drunk night threesome. I don't know how to go about looking for a women. I have looked on the internet but have came out empty handed. Im not sure how to go about this. Is there anyone out there that can help? Any feedback would be appreciated Thank you!

07-26-2004, 08:18 PM	#2 (permalink)
Spoomonkey Chimpin' Ain't Easy Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 6,563 Location: Ohio Status: Married Monkeys - will you be our vine? SLS Name:Spoomonkey	Re: Couples doesn't know how to find a women Finding single women is tough. My guess is that everyone will say that very thing. We recently had our first threesome with a female and this week sometime, Mrs Spoomonkey is supposed to have her second... The reason is, we found a couple with whom we are comfortable enough to swap wives for that very reason. His wife came over here one night - my wife is going to be going over there soon. Honestly, that is the easiest - and I would say less troublesome - way to go. You'll find that even on a board such as this, the single females are few and far between. Worth pursuing? Well - the ones around here seem worth the trouble But generally speaking, it may be a lot more trouble than it is worth. Lots of couples are looking for just that though, so maybe others can offer a more optimistic insight. Spoomonkey __________________ "Eros will have naked bodies; Friendship naked personalities." - C. S. Lewis

07-26-2004, 08:33 PM	#3 (permalink)
ALilOEverything A Little Of Everything Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 1,472 Location: Michigan Status: Couple	Re: Couples doesn't know how to find a women We've never looked just because I know they are far and few between. We have had discussions of doing just what Spoomonkey has done/is doing. Not only doing it just for us but I would love to do that for someone else as well. It's the only reason why we would ever swing seperately or be with someone who's seperate from their spouse. We would have to know them pretty well so we know that there wasn't going to be any drama in end but I definitely think it's a situation that would work nicely and benefit all those involved. __________________ ~Lilo

07-26-2004, 08:38 PM	#4 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,400 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times SLS Name:randp	Re: Couples doesn't know how to find a women I agree with Spoomonkey, finding a women for a threesome is real hard. We know a quite a few Bi women that will hook up with the couple but will only play with the woman, the man can watch, usually, sometimes not even that. We know very few, if any, that will play with both the man and the woman of a couple. Good luck. __________________ R (He is R, she is P)

07-26-2004, 08:48 PM	#5 (permalink)
BradAndJanet Only slightly cracked... Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 7,071 Location: Seattle Status: Married Couple	Re: Couples doesn't know how to find a women I think what y'all should do first is sit down and do some reading here. I think you'll learn a lot about swinging in general how to find what you're looking for. You're right, it's not something to rush into in a bar somewhere; there are things that you and your boyfriend should think and talk about. Your quest is not uncommon and I'd suggest using the Search feature on the board to look for threads discussing the subject. If you need help with that, just ask. The thing is, single bi-females are scarce. What Mr. Spoomonkey suggests is probably where you'll find the most success, unless your boyfriend has reservations about sharing you with another man. You'll need to talk to him about that, should you decide to take that route. Most of all though, take it slowly. As you learn more, you'll more than likely figure out what will work for you. BTW, are you the one who posted a similar question as 'Unregistered'? If so, I'll remove that post, so that all replies will go here in one place. Thanks! -B __________________ "If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." - Mark Twain All about us...

07-26-2004, 09:25 PM	#6 (permalink)
soosicc Registered Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 4 Location: Washington State	Re: Couples doesn't know how to find a women oh. Yes I am the one who posted it. Sorry. My computer was being a little bit temptermental at the time. I'd appreciate it if you could delete that post. Thank you!

07-27-2004, 01:22 AM	#8 (permalink)
WA_Cple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Feb 2004 Posts: 139 Location: Washington State Status: Couple SLS Name:WA_Cple	Re: Couples doesn't know how to find a women When we first started we were looking for a SF as well... and... well we found a female partner but she just happened to have this nice husband who understood it was our first go round and was willing to watch us play together with his wife. That lasted for our first get together... but after that we realized that it felt good and right for us to bring another person (male) into the picture... and we've never looked back. I can't believe we ever considered not doing a couple thing... Just my input... keep looking... keep talking... keep your options open! Mrs WA __________________ Life is like a box of chocolates - you gotta take a little bite outta each one to find the one you'd love to eat!

07-27-2004, 12:54 PM	#9 (permalink)
sensuality Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 298 Location: california Status: happily,ecstatically married	Re: Couples doesn't know how to find a women We had a FMF 3-some with someone we met one night and it was really interesting and exciting.However,like everyone says...it's pretty hard to come by.You can always go to a "vanilla" club and either have him flirt or have you flirt with some girls and get to know them that way...and see what happens,this is actually a fun idea Since our encounter,we've come to the conclusion that it's a lot easier to find a couple with a bi-female than it is to pursue a single bi-female. There are always escort services __________________ To truly see beauty, close your eyes...and see with your heart....mois

07-27-2004, 01:30 PM	#10 (permalink)
WesternSwing South of disorder Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 2,811 Location: Utah Status: Male half of married couple	Re: Couples doesn't know how to find a women When you find out how, let us know. We've been looking for months, and all leads dry up. Our best chance at a FMF experience said she was bi, but when it came down to it she chickened out. If you find the secret, let us in on it. Mr. WS __________________ "God created sex. Priests created marriage." ~ Voltaire

07-28-2004, 08:12 AM	#11 (permalink)
Phillip57 Registered User Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 1 Location: S.F. Bay Area	Re: Couples doesn't know how to find a women Hello there, this is my first posting and would like to share my thoughts on the subject. My wife and I have been together for over 15 years and have lead a very active sex life but have limited it between the two of us. Though we visited a swingers club about 7 years ago, we didn't pursue any encounter with anyone but have always felt that we should have but were afraid to. Since then, the idea of having sex with another woman have always turned both of us on and I've since shared a most intimate fantasy with her by admitting that I would love to have a threesome with her girlfriend. This same girlfriend of hers who comes over for a visit a couple of times a year and is very close to us. She has shared some real juicy stories of her sexual encounter in the past including one with a couple where she was sexually actively involved with for almost a year. Some of the juiciest stories I have ever heard and knowing her, its not made up stories but actual sexual encounters she had with one couple over many years ago. She also shared a story with my wife about her sexual adventure with two lesbian who did all kinds of nasty things to her which she enjoyed very much. Though this girlfriend does not consider herself as a lesbian, she;s more of an occasional bi-female when the need arises but really loves being with men. She is not loose or sexually promiscious and wouldn't just go out with anyone for the sake of fucking but those ones that she does have sex with, seems to be some real wild sexual encounter including an occasional anal sex. By the way, she has got nicest ass and have made sure in the past to show them off to me when she knew I was looking. The last time was when she bent over behind me to pretend fixing something in her shoes. Needless to say, she got me hot and she noticed it with the bulge that she saw grew inside my pants. I just smiled at her and she knew it. She will be coming over for a visit in the coming week and though I've flirted with her girlfriend in the past, I didn't go any further than that. The last time was during a visit in which we were drinking and having a casual conversation with her when i mentioned to her that her ass is a real turn on for me and I would love to bury my face between her cheeks at which point, she just smiled at me and said, Maybe sometime soon... we'll see and she kept looking over to me during the evening. I told my wife about this and she said that I should have made a go for it as it would have been just fine with her as she and I have both fantasize about having sex with her friend and get into some hot threesome. Yes we have had some hot fantasy about it and admit some of our hottest sex together have been when we were both fantasizing about doing her girlfriend together and also some role playing too. She feels very comfortable with us having a sexual encounter with her girlfriend and basically gives me the go ahead to initiate it. I'm looking forward to doing everything to her when the opportunity presents itself and hope that this first threesome encounter will be one of many more to come. I think she'll be a good one for us to do it with.

07-29-2004, 05:36 PM	#12 (permalink)
soosicc Registered Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 4 Location: Washington State	Re: Couples doesn't know how to find a women Well I appreciate all the replys. Thank you! I'll keep you posted. Although it's only been a couple days since we started searching Im not actively searching because I feel like when it happens it happens. Also I didn't really know how to approach the situation. I know the time will eventually present itself. There is this club around my town that has alot of bi-couples,lesibians, etc so maybe I'll go down there a couple nights and see what happens. I don't really have any friends who I am attracted to at this point but hey maybe I need to make new friends I appreciate everyones responses . Thank you so much!!!

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