What keeps you from contacting a person or couple?

[exploringRM]

One of the websites we are on has a wishlist. Similar to a friend's list, just segrated from friends..profiles you have come across that you may be interested in. And on any website we all come upon many profiles that grab our interest.

What if anything keeps you from contacting? I was asking myself the same thing tonight as I was going through the wish list.

For me the main driver is availability to meet. I look at our schedule and typically there are few free dates in the near future. If feel a little odd initiating contact and saying..let's set up a date to meet 2 months from now! There may also be a distance issue that compounds the scheduling issue.

But there are other things. Perhaps I feel we are not quite in the couple's age range..(out on the upper side). If the couple is really hot, my insecurities come into play and thinkg..what interest will they have in us. We consider ourselves attractive but we're not 35 anymore.

There ARE times I used this list as a reminder when there is an event with a guest list and I see our wishlist couples attending. Then I'll send an email expressing an interest in meeting.

[interested-05]

frequently we might have a couple we are talking to and hope to meet, as a result we don't want to get to many possible dates at one time. There may be a better way to look at it, like throwing a wider net to catch more fish, but we are looking for friends not just playmates.
On the other hand, If someone were to get in touch with us, while we are talking to a couple, we would open the door to them if they are interesting to us.

[The Fuse]

If we think we might be interested, things that would keep us from contacting them are:

We're too busy for the next few weekends to comfortably meet anyone new. We'd rather wait until we could schedule a meet.

We're not contacting new couples, because of whatever is going on to de-motivate us. This is the headspace we're in right now. Just don't have the internal motivation.

We're pretty sure they would reject us.

[exploringRM]

Originally Posted by The Fuse

If we think we might be interested, things that would keep us from contacting them are:

We're too busy for the next few weekends to comfortably meet anyone new. We'd rather wait until we could schedule a meet.

We're not contacting new couples, because of whatever is going on to de-motivate us. This is the headspace we're in right now. Just don't have the internal motivation.

We're pretty sure they would reject us.

Hmmmm, perhaps we need to plan a Virginia vacation

[DiscreetDesires]

We will mostly look through the ENTIRE profile of couples that we might be interested in.
There can be quite a few things that would hinder us from contacting a person or couple, which might include;

* A big weight difference +/- than we are.

We don't want to feel superior or inferior to anyone, and when talking about being sexually involved with someone, there has to be an attraction value.

* A big age difference.

We prefer people who are 10yrs +/- our age

* If they are too far from us.

Too many others to choose from locally, without having to drive 100+ miles to just meet someone.

* If they list as "Will only full swap".

We are about the whole experience, and someone who lists "Will only full swap", sends us the message that anything else is just not worth their time. We love having friends first and foremost, and it just puts a bad taste in our mouth.

* Female is not bisexual.

I (Mrs. Discreet) am bisexual, and I prefer for the other female to be bisexual as well. It only enhances the playtime.

* If they only have pics of gentalia

A few pics of genetalia are fine, and even GREAT.. hehe. But, we are more interested in the person as a whole, and not just the naughty bits.

* If, on the profile, they have no face pics and do not include that they will reciprocate face pics.

We like to see who we will be meeting beforehand. It's not great to get a huge shocker when you meet someone who you thought was great, and then them not being what you imagined.

Lots of other aspects go into it as well, just depending on our mood, but this is the basic of what may deter us from contacting someone.
Again, We can be at a meet and greet or lifestyle club and see/meet them, and our opinions can change of them as well. Personality always overshadows some of our pre-meet observations.

[Tia Vampire]

We will not contact a couple if.....

1.) There are no face pics of the couple.
2.) Both halfs of the couple are bi.
3.) The couple is only looking for g/g play.
4.) The couple is only interested in watching not participating.
5.) There is no attraction from the face pics.
6.) The couple is out of our age range.
7.) We have nothing in common/ same interests.
8.) The way we have seen them treat each other at parties.
9.) They have written 420 friendly and you must be too in they're profile.
10.) We feel when a couple has HWP written in they're profile, they are looking for Barbie and Ken.

[Tia Vampire]

oh yeah
11.) If the couple only play bareback.