Craig’s List Experience

[ncmd_couple]

After reading here that several people have used Craig’s List successfully, I was curious to see how it worked. So I came up with an advertisement in the casual encounters area that I honestly thought no one would respond to. Basically “Married White Male – 51 – Seeking Friend, Possibly With Benefits.”

I must have gotten 50+ e-mails supposedly from some sexy young thing “that just moved to my area and really wants to jump my bones. Oh yeah, and because there are so many fakes here, please validate yourself through this site I use.”

The surprising part is that I was contacted by a SBF not to far from me. I have introduced her to the Swinger’s Board and helped her with her internet security.

Bottom line as far as I’m concerned, Craig’s List is the junk yard of internet sites. I won’t be using it again.

[BiloxiCouple]

You get what you pay for.

It can work. I've gotten rid of things on it.

[ncmd_couple]

Oh, I didn't expect to get anything out of it. We aren't playing right now because there are too many things going on in our lives. I was surprised at the number of BOT e-mails though. I guess there are people stupid enough to click on the links from those or they wouldn't still be in business.

[mikeandjenn2001]

Yes, unfortunately there are people stupid enough to click on those links. In their section of rants and raves, there's even people complaining about it. We've used it for hookups, but few and far between. Mostly what we've used it for is when we need a good laugh at the rants and raves.

[bbarnsworth]

Spammers succeed and continue to use their tactics because 1% of the population is stupid enough to keep doing it, and that's roughly 2 million adult people in the U.S. alone.

Early on when my wife and I were getting into swinging, I went into an IRC chat room supposedly for swingers. I was rapidly overwhelmed by bots shaped like 20 year old bisexual Miss Americas and acting like I was the last man on the planet. Needless to say, I never tried that again.

Early on, we also signed up for AFF. What an education! We had no idea there were more single hotties looking to talk to us from our town than our town has population. I'm glad we found that out. <cough>

The only swing resources we use online now are this site and Swing Lifestyle.

[JustAskJulie]

I haven't even been able to "get rid of things" on it. The couple of times I've tried that I got hit with nothing but bot responses trying to pay me more than I was asking and have me ship to Nirobi.

Funny thing is a single older lady (who is celebate) told me that she posted an ad on Craigslist looking for a date and I about fell out of chair. The scary part is that she actually found a guy willing to chat with her via phone for a month before they met and who (so far) seems to be ok with the idea that he's not gonna get any.

[cplnuswing]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

I haven't even been able to "get rid of things" on it. The couple of times I've tried that I got hit with nothing but bot responses trying to pay me more than I was asking and have me ship to Nirobi.

That's the truth. I was a Craig's List newbie until just a few weeks ago when I listed a vehicle and discovered that old, worn out jalopies are evidently in extremely high demand and go for top dollar everywhere but here. In just a couple of days, I had probably 30 contacts. Only one was sorta legit - he wanted me to drive to meet him halfway, and he lives just 30 miles away!

After that experience, don't think we'll be using Craig's List for swinging now or ever.

[sandkats]

The first experience we attemtped to have was via craigslist. Ever tried it? It is a wonderful land of deginerates, malcontents, illiterates, fakes, flakes, gawkers, stalkers, creepers, peepers, and just about any other unsavory character you can imagine. With a fresh faced naivete, rivaled only by pubescent boys perusing their first dirty magazine, we entered the unknown.

I posted a few well written (if I do say so myself) ads and responded to a few more. Unbeknownst to me, the ads I posted and the ones to which I responded went to: foreign countries where simple English is a second language, the penitentiary where the most vile criminals are housed, and
spammers. My level of disdain for the aforementioned group is in ascending order as listed in the previous sentence.

Only after several days of frustration, did we decide to leave the land of CL for better opportunities. So, we loaded up the wagon and travelled across cyberspace and landed in the territory of of Swing Lifestyle. We still visit CL occasionally. We have had great success finding: lawn mower parts, selling cars and motorcycles, people willing to let us experiement on their DNA in our basement mad scientist lair, organs for sale, Drs who still use leech therapy, and people who (like us) cling to a belief that the sun rotates around a flat earth.

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[Hellsgate]

Yeah, I got the confirm-identity-via-third-party-site BS. *rme's* But there are some seriously hot (pregnant & otherwise) girls on there. *sighs* If only I could get Jenn (my LD gf in Drumheller) here to Vancouver or me to Drumheller. We've discussed certain fantasies.

[qreskupl7476]

I sold my snowmobile on craigslist, pretty quickly actually and got a better price than I likely would've had I advertised it in the paper. I had been advertising it by word of mouth for over a year and hadn't garnered much interest. Listed it on craigslist and someone from 120 miles away came and picked it up, and payed cash. I got a lot of scam mails in the process, but they're pretty easy to pick out and avoid. I listed a pickup truck on craigslist and didn't manage to sell it, but I did get a few semi serious inquiries mixed in with the fake offers and scams. I've gotten some pretty good deals on there too.

When it comes to meeting people however, we have a friend in the lifestyle that recently met a guy on craigslist. Chatted with him for 3 months before she agreed to meet him. Everything was going fine, seemed like a nice guy so they went to a hotel . . . and then he raped her. Yes, they had already agreed to have sex from what we understand, but she hadn't agreed to let him beat the tar out of her, which he did. We know other people who have met some really cool people on craigslist, so it's all a matter of keeping one's wits about them. Just like with anything else.

[Meetussoon]

I, Tom, had a great CL experience just this weekend. Was travelling for work, checked CL as a source of potential fun. A couple had posted about a potential mfm, stated they were new to the practice, and wanted to chat on yahoo a bit first because of a less than great experience prior.

I chatted with the female half throughout the day while at a conference, and exchanged pictures. Later that night they let me know they had discussed it, and invited me to visit. It was a fun night, they enjoyed themselves and it was a relaxing, satisfying romp. They said they were very happy I had responded. So CL isn't all BS, scammers, or bi/gay men.

Tom

[shy_couple]

We have some friends who use CL , they claim with more success than their SwingSite profile. We play with them as a couple. They said they have met a few couples on there but ther majority of there scenarios, throught CL, involve single men. Maybe thats their key to success.

We occasionally flip through the casual encounters for a giggle but have never tried to answer or post ads there. We have had good luck selling a used cand household goods there.

[SouthernGent88]

Originally Posted by Meetussoon

I, Tom, had a great CL experience just this weekend. Was travelling for work, checked CL as a source of potential fun. A couple had posted about a potential mfm, stated they were new to the practice, and wanted to chat on yahoo a bit first because of a less than great experience prior.

I chatted with the female half throughout the day while at a conference, and exchanged pictures. Later that night they let me know they had discussed it, and invited me to visit. It was a fun night, they enjoyed themselves and it was a relaxing, satisfying romp. They said they were very happy I had responded. So CL isn't all BS, scammers, or bi/gay men.

Tom

Tom...I'm glad it worked out for you using craigslist. However for every experience like yours, there are probably at least 50 single guys searching for MFM that respond to ads that are spammers or bi/gay guys. I don't understand the latter because there is a section for M4M. I don't even bother responding to casual encounter ads on craigslists. That goes ditto for the vanilla women seeking men dating section on craigslist. If an ad is posted by an attractive twenty-something year old seeking to date someone, 9 times out 10 it's too good to be true.

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by shy_couple

We occasionally flip through the casual encounters for a giggle but have never tried to answer or post ads there.

This is exactly how I first started to consider the possibility that my husband and I could have anything other than vanilla, non-monogamous sex. I read the Casual Encounters section of Craigslist. I would never have considered placing an ad there -- too many freaks and weirdos. But it started me wondering whether it might be possible to actually do something out of the ordinary. So although I've never used it for anything other than selling household goods,
Craigslist is indirectly responsible for my husband and I finding the lifestyle.

[appliancesex]

wow there's a lot of cl hate out there. it is what it is, and to quote someone else, you get what you pay for.

we use cl a lot, and have found a lot of really cool people out there. we use it because it is free. naturally we get a bunch of spam, single men (regardless of whether or not we are looking for that sort of thing or not) and the 'verify yourself here' or 'check oout my profile posted here!' crap. but all in all, if you ask for certain criteria and people don't do it, you just move on to the next response. in all honesty it isn't that much different than regular dating sites.

we also use it because we're bi, and it's not exactly the preference to openly share with others out there, at least we've found that to be the case. on cl, it's anonymity allows us to set the stage for what the other couple sees before you meet. this way straight couples don't waste everyone's time by sending us an email they won't reply to.