Opinions on how you would respond...

[exploringRM]

Recently we received an email from a couple and they wrote: they like our profile, are interested in meeting and will look for us at an upcoming M&G that we are attending. We are on the event list (as well as our tag line) on Swing Lifestyle so that's how they know we are going.

I checked their profile and we're not interested in this couple from a play time standpoint. On the high end of our age range and there's just no physical connection based on the profile.

I'm on the fence as to how to respond. I don't want to seem rude and say no, we don't want to talk to you..always willing the chat with people. But I also want them to understand there's no interest on our part of a sexual nature.

I can either send an email now and say...thanks, be happy to talk at the M&G but I don't think we are compatible, blah blah. Or just meet (if they find us) and then email later that we are not interested. Had they just inquired about meeting I would have said we're not interested but I don't want to come off like an asshole and say no..we will NOT talk to you..lol.

The M&G at the end of this week so I need to decide soon.

Thanks for your e-pinions!

[The Fuse]

I'd write back and just say you're always happy to meet new people, and you'll see them there. They can figure out in person that you're not interested in play, either by your body language, by the fact that you express no interest, or by your polite refusal if they get as far as asking you. No harm in being friendly and it's not like it would do you any good to say "no" before they've even asked.

[exploringRM]

Originally Posted by The Fuse

I'd write back and just say you're always happy to meet new people, and you'll see them there. They can figure out in person that you're not interested in play, either by your body language, by the fact that you express no interest, or by your polite refusal if they get as far as asking you. No harm in being friendly and it's not like it would do you any good to say "no" before they've even asked.

Lol, I had forgotten, early on WE had received a reply like that "Always happy to meet new people" but not much more. I got the hint pretty quick

Thanks for kicking the dust out of my brain.

But I am interested in hearing how others may deal with this differenlty..always good to have a variety of replies.

[sweet_tna]

I'd keep my reply friendly but non-committal. People are often not the same in person as they are in their profiles. More than once, Mr. Sweet and I have met someone at a party or M&G that we wouldn't have given a second glance to based solely on their profiles. But in person, they were great. Perhaps they were new, and didn't know how to create a good profile, or just hadn't updated it recently.

Of course, there's also the chance that they're exactly as advertised, and just don't do it for you. In that case, they'll probably catch on to the lack of interest as soon as you meet.

=)

[Chicup]

Wow, its great to hear from you as we would have never thought to contact you. Of course we would love to speak with you at the meet and greet, its not often we get to get the perspective of a much older couple in the lifestyle as we tend to only know the younger crowd. They say photos can be misleading and we hope that is the case!

Look forward to seeing you.

You know people say I can be passive aggressive, but I have no idea what they are talking about.

[sweet_tna]

Originally Posted by Chicup

Wow, its great to hear from you as we would have never thought to contact you. Of course we would love to speak with you at the meet and greet, its not often we get to get the perspective of a much older couple in the lifestyle as we tend to only know the younger crowd. They say photos can be misleading and we hope that is the case!

Look forward to seeing you.

You know people say I can be passive aggressive, but I have no idea what they are talking about.

(snort!)

[exploringRM]

Originally Posted by Chicup

Wow, its great to hear from you as we would have never thought to contact you. Of course we would love to speak with you at the meet and greet, its not often we get to get the perspective of a much older couple in the lifestyle as we tend to only know the younger crowd. They say photos can be misleading and we hope that is the case!

Look forward to seeing you.

You know people say I can be passive aggressive, but I have no idea what they are talking about.

OMG!! That is too funny. They are really not MUCH older than us. we are late 40's, they are late 50's. I've not had a chance to show my wife the profile yet but my instincts on our likes is usually right on.

And as far as meeting for real and deciding we may have in interest, I can understand that happening..but there are contacts where you say..well maybe and contacts that you just don't feel it's a match.

[fun4Ds]

I have never met anyone interested in us, from (online personal sites) in the lifesyle, that I wouldn't chit chat with a little bit, in person. Especially at a meet and greet/party.

They didn't ask to have sex in the PM, it sounds like they just want to say hello.

Tell them if they do see ya, to be sure and say hello

The toes we step on today may somehow be connected to the bodies we want to lick tommorow.....

[spvcouple]

Regardless of whether you want to play with them or not, it seems to me that common courtesy demands a reply e-mail. Yes, even IF you are going to see them this weekend at a party.
Sometimes us old codgers cannot connect a face with an e-mail address. The response assures that they know you are not ignoring them.

[DigginIt]

Here is an exact response we gave a couple the other day. I'd be curious to see what everyone thinks.

"Hey, sorry it took us a day to get back to you. We did get a chance to talk last night and look at your profile. You are both attractive but we just didn't feel the initial connection to move to the next step - maybe you felt the same after we opened our pictures Thank you very much for your consideration of XxxxX and I and maybe we will catch you at a social sometime. Thanks. XxxxX & XxxxX"

Since you are meeting them at a social then you might want to reword it with we would love to chat with you at the social and meet new friends in the lifestyle, etc but this is our typical thanks but no thanks.

[Additude]

Fuse said what I would have said.

No sense in burning a bridge. Just be polite and act uninterested. You never know, meeting in real can be quite different than meeting on paper. Don't rush to conclusions. There's no harm in telling them face to face there is no connection.

[DigginIt]

Originally Posted by Additude

You never know, meeting in real can be quite different than meeting on paper.

Yea, sometimes it can be much scarier !!

[Additude]

Agree.

That prospect is absolutely part of that equasion also.

[SecretAsianMan]

A polite, "Yes, we'll see you at the Meet-n-Greet" would be fine. You're in no way committing to anything more than just saying "Hello"

[gator8r]

It is just a meet and greet, not a paid hotel room for the 4 of you. There will be other couples, maybe some that you already know. You can alsway just meet and greet them and then move along to the other couples that you are more attracted to.