Contacting without reading the profile

[shy_couple]

This may be the wrong catagory but here goes.

We belong to Swing Lifestyle. We have a couple of standard responses when contacted. 1. Thanks but no thanks. 2.Sounds like we have some things in common. Lets chat and see where it goes. Then we give out our YIM and email. (We usually will give a personal response to anything asked in the email or profile)

Our profile has evolved to be fairly long. We dont have much time to go out or chat so we feel the more we lay out there the better. We are listed as couples only, no single men, we are soft swap couple max, and our age range is 30-45. This is again stated clearly and in bold/cap letters that we DO NOT full swap in the first paragraph. We go on to say we are not interested in cyber,camming, or pic exchange.

We did the second recently to a couple. Our response was "you are a little younger than we usually meet but we can chat and see if where it goes." He chimes in on YIM and introduces himself and invites us to click to view their web cam. I do and then he says that since we dont have one they cant open theirs, its a rule (???). So we say ok, sure we really aren't into that but since we were invited. Red flag one. We exchange pleasentries and then they ask what we are in to. We say soft swap. They said oh, we do full swap when everyone is comfortable (we made it a recent rule not to meet full swap couples since we have had some unwanted pressure in the past). So we politely remind them that our profile clearly states that we are Tame/moderate and it states we DO NOT full swap. They say sure they think we are sexy and want to chat. Red flag two. They said something about being able to host. We said no we have kids, we prefer hotels. They said they have a 9 month old but host with him at home. they werent very responsive to the session so we said we could never play with chilren in the house. Some time goes by and the say he woke up once when they were playing but the wife was finished so she handled it. Red flag three. We stopped for a minute and said politely, that we enjoyed talking to them but we didnt think we would make a good match. They said yea, we want full swap anyway and just closed the window.

What the hell are wrong with people?! We should have stuck with our gut and said no thanks when they contacted us. We usually dismiss people under 30 and more recently under 35 because of maturity level. Maybe we just need a situation like this occasionally to remind us to stick with our gut.

[xxxboxy]

Nothing ventured nothing gained...but respect is still fundamental.

We constantly have folks engage in chat who don't appear to have ever read our profile. Oddly it's mostly folks that are 100's of miles away, cracks me up 'cause there is no way I'd drive four hours to get laid. With that said, it doesn't hurt one bit to chat with them or to be polite, even if you're telling them that you're not a good fit.

[realcplub2]

When we get a email, the first things we do, is OPEN THE PROFILE, of the sender..

They either give clues right off, we arent on the same page, or looking for the same things right off the bat..

Great examples is listing We arent looking for single guys.. then getting a letter, flirt, or whatever from one..

So, just a suggestion, but make a save reply rather simple:

Did you actually READ our profile? Sorry, but READING IS FUNDIMENTAL