Not even receiving a "Thanks, but no thanks" Email

[interested-05]

sometimes not responding isn't intentional , it may simply be one partner meant to show it to the other partner later when they got home, but it slipped their mind, and your email got lost in the blackhole of electronic junk mail.
other times its simply ignored. There are also so many single guys who (rudely) failed to read the profile statements saying no single males, that couples no longer bother responding to single males.

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by interested-05

sometimes not responding isn't intentional , it may simply be one partner meant to show it to the other partner later when they got home, but it slipped their mind, and your email got lost in the blackhole of electronic junk mail.

That's a very good point. Mrs Spoo and I discuss messages before we respond (as most couples do, I'm sure) but finding the time to sit down together can be difficult to prioritize.

What we do is keep them closed until we can both read it - though one or the other will take a look without actually opening it. This way there is always the little "bird" to remind us to take a peek when we get a chance.

There was actually a couple on the board - way back in the day - who sent us a message and we did not find the time to respond. So they started a thread about it since they could tell that we'd been on-line. They were discrete enough not to call us out, but when we responded to the thread giving our approach (keeping the email unread so we don't forget it) they were very apologetic.

Still we ended up sending them the "thanks but no thanks" reply.

It was nice to catch their potential for drama early.

Spoomonkey

[cplnuswing]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

That's a very good point. Mrs Spoo and I discuss messages before we respond (as most couples do, I'm sure) but finding the time to sit down together can be difficult to prioritize.

What we do is keep them closed until we can both read it - though one or the other will take a look without actually opening it. This way there is always the little "bird" to remind us to take a peek when we get a chance.

That's exactly our tactic too. We understand the frustration and anticipation involved in waiting several days for a response from someone, but that's just the reality of it. At this point in our lives, we're not a "hey, let's meet tomorrow night" type of couple, so odds are if they get uptight about having to wait a little bit for an email response, they probably aren't the type that will be satisfied in waiting a couple of weeks until we can get things lined up for a late night.

[AskMeOk]

It is said, "Some people just ain't got no cooth." And if they ain't got no cooth, you'll never get a response. Add them to you potential sex mate fecal roster and forget them.

Just a "Sorry, not interested" is a minimum for good manners....

[twoforone100]

As usual I agree with the fuse. We DO sent out a reply email to everyone. For at least the first email..... If we have said " We don't feel the magic, good luck in your search" And they send us another that may or may not get a reply.


People who say we reply to everyone on their profile have not sent a reply to us. It happens don't sweat it.