friend requests

grabbyzz · 11-03-2009, 12:10 PM

So we have an ad on a personals site. The other day we get this friend request from someone we don't know, never even chatted with, which is nothing new...thing is when I look up their profile it says right in their ad that any friend requests made without a prior email or chatting will be ignored....anyone think it would be overly rude to copy that into a reply email and send them?

bbarnsworth · 11-03-2009, 01:10 PM

Wow. Rather funny!

If you do forward it back to them, couch it as humor.

xxxboxy · 11-03-2009, 01:37 PM

I'd do that in a heartbeat.

CXXC · 11-03-2009, 01:58 PM

OH! PLEASE DO!!!!!!
To have that posted on their profile yet not follow their own rules is bad form. I can only imagine how they would treat the desires or wishes of others!

**BiloxiCouple** · 11-03-2009, 02:05 PM

Keep us updated. We need a good laugh of the day. Thanks.

SecretAsianMan · 11-03-2009, 02:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by grabbyzz

So we have an ad on a personals site. The other day we get this friend request from someone we don't know, never even chatted with, which is nothing new...thing is when I look up their profile it says right in their ad that any friend requests made without a prior email or chatting will be ignored....anyone think it would be overly rude to copy that into a reply email and send them?

Guess they don't have to play by the rules they want everyone else to follow, eh??

LikeMinds321 · 11-03-2009, 02:31 PM

Are you interested in getting to know them? Then find a nice way to introduce yourselves and let them know you are confused about the "friends" thingy...do they think they met you already? do they think they've previously corresponded with you? It's possible it may be a simple case of mistaken identity.

However, if you aren't interested in them, I vote against contacting them to point out their contrary behavior. Let's face it, you'd only be doing it to make them feel stupid and to put them in their place. No one likes that and they would likely reply with hostility. If you want that kind of reaction, or like the hassle of that type of drama, go ahead and point out the error of their ways.

LM

***JustAskJulie*** · 11-03-2009, 04:55 PM

That's kind of right up there with requiring pictures of both halves of the couple but not providing the same.

Not sure which site you are dealing with, I know on Swing Lifestyle it doesn't tell others when you friend them. We use that list just to keep track of those we want to find easier (which usually are actual friends/ people we know). It seems odd to me that someone would friend you on a site like that without having even contacted you first.

exploringRM · 11-03-2009, 05:29 PM

We used to be on AFF (among others that we still are) and we routinely received friend requested from people we didn't know. And some quite a distance away.

**LFM2** · 11-03-2009, 06:23 PM

I don't think it would be rude, but I think it's absolutely appropriate considering the situation. I'm curious if they email you back.

**SW_PA_Couple** · 11-03-2009, 07:03 PM

It was many year ago that we walked away from AFF, never, incidentally, looking back. But we remember friends requests. My advice is best ignore it. If they really want to get to know you they will think of a better way of introducing themselves.

~Michael

realcplub2 · 11-03-2009, 07:40 PM

We have a rule of thumb, if they are beyond our "target range" we write and ask thier intentions.. We have folks from 1000 miles away, we still flirt with, but for the most part unless we know them prior to, or are within 100 miles of us, we send a simple note explaining why it would be a waste of time.

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11-03-2009, 12:10 PM	#1 (permalink)
grabbyzz Here to Stay Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 86 Location: utah Status: couple	friend requests So we have an ad on a personals site. The other day we get this friend request from someone we don't know, never even chatted with, which is nothing new...thing is when I look up their profile it says right in their ad that any friend requests made without a prior email or chatting will be ignored....anyone think it would be overly rude to copy that into a reply email and send them?

11-03-2009, 01:10 PM	#2 (permalink)
bbarnsworth Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 1,870 Location: South Central Indiana Status: Couple	Re: friend requests Wow. Rather funny! If you do forward it back to them, couch it as humor.

11-03-2009, 01:37 PM	#3 (permalink)
xxxboxy Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 360 Location: Near Seattle Status: Male half of couple Swing Lifestyle Name:xxxboxy	Re: friend requests I'd do that in a heartbeat.

11-03-2009, 01:58 PM	#4 (permalink)
CXXC Veni, Vidi, Veni!!!! Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 952 Location: Savannah GA Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:cxxc1963	Re: friend requests OH! PLEASE DO!!!!!! To have that posted on their profile yet not follow their own rules is bad form. I can only imagine how they would treat the desires or wishes of others!
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11-03-2009, 02:05 PM	#5 (permalink)
BiloxiCouple Julie's Helper Join Date: Sep 2002 Posts: 4,002 Location: Biloxi, Mississippi Status: Couple with benefits and retired Swing Lifestyle Name:graceful	Re: friend requests Keep us updated. We need a good laugh of the day. Thanks.
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11-03-2009, 02:31 PM	#7 (permalink)
LikeMinds321 I'll think about it Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 10,099 Location: With Wild Things Status: Married Female	Re: friend requests Are you interested in getting to know them? Then find a nice way to introduce yourselves and let them know you are confused about the "friends" thingy...do they think they met you already? do they think they've previously corresponded with you? It's possible it may be a simple case of mistaken identity. However, if you aren't interested in them, I vote against contacting them to point out their contrary behavior. Let's face it, you'd only be doing it to make them feel stupid and to put them in their place. No one likes that and they would likely reply with hostility. If you want that kind of reaction, or like the hassle of that type of drama, go ahead and point out the error of their ways. LM

11-03-2009, 04:55 PM	#8 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,288 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Re: friend requests That's kind of right up there with requiring pictures of both halves of the couple but not providing the same. Not sure which site you are dealing with, I know on Swing Lifestyle it doesn't tell others when you friend them. We use that list just to keep track of those we want to find easier (which usually are actual friends/ people we know). It seems odd to me that someone would friend you on a site like that without having even contacted you first.

11-03-2009, 05:29 PM	#9 (permalink)
exploringRM Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 850 Location: York, PA Status: Couple - he posts/reads Swing Lifestyle Name:hereforfunrm	Re: friend requests We used to be on AFF (among others that we still are) and we routinely received friend requested from people we didn't know. And some quite a distance away.

11-03-2009, 06:23 PM	#10 (permalink)
LFM2 ~This space for rent~ Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 4,750 Location: across the tracks Status: Couple	Re: friend requests I don't think it would be rude, but I think it's absolutely appropriate considering the situation. I'm curious if they email you back.
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11-03-2009, 07:03 PM	#11 (permalink)
SW_PA_Couple Julie's Helper Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 4,679 Location: Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania Status: a very married man Swing Lifestyle Name:SW_PA_Couple	Re: friend requests It was many year ago that we walked away from AFF, never, incidentally, looking back. But we remember friends requests. My advice is best ignore it. If they really want to get to know you they will think of a better way of introducing themselves. ~Michael
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11-03-2009, 07:40 PM	#12 (permalink)
realcplub2 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 806 Location: North Central Florida Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:putnamcocpl	Re: friend requests We have a rule of thumb, if they are beyond our "target range" we write and ask thier intentions.. We have folks from 1000 miles away, we still flirt with, but for the most part unless we know them prior to, or are within 100 miles of us, we send a simple note explaining why it would be a waste of time. There are sites that have "membership" specials for "popular members.. free or reduced members for those who gain a couple hundered friends int he first month
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