new to personals..please bear with..:)

[Karmickiss]

Hi All,
I'm hoping I'm understanding this forum right, and don't mean any disrespect if I'm not doing this the right way, and for this reason, am open to feedback, so that I can learn.

My experience with posting ads is nil. For whatever reason, I only had one experience through online, and it was kind of accidental. Was younger then, and it happened to be kind of a horror story, and largely due to my ignorance, and it wasn't on a site like this. I really like it here, and feel safe enough to try my hand at this.

The truth is, that I'm just now looking to get back into the scene, and feel rusty at best. Also, where I can be very open once I've met someone(s), I can be a bit shy, I guess, and am looking to make some friends, and possible play mates.

I could probably use some good advice in this area. When I was more active and looking before, it just happened that situations unfolded. Some experience with the one club I found locally, but think it would be fun to go with others instead of always alone, just to help me feel less awkward, and/or possibly other "scenes".

I am a single bi female, and ideally would like to meet some couples, and perhaps even other single females or maybe a single male, if there's a connection. I don't jump into any situation, and would like to make sure that we all have common goals and expectations. I consider myself friendly and approachable. I am a sucker for sincerity, good sense of humor, and good communication/honesty.

I live in Mass. I am not sure if it's TMI at this point, or not enough? I can say that I think talking to others who are maybe more experienced or "in the swing of things" would always be helpful. Sincerely, karmic

[xxxboxy]

I wish you weren't so far away....

[SecretAsianMan]

Originally Posted by Karmickiss

Hi All,
I'm hoping I'm understanding this forum right, and don't mean any disrespect if I'm not doing this the right way, and for this reason, am open to feedback, so that I can learn.

My experience with posting ads is nil. For whatever reason, I only had one experience through online, and it was kind of accidental. Was younger then, and it happened to be kind of a horror story, and largely due to my ignorance, and it wasn't on a site like this. I really like it here, and feel safe enough to try my hand at this.

The truth is, that I'm just now looking to get back into the scene, and feel rusty at best. Also, where I can be very open once I've met someone(s), I can be a bit shy, I guess, and am looking to make some friends, and possible play mates.

I could probably use some good advice in this area. When I was more active and looking before, it just happened that situations unfolded. Some experience with the one club I found locally, but think it would be fun to go with others instead of always alone, just to help me feel less awkward, and/or possibly other "scenes".

I am a single bi female, and ideally would like to meet some couples, and perhaps even other single females or maybe a single male, if there's a connection. I don't jump into any situation, and would like to make sure that we all have common goals and expectations. I consider myself friendly and approachable. I am a sucker for sincerity, good sense of humor, and good communication/honesty.

I live in Mass. I am not sure if it's TMI at this point, or not enough? I can say that I think talking to others who are maybe more experienced or "in the swing of things" would always be helpful. Sincerely, karmic

While it's not the focus of this site to arrange "hook-ups" or "encounters" ... I'm sure some of it has happened (especially if y'all happen to be close to one another geographically)

That being said... I'm glad you've found the site and I like your posts. It's a shame you're all the way across the continent from me.

[bbarnsworth]

Karmickiss, based on the postings you've made so far here, I seriously doubt you'll have any problems finding good couples or singles with which to play. You seem to be a wonderful person.

As a bi-female willing to play with couples, you're the proverbial unicorn. There is a massive, massive list of couples who are looking for you, and in your area. I'll guarantee it. I can't, based on your postings, imagine you being arrogant, stuck up, or in any way obnoxious. But, you are something unusual in the lifestyle. You have the opportunity to be selective in finding exactly what you want. You don't have to be hurtful to anyone, but you can be selective. That might come across as arrogant to some people, but this is afterall about your happiness. Be selective.

If you put up a profile on swinglifestyle.com or some other site, be prepared for a flood of e-mails. I can't overestimate the number of e-mails you will receive. You may wish to have your profile be very specific about what you are looking for. As a way of filtering out hundreds of e-mails, you can probably ignore one-liners you get like "Hi. You seem nice. Check out our profile. If you like it, let's chat". That could be sent to anyone. A couple looking for you should demonstrate it by really reading your profile and responding to it, not just a generic contact.

I wish you the best of luck. If you want more advice, we're open 24/7/365 here

[SecretAsianMan]

Strange grammatical question:

Should the correct term "bear with me" ... or ... "bare with me" ... when it comes to swingers?

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by SecretAsianMan

Strange grammatical question:

Should the correct term "bear with me" ... or ... "bare with me" ... when it comes to swingers?

Both.

[SW_PA_Couple]

I recommend finding the Swing Lifestyle Web site and enrolling as a free (non-paid) member so you can compose a single-woman profile and search the other on-line profiles. Free members are also able to send messages. If you like the place, you will have the option of becoming a paid member. There is, apparently, no limit of time for being a free member. Explicit photographs are no required and are, in fact, discouraged. The posting of a photograph with a profile is not even required.

Swing Lifestyle, from my experience, has a smaller proportion of subscribers who will waste your time. You should, none the less, be prepared to kiss a lot of toads before you find your prince. One single-female subscriber of our acquaintance told us she received an average of fifteen messages a day during her first month of membership.

~Michael

[BamaRide]

Originally Posted by SW_PA_Couple

I recommend finding the Swing Lifestyle Web site and enrolling as a free (non-paid) member so you can compose a single-woman profile and search the other on-line profiles. Free members are also able to send messages.

NOT if you are a single male on that site...why I dropped it... The only way single males can send emails under the free service there is if they are spoken to first.

Swappernet.com on the other hand doesn't have such restrictions for free accounts. (others, but you can at least corrispond with people).

BamaRide

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by BamaRide

NOT if you are a single male on that site...why I dropped it... The only way single males can send emails under the free service there is if they are spoken to first.

Wow! This I did not know. Sounds like a valuable feature.

~Michael

[femnewb4u2]

Your posts have been wonderful to read. Thank you for jumping right in.

The advice you have been given for Swing Lifestyle (swinglifestyle.com) has turned out to be a good resource for me. I have had the opportunity to meet some great people through it.

Here is something you may want to consider; You may have noticed the threads for profile reviews. Should you set a profile up through Swing Lifestyle, note your Swing Lifestyle name in your information, then post a request in the "Singles Profile Reviews" under the Forum of "Singles and Swinging". (I would send you to the link here, but alas, that is out of my range of online skills.)

Members of SB will be able to look at your profile, review it, and help you in designing one that will suit your particular desires and goals.

I am aware there is another site or two the members may have access to through SB, but I have to differ to the moderators to note the names of those.

[Karmickiss]

Hi All!
Wow! I was so happy to come on here today and find such great responses! Thanks you very much, everyone, I really appreciate the thoughts. Thank you bbarnsworth, for all your kind and wise words, it make me feel good, and gave me some things to think about. I really like what you said about not having to be hurtful in any way, and at the same time take some time and care into things. I so have to smile, b/c I'm recalling, and it was quite a while ago, an experience I had...where something was not quite right, a bit off...and all of a sudden the malf half of that equation forced me to have to become kind, but firm. I consider myself a polite person, and when I was younger could sometimes find myself in a tough situation when having to be assertive. I had to laugh about the generic contacts...I know, those would not have enough content, or nothing personal and warm.
Thanks to to SW_PA_Couple, too, for the information. It does sound like your friend recieved quite a bit of mail. I have never put myself out there in this kind of way before, it was always chance. I went to one club on and off, and drove a long distance then, I hear that one now has a closer location. I like to go to gay clubs, too, if I was to go out, another thing I haven't really been doing, but feel like it's a new start. Or I'd know and become friends with someone who I then find is into swinging. This would be the first time, placing an actual ad.
Thanks to to femnewb4u2 for the idea of making a profile, and then bringing it for review. I'm feeling really good about all the nice things that were said, and loving the helpful insights. I will have to do some thinking and feel better about getting started. I wish all the best of luck in all things, and adventures. I so adore reading through the forums here, and getting a feel for everyone.....Sincerely, karmic

[SecretAsianMan]

Originally Posted by BamaRide

Swappernet.com on the other hand doesn't have such restrictions for free accounts. (others, but you can at least corrispond with people).

BamaRide

Really?? I tried this site a while back & it wouldn't let me read any of my incoming emails from other members without becoming a paid member first. Gawd, I hate that.