420 friendly

[SW_PA_Couple]

I finally learned the origin of the 420-friendly that you see in so many on-line profiles. I had known what it implied; that they like to smoke weed. But why the number 420. Why not 260 or 289 or 999? Well, it seems it is a calender date -- April 20, National Pot Smoking Day. Ha, ha, ha, ha. I feel so out-of-touch with popular culture. I am really alone in this? Tell the truth. Did you know that 420 was a calender date?

~Michael

Post Script: Before you start to dispute this fact, I'll tell you right now, I did not get it from Wikipedia. I heard it on NPR so it has to be right.

[TheLorax]

Actually, it's origin is lost. Even NPR doesn't always get the facts right

The 4/20 date came after the origins, and that's probably how most people know it. I did some extensive research on it about nine or ten years ago when I started seeing it as graffiti in some of the natural areas I frequent.

I have nothing against responsible pot use and might smoke it occasionally if it were legal (occasionally being once or twice a year), but it and most drugs (caffeine being the exception) hold little interest for me.

[Chicup]

One theory was due to when CA schools got out in the 70's or some such and 420 was when the kids would smoke after school.

All I know is it means we avoid the profile

[xxxboxy]

Originally Posted by Chicup

All I know is it means we avoid the profile

Same.

[socolais]

I thought "everyone" knew what 420 meant. I think it started as something of a secret code that only the insiders knew. The secret has been out so long that its not news anymore.

I wonder what it is about being "420 friendly" that makes a couple less desirable as playmates.

[VegasLee]

I am with Chicup on this one.

We don't care if you smoke it but have a problem with people that feel the need to advertise it.

Seems most people we know smoke it but none of them feel they need to publicly promote that fact or do it around us.

[creamshot2112]

"High Times" says that 420 was a code used over the radio by LA police. It is said to mean "someone smoking pot in a public place"

[TheLorax]

Originally Posted by creamshot2112

"High Times" says that 420 was a code used over the radio by LA police. It is said to mean "someone smoking pot in a public place"

When I was researching the subject a decade ago, the only concrete fact I could find was that the first references in literature I could find was in LA, sometime in the mid to late 70s. There were equally credible sources for it starting in a specific HS regarding the times kids would agree to meet to smoke, and the police code. And it could be that the kids took that from the police code and vice versa.


As I said above, I don't have an issue with people who use it recreationally in a responsible fashion, but people who need to be high all of the time aren't really people I want in my life. I don't drink much (once every month or two I'll have a glass of wine and that's about it), and neither of my partners do either. I don't have any issue with people who use alcohol in moderation either, but I don't want to be around people who have to drink to cope with life. Most of my friends, if they smoke pot or drink, do so to a fairly light degree. We distance ourselves from people who have to be messed up to get through the day, people like that have issues that we really don't care to be involved with.

[BamaRide]

Well I didn't have a clue about 420... nor does it bother me that I didn't... If someone has to enhance their mental state to enjoy themselves and others then I just don't feel drawn to that situation.

Does that make me 420 unfriendly? Not really...

BamaRide

[xxxboxy]

I won't keep company with anyone that I know has illegal possession of a controlled substance. I also don't hang out with folks who brag about speeding far in excess of the posted limits, or anyone who's proud of tax evasion...see a pattern yet?

[Alura]

The biggest problem with marijuana is that it's illegal. I, too, don't like to see folks overdo it but it's truly a sad thing that it can't be used for a myriad of purposes that would make life easier for some folks. California has made a step forward recently. Hopefully, the rest of the country will follow suit.

My idea is to tax it and use the proceeds to fund medical care insurance.

Now for my confession. (Don't call the TPD!) When Laura died in February, I was having a really bad time. I couldn't stop crying. Coping seemed impossible. An old friend came by and shared a joint. (I hadn't smoked pot in a very long time.) It was only moments before the tears stopped. (I don't know if this was a physical effect; weed is known to dry out the mucus membranes.) A few seconds later I was giggling, as was my friend. We spent a few hours together. Since that time I no longer have thoughts of joining her and my mind has been directed to the future. I don't know about cancer victims but I can assure you marijuana can be a boon to bereaved widowers.

Mr. Alura

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by Alura

The biggest problem with marijuana is that it's illegal. I, too, don't like to see folks overdo it but it's truly a sad thing that it can't be used for a myriad of purposes that would make life easier for some folks. California has made a step forward recently. Hopefully, the rest of the country will follow suit.

My idea is to tax it and use the proceeds to fund medical care insurance.

Now for my confession. (Don't call the TPD!) When Laura died in February, I was having a really bad time. I couldn't stop crying. Coping seemed impossible. An old friend came by and shared a joint. (I hadn't smoked pot in a very long time.) It was only moments before the tears stopped. (I don't know if this was a physical effect; weed is known to dry out the mucus membranes.) A few seconds later I was giggling, as was my friend. We spent a few hours together. Since that time I no longer have thoughts of joining her and my mind has been directed to the future. I don't know about cancer victims but I can assure you marijuana can be a boon to bereaved widowers.

Mr. Alura

I'm with you, Alura. I haven't tried pot since graduate school, and basically I don't do it because it's illegal. I don't want a bloody trail to end with me getting high. But it can be a good thing, just like alcohol, and I had to smile when a friend quoted the adage that "no one ever got in a bar fight after smoking a joint".

That being said, if someone feels being 420 friendly is important enough to include on their profile, that makes me a little suspicious of their judgment. I figure that means they are inclined to include pot in their swinging activities, and I don't want to be around when they get busted.

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by The Fuse

That being said, if someone feels being 420 friendly is important enough to include on their profile, that makes me a little suspicious of their judgment. I figure that means they are inclined to include pot in their swinging activities, and I don't want to be around when they get busted.

Exactly. Its not so much a judgment about pot but a judgment about the couple. I'm most likely in the minority in that I've NEVER tried it, nor will I, but I'm not naive enough to think that everyone we know is clean too. They just don't make it a part of their life thats important enough to find people who make it a part of their life too.

Its like putting your political inclinations in your profile. It will turn off those who don't share your views, because obviously your views are so important to you need to share them with anyone.

[RDfnd]

Originally Posted by Chicup

Exactly. Its not so much a judgment about pot but a judgment about the couple. I'm most likely in the minority in that I've NEVER tried it, nor will I, but I'm not naive enough to think that everyone we know is clean too. They just don't make it a part of their life thats important enough to find people who make it a part of their life too.

Its like putting your political inclinations in your profile. It will turn off those who don't share your views, because obviously your views are so important to you need to share them with anyone.

Quite opinionated responses that may or may not be warranted. Loosen up! Perhaps those that state it are just attempting to communicate it's OK not mandatory. 420 and politics? In Swing Lifestyle- Drinkers OK/ Smokers OK. Just some indications of habits. Hypothetically, all of us that participate in this alternative lifestyle want unique sexual experiences. There is an abundance of advice to communicate, communicate, communicate. Even if one doesn't like it or for various reasons or didn't want to be around it, is it worth eliminating a potentially otherwise great couple? Would it be better for them to not raise the issue and just show up expecting that it is OK? I am continually fascinated by those that can presumably think "outside of the box" sexually, but may be considered so judgmental on other issues. We don't indulge regularly, but sex and 420 can be a great experience.

[xxxboxy]

It's not judgmental, it's called not breaking the law and not putting yourself in a position to come under legal scrutiny. I may not personally agree with many laws but that doesn't mean I get to ignore them and do whatever I want.