Question About Friends' Certs on Swing Lifestyle

[JandCMI]

The background...

Some friends of ours (who are very discreet, non-kiss and tell types) have a cert from a couple we'd really enjoy contacting to see if they'd be in to meeting us. We know our friends well enough, but don't know the other couple aside from ogling over their profile on Swing Lifestyle and the cert on our friends' profile.

I really have three questions here. First, would it be creepy if we said something to our friends like, "hey, we see you're friends with this couple, we've been ogling their profile for a while now and we want to meet them..."? If we don't do that and just email the other couple, should we say, "hey, we see we have some mutual friends..."? Or is that creepy, too? Or, is contacting certs on friends' profiles just off limits?

[Chicup]

You could just send a normal email and not mention your mutual friends.

[interested-05]

simply email them meet them as you would any other couple. if all are interested great, if not its simply between the 4 of you anyway. any thing beyond that can wait for another day

[LFM2]

We are also one of those couples that do not kiss and tell. We have met people before who will mention, "Hey, we talked to Mr. X and he says he's knows you guys through the LS and that you're a great couple." It makes us uncomfortable to talk about past play partners to others. First of all, it's really none of their business, and secondly, we prefer discretion.

In that respect, I'd go with Chicup's advice and not mention the mutual friendship.

[JustAskJulie]

I think I'd go through the mutual friend and see if maybe you couldn't get them to arrange a group night out or something. At the very least everyone will have one couple they click with (they just might end up fighting over them). At the best you'll have some good group fun.

[ClosetSwinger]

I say contact them and don't mention your mutual friends.

[exploringRM]

Originally Posted by LFM2

We are also one of those couples that do not kiss and tell. We have met people before who will mention, "Hey, we talked to Mr. X and he says he's knows you guys through the LS and that you're a great couple." It makes us uncomfortable to talk about past play partners to others. First of all, it's really none of their business, and secondly, we prefer discretion.

In that respect, I'd go with Chicup's advice and not mention the mutual friendship.

It's a very small world and eventually people will be interconnected to many couples. I don't mind people mentioning they know us, as it does not mean anything more than we met. We meet many couples, and are friends with couples where we have not played (maybe at some point, maybe never)