I'm a hotwife--somewhat like swingers and have problems with guys

[bradandmacy]

Yeah, I'm looking for cock, but so many are so aggressive and the replies are so goofy that sometimes I just throw my hands up in the air.

They write for Example: So, when can we fuck.

#1 . I'd like to fuck you and think your hot. I'm 6'3 200lbs and well hung.


#2. Well, it doesn't tell me anything but this guy is goofy if he thinks that I'm just going to go meet up with him. He didn't say anything about his interests sexually or anything..and didn't include a photo. This is what I get 90% of the time.

#3. I think swingers sites should include a diagram of what people should put about themselves, and no matter what , they should always have a photo in their profile. Cause' 9x's out of 10 they aren't real anyway if they aren't including a photo. This is what I've always experienced. And...when they don't include a photo, sometimes they are just plain self concious. In my opinion, they shouldn't be in the lifestyle to begin with if they are that self concious and have their own issues to deal with.

I know, I'm a bitch...lol.... but at least I'm truthfull.

Macy

[Meetussoon]

Well put Macy, over agressive types who just say lets fuck are ignoring the respect all people deserve, and the social, hillarious side of the people we meet.

so, wanna fuck? Meetussson -- formerly from Dayton, how ya been?

Originally Posted by bradandmacy

Yeah, I'm looking for cock, but so many are so aggressive and the replies are so goofy that sometimes I just throw my hands up in the air.

They write for Example: So, when can we fuck.

#1 . I'd like to fuck you and think your hot. I'm 6'3 200lbs and well hung.


#2. Well, it doesn't tell me anything but this guy is goofy if he thinks that I'm just going to go meet up with him. He didn't say anything about his interests sexually or anything..and didn't include a photo. This is what I get 90% of the time.

#3. I think swingers sites should include a diagram of what people should put about themselves, and no matter what , they should always have a photo in their profile. Cause' 9x's out of 10 they aren't real anyway if they aren't including a photo. This is what I've always experienced. And...when they don't include a photo, sometimes they are just plain self concious. In my opinion, they shouldn't be in the lifestyle to begin with if they are that self concious and have their own issues to deal with.

I know, I'm a bitch...lol.... but at least I'm truthfull.

Macy

[Additude]

Macy,

I wouldn't say your a "bitch" as you put it. I would say your just calling the shots as you see them and you sound pretty dead on to me.

It's not going to change, I know it's frustrating, but your going to have to believe in the power of the delete button for awhile.

Be true to yourself. Don't accept less than you are looking for and eventually the mud will settle to the bottom and you'll find what you are looking for.

Keep your chin up.

[Dave_kat]

There is a couple that has quite clearly definied what they are looking for in a single male in the area where Dave is now.

They go on to list all of these qualities - truly single, between such and such an age, must have face pic and other pic, and then they have subty put in there to tell the single male to put "I'm applying for your search for a decent single male" (or something like that, I'm not looking at the profile right now) in the subject line.

Single males are forced to actually read the profile at least to even get them to open an email. I can't say how well it works, but heck, thought it was interesting

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by bradandmacy

I know, I'm a bitch...lol.... but at least I'm truthful.

Bitching is a God-given right.

We all have to grin and bear it. If swinger's Web sites did not solicit and sell memberships to single males, including the many married cheaters and the socially inept, they would have to make up for the loss in revenue by charging each earnest swinger several hundred dollars a year. When JoAnn and I receive a message from an asshole, we say to ourselves, well, at least he is a paid asshole.

~Michael

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by SW_PA_Couple

Bitching is a God-given right.

We all have to grin and bear it. If swinger's Web sites did not solicit and sell memberships to single males, including the many married cheaters and the socially inept, they would have to make up for the loss in revenue by charging each earnest swinger several hundred dollars a year. When JoAnn and I receive a message from an asshole, we say to ourselves, well, at least he is a paid asshole.

~Michael

Ha! I never thought about it that way! So true!

And to the OP: yes, whether you're looking for swinging couples or a good single guy, wading through pools of "stuff" on the way to the diamonds just comes with the territory. Sorry not to have a better take on it... but if you ask 100 swingers on this Board that question I'll bet 98 of them would say the same thing. Good luck out there... good things do happen.

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by The Fuse

Ha! I never thought about it that way! So true!

I'd be willing to shell out the extra money if it kept that type off the sites.

[bradandmacy]

I'd be willing to shell out a couple of extra hundred dollars a year so save my self a couple of hundred hours of BS : ) . Another thing... when I ask for a pic, 9x out of 10... they send a dick pic first thing instead of their face..(ha ha). I don't mind the dick pic, but would definitly like to see a face pic first but rarely get that.

Macy

Originally Posted by Chicup

I'd be willing to shell out the extra money if it kept that type off the sites.

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by Chicup

I'd be willing to shell out the extra money if it kept that type off the sites.

Oh, here's a recipe for some angry men... charge single guys more for site memberships than other people. THAT'd get people going. They get charged more to go to parties already, so...

Yes, I'm mocking, and I know you didn't suggest that. I don't know what the right answer is. We're a little spoiled since we're not looking for single guys, we have them blocked on Swing Lifestyle, and don't get much email from them on AFF.

To the OP, I think whoever suggested going to clubs that allow single guys had a very good idea.

[truckerbuddy]

Macy.

you said. "they should always have a photo in their profile." but I do not see a photo on your profile at this time.

I don't think a pic is what I want to see as much as a description that would make someone want to look..

Eximpol

Now, I am 46 years old. I top the scales at 285lbs, I'm 6'3" tall.. I have bedroom blue eyes (so I have been told), Going bald on top. but there is still a fire in the basement. I drive truck for a living, so I'm hear to day and gone tomorrow. But i still love to laugh and listen to old rock and good country music. At times I like to just stay in with a good move and maybe a cold drink ( hot is good too ). I do enjoy long walks in a park or beside a lake/river.

NOW if you got this, would you want to know more?

I'm sorry your finding the little boys that clam to be swingers. you sound like a lady that knows what she want..

good luck in your search.

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by truckerbuddy

. . .you said. "they should always have a photo in their profile." but I do not see a photo on your profile at this time. . .

Where did you pick up the hint as to where to find an on-line profile for bradandmacy? I see none. There is certainly no profile, for example, at Swinglifestyle having this name. I see nothing in the Swingersboard profile that points in any particular direction.

[truckerbuddy]

I was talking about the profile here on the board, and i think I have seen some with pic. going back and looking at my profile.. I have a pic of me on it.. I know its and a few years old ... but that's me..

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by truckerbuddy

I was talking about the profile here on the board, .....

Since this isn't a hook-up site, I don't see why she would need a pic on this site.
Or am I missing something?

[truckerbuddy]

Originally Posted by two4youinswva

Since this isn't a hook-up site, I don't see why she would need a pic on this site.
Or am I missing something?

I know this site is not for hooking up, but she said "they should always have a photo in their profile." and then she dose not have a pic on/in here.. whats good for one sites is good for others, right?? but its all good.

[rpu3]

I know this site is not for hooking up, but she said "they should always have a photo in their profile." and then she dose not have a pic on/in here.. whats good for one sites is good for others, right??

We are heading off-topic here, but the OP is a new poster, and he or she cannot upload a custom avatar, and maybe even the profile pic, until they have 10 posts. The OP has four. Just a little FYI as to why the OP might not have a picture here - not that it is required in the first place. It's a discussion board, not an online personal ad service, although we do have one forum for "ads".