Looking for a site with less posers & fakes!

[smoothwaitress]

We are a middled couple from nj. Not new to the life but new to this site. We are presently on swingerslifestyle. Can anybody suggest a site that has less posers and fakes. We recently moved back to NJ after living in Florida.
Mike and Mary

[DigginIt]

Hey guys! Welcome to the boards. Unfortunately, it seems the ratio is about the same across the sites that Mrs. Diggs and I have visited. Then across all the sites you see about 75% of the same group of people.

Take that with the understanding that Mrs. Diggs and I are pretty new so you will probably get a better answer soon from a veteran.

Take care and look forward to seeing more posts.

[SW_PA_Couple]

WELCOME, Mike and Mary, to The Swingersboard. Glad you have joined us here.

From a pair of veterans, my wife and I, you will probably find no Web site have a more favorable ratio of earnest people to frauds than Swinglifestyle. You might also be interested in reading the forum Finding People Online - The Swingers Board, maybe even post your question there for better visibility.

~Michael

[BiloxiCouple]

I think the same Posers and Fakers have found all the websites and move back and forth thru the sites.

[exploringRM]

We are on a number of sites. Swinglifestyle, AdultFriendFinder, AltPlayground and LoveVoodoo. We've gotten the most success from SwingLifestle and AltPlayground AltPlayground and LoveVoodoo do not allow free members (except for some promotional awards) so I think there is a larger population of "real" people. Of course you still need to weed through sex in same room, soft swap, full swap, and all of the variations of what people are looking for.

SwingLifeStyle has a very wide cross section of people, so you are going to find you are not interested in many. Just like waking through the mall, only a small number of people you will find attractive and want to see naked

[Tia Vampire]

Try Geoswingers.com. They have found a clever way of weeding out the fakes from the real swingers.

[erotichugs]

thats very hard to find.. all the sites we have tried we end up getting 100s messages from single males.. guys pretending to be girls.. or guys pretending to be couples where the "WIFE" is always doing something else.. like she is in the KITCHEN.. AT WORK or in the SHOWER..

we have made sure that we mention in the profile that we are only interested in COUPLES ONLY but for some reason most singles / posers think that they can / will be an exception..

Guess thats par of the course when online.

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by exploringRM

AltPlayground and LoveVoodoo do not allow free members (except for some promotional awards) so I think there is a larger population of "real" people.

It is very possible that Lovevoodoo has a good proportion of real people. Many profiles expired, however, months or years ago but are still visible. So you will be sending mail to people who will never read it.

[Ed & Bunny]

Originally Posted by Tia Vampire

Try Geoswingers.com. They have found a clever way of weeding out the fakes from the real swingers.

I dont think clever is a good enough word for what they are doing. Their methods need to be the set standards for lifestyle sites. Unfortunately they seem to be mostly for couples in The Florida area. Lucky for though.

[corynlaine]

I would love to find out what the H*ll do these people get out of pretending?

I mean do people ACTUALLY end up going to bed with some guy who spent the last 10 e-mails lying about how his wife wants do do this and then shows up by himself??

the other thing that we find amazing is how "couples" never seem to have an actual picture of HIM at all. Never mind that half the shots of the female seem like they were taken without her knowledge.

[ALilOEverything]

Originally Posted by corynlaine

I mean do people ACTUALLY end up going to bed with some guy who spent the last 10 e-mails lying about how his wife wants do do this and then shows up by himself??

I never had a man actually show up by himself. I had several different variations of fake. It was always men. Some were waiting for their wives to agree but I think even if they did and found out their husbands were already contacting people I'm sure they would change their minds. One husband actually sent nude pics of her without her knowledge. Some knew their wives would never do it so they would hope you would accept them as single men. Others were just wanting advice on how to approach their wives. Some just wanted women to cheat with and thought if you would have sex with others in front of your husband you would do it behind their backs. I think there are some who are just there to see who's a swinger locally because they might recognize someone.

[DigginIt]

We have a lot of friends on PlayfulSwingers.com and while we do not really care for the site, they do have a pretty good validation program that is very easy to get yourself certified as real from the administration team. We hit SwingLifeStyle daily but the other board about every other week.

Mrs. Diggs and I prefer to not be "certed" as I find myself often looking at the certs of the couple we are considering playing with and based on who they have played with previously ( I hate to sound this way) I make decisions if I want to play with them. Very hypocritical I know. That's what is nice about the validation system on PS. It's unfortunate that we just don't really like that site.

[BiloxiCouple]

Originally Posted by corynlaine

I would love to find out what the H*ll do these people get out of pretending?

I mean do people ACTUALLY end up going to bed with some guy who spent the last 10 e-mails lying about how his wife wants do do this and then shows up by himself??

the other thing that we find amazing is how "couples" never seem to have an actual picture of HIM at all. Never mind that half the shots of the female seem like they were taken without her knowledge.

All it takes is one couple to go for it. Just like spam and telephone solicitors.

[sweet_tna]

Hi and

=)