How to word that PROFILE/AD to weed out BI men?

[TXColombia]

Any suggestions on how to word your add to weed out BI men? My wife and I enjoys threesomes. Bi women are no problem but Bi MEN are a deal breaker for several reasons. 1st, I am strait, 2nd, my wife fears that a Bi man has a much higher % of having AIDS than a strait man and she has been hesitant to ¨Play¨ with another man for that reason unless she knows them very well, and even then there are no guarantees.

If we word the profile/add ¨No bi men¨, then they will just say in a response they are strait ect...

If anyone has had this problem we would be very interested in hearing your solutions.

[red96]

We have found that it does not matter what you put in your profile, people that do not fit your criteria will still contact you. We have it stated in our profiles that we are not into Bi play but we still get messages from men and women that are Bi. We just politely decline when we get messages like that.

[Chicup]

Well if they are going to lie to you they will.

If you want to be sneaky you could ask after the initial emails if the guy is open to bi activity, implying that you want it. If he says yes then you know.

Of course that might scare off a straight one

There is a level of uncertainty you will never be completely free of.

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by Chicup

If you want to be sneaky you could ask after the initial emails if the guy is open to bi activity, implying that you want it. If he says yes then you know.

Of course that might scare off a straight one

Sounds like a good idea for an episode of Sinefeld.

[rickmccool]

I thought Chicup would've given you the sad news, but I guess I'll have to. You're gonna have to buy a penis meter!
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[Chicup]

Originally Posted by rickmccool

I thought Chicup would've given you the sad news, but I guess I'll have to.
You're gonna have to buy a penis meter.

Methinks the lady doth protest too much.

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by Chicup

Methinks the lady doth protest too much.

In which case, I'll have to shake my spear at her

To take the discussion back on-track and to agree with some of the earlier comments, I do not believe it is possible to say anything in a profile that would deter a bisexual men who, for some reason or another, does not have his bi-sex flag on display. Maybe it's more likely to acquire AIDS from a bi-sexual man, maybe not. AIDS can, in any case, be carried just as effectively by a heterosexual person as by a bisexual person. We are all taking our chances with that.

~M

[IvoryTowers]

Maybe you and your wife can step back from your hysteria for a moment and ask yourself why a bisexual man would contact a couple where the guy announces himself as "strait" and not interested in any guy/guy action.

Do you really believe he's going to try to feel you up in the middle of a threesome? Perhaps thinking you won't notice? At best, that would end the night and at worst he'd get beat up, so I can't believe a bi-guy would bother contacting you and lying about his preferences, no matter how incredibly hot you must be.

However, if you are convinced that any man might be bi and wouldn't reveal, I guess you'll just have to stick to only sleeping with other women.

[slevin]

We've played with a couple where the guy was bi-curious before. I'm totally straight and not curious at all, we were just up front and let them know that there was no chance of guy-guy play. They didn't care, they were up for playing with another couple where the guy was straight. He never tried to grab my ass or slip his dick anywhere while I wasn't looking

The only thing that doesn't address really is your concern over an increased chance of hi having aids. In that case you really can't ever be sure the guy has never had anal sex with another guy or not. You'll also not know if he used to be an IV drug user, which has a dramatically higher chance of contracting AIDS (when sharing needles). Can never be sure, can just be informed and careful If it's a big concern to you and your wife then just avoid playing with couples where the guy is listed as bi, bi-curious or "prefer not to say".

[realcplub2]

Just say so.. and be firm about it..

Of course we all know that Bi guys are really just out of control and couldnt be in the same room with a guy with dragging them to the floor and forcing a blowjob on them right?

Beyond that, try a green lantern power ring, they can usually tell

[funcpl4life]

"Absolutely No Bi Men" will keep them from bothering you, but it won't keep them from looking at your profile and masturbating....mmmmm......

Mr FC4L

[Chicup]

The hostility in this thread is amusing.

11% of all new aids cases, and 71% of all total cases, are from MM activities even though the % of MM activities in the country is listed at 5-7%. This is from the CDC not Chicup's tight ass.

The wife being worried about this is not unreasonable, though personally I think the chances are low in swinging couples. I'm not so sure this applies to single males though.

Either way the condensation in this thread is unwarranted, and atypical for the swingers board to a new couple.

[RW1F]

Chicup, you beat me to it.

[Chicup]

Edit: That should be 51% of all new aids cases not 11%, typo.

[N8ture Girl]

We know of two couples personally that the man is openly bi. We had stated upfront that hubby was straight. Never had any issues with it and all boundries were respected. We as a couple dont really care if the man is bi, just as long as he is respectful of the hubby's wishes that he isnt interested in MM play. I doubt very seriously that any bisexual male will cross that kind of boundry because the ramifications would not be worth it.
Remember bi men are people too and not some raging sex crazed disease carring sub human. The original poster has a valid concern and as long as its stated up front, then thats all thats needed. Putting "no bi-men" is fine as well. Just dont yell it and repeat it 20 times in your profile...