Why, why, why do they lie about weight?

[NCfuncouple98]

Why is it that every profile we have looked at recently, or every couple that has made contact with us recently, it is way too obvious that the weight listed is so off it's ridiculous! And painfully obvious!

I (Mrs. NC) am very proud to say that I am 5'1 (and a 1/2), and my current is weight is 153 pounds. Oh, how I wish I could say 135 pounds again. Working on it, slowly. But why would I mislead? Just because I DESIRE to be 135 or less does not mean that I am. I am fun-sized, curvy, and very proud! Sometimes not so proud, sometimes a typical insecure woman that always thinks "These jeans make me look fat". Nope, not the jeans, it truly is some extra padding. Oh well, move on.

So being the size I am, and looking at some profiles, where a woman states she is 5'3 135 pounds. Um yeah, 135 pounds from the waist up!

A few months ago we were contacted by a couple, with full pictures. Her statistics listed her at 5'1, 140 pounds. That would make her lighter than me. I could've fit in her dress twice! So we actually did ask if the pictures were current. Their response was no, they're a little old, I've lost weight since then. Wait, wouldn't you be proud to show off the weight loss and post new pics? Saw them at the club a few weeks later. We understood why there were no updated pictures. Nothing had changed.

What is it that causes people to completely misrepresent themselves in this manner? Won't it be obvious if you choose to meet in person? What are they hoping to gain? Is it the husband creating a profile without her knowledge and guessing? Ok, I can forgive that one. Did the husband create the profile without her knowledge, lied, hoping to meet others?

Any woman on this board knows that it is very easy for or weight to fluctuate +/- 10 pounds. Can happen within weeks. But to mislead by 40+ pounds? If they are so willing to lie about their weight, what else would they lie about?

We are absolutely not looking for Ken and Barbie, or trying to sound superficial. We just want honesty. Period. You can't hide 40 pounds when the clothes come off. So why try?

Mr & Mrs NC

[CXXC]

I think you may be on to somehting there. At first I always asumed that they were just not telling the truth. but now, I think your thoughts are more along the truth. the men creat a profile and have NO CLUE as to the actual weight. This can be forgivable to a certain extent but once the woman sees the mis-print, she should report the correct wieght.

The photo thing gets me too! We actually went to meet a couple who SWORE that the photos were updated recently. I guess the lady walked by an air hose on the way to the meeting cuz she was a good 25% bigger thant he photos. Our decision not to play had nothing to do with her weight and everythig to do with their personalities. A little off, if you will!

I guess you can blame the media for all of this. After all, there is not such thing as TRUTH IN ADVERTIZING these days! Hece the saying, "Let the buyer beware!"

I agree with you aobut the 10+- matter compltely. I will even go as far as say 20+- for winter months. But after that, COME ON!?!?! They don't think people willnotice. More over, they dont think this will be thought of as a ruse or even worse, an out right lie?

If a couple lies aobut one thing, what else are they going to lie about? That is what I concider most when looking at profiles that seem a little off. When I meet them in person, the matter is escalated and my ire is up!

We are not snobs. We do not turn away from everyone but Ken and barbie. We would be very frustrated if that were so. We look for the total package. Small, medium, large...It is the individual that matters. As a couple, if they both mesh well with us, we dont harp on the phisical.

WHEW! I think that one hit a nerve. Sorry!

[slevin]

Funny, I actually was quietly cursing the people who list their height, but have their weight blank, or at 0lbs. It's a dead giveaway that she's a bit overweight (at best, and always seems to be the woman, never the man listing himself at 0). Sometimes thats no big deal at all; there are very many women who are incredibly sexy regardless of their weight. It's the feeling like they are trying to hide that fact that is a bit annoying. We're not too worried about what your actual weight is, we're not skinny bobble-heads either, but we do need to find you attractive and if we meet we're going to find out whether you just didnt fill out the weight for some unknown reason, or whether you actively didn't fill it out because you're 40lbs heavier than you wanted to admit to! Sounds kind of snobby writing it here, but as you said we're going to meet in person at some point so why try to play a game there at all?

Hope that doesn't come across badly lol, can be a touchy subject.

[NCfuncouple98]

Hit a nerve with us too, which prompted the post. So much of it lately! It's like bathing suits, where I read an article "Don't worry if the bathing suit you buy is 2-3 sizes bigger than your normal size, they're just made that way". Then why make them that way!!! Arrgh.

Weight is a sensitive subject, especially for women, I know. But like you (and we) said, you can't hide it when you meet in person, so what are you trying to hide anyway? If you're not proud of who you are, then the low self-esteem that you suffer from will NOT entice us to want to get to know you, be your friend, or even consider sharing our spouses with you!

[truckerbuddy]

WOW 153 lbs MMMMM don't lose any more .. I like a girl I can on top of me.. them gals that say 115 lbs ... hummmm ... there fun to look at but do i want to sleep with them .. I'm afraid i would roll over on them and .... oh hell you know



I'm 6"3" 290 lbs just a big old redneck

[JustAskJulie]

I have seen a few where they both list their weights at 0, or from the pictures it's obvious she's not overweight - so why list it as 0? I don't get it.

As for the listing the incorrect weight, I've noticed it too. And your post got me thinking... I don't know if it's the guy not knowing, or the woman assuming that mostly men will be looking and won't really be able to tell what a real weight looks like (since most women lie about their weight anway - right? :rollseyes. But, what they don't count on is other women DO look at the profiles and other women know what a certain weight/ height combo looks like based on their own weight/ height and can tell if that body in that picture matches the dimensions given.

I'm 5"3, 135lbs. A year ago I was 5'3, 155lbs. Sometimes I look in the mirror and I still feel like I look 155lbs, it's hard to see the change. Othertimes, I know.. moreso when I go clothes shopping I KNOW the difference of what it looks like. Would Pet know the difference if he hadn't known what my weight was in both cases? I don't know, but I wouldn't assume that he wouldn't.

I think some women have been lying about their weight so long, and assume that others do it too, that they really honestly have no idea that people do know/ see the difference. And, then their husbands really may not know. They take their wife at her word for what she weighs (or they just guess).

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by NCfuncouple98

Hit a nerve with us too, which prompted the post. So much of it lately! It's like bathing suits, where I read an article "Don't worry if the bathing suit you buy is 2-3 sizes bigger than your normal size, they're just made that way". Then why make them that way!!! Arrgh.

I just read this and I have to reply... that makes no F'ing SENSE! Ok, when I was 20 I weighed about 110. The funny thing is that sizes HAVE changed since then. I know this because at 135 I am now wearing the same size I wore at 110. Make sense of that! So to tell me that it's ok if my swim suit is a couple of sizes larger than I know I wear because they are made that way is just backwards from what I have personally experienced in shopping over the last 15 years, and especially in the last year. The last time I was the size I am now was 6 years ago and I KNOW I'm wearing smaller sizes now than I was even 6 years ago at the same weight.

[lou lou]

To me its all about honest , if they can be honest about that , they are not going to honest about other things.
As CXXC as it about the whole package and if you click or not .

[CXXC]

EEEK!!!!!
What I see here are two options regarding the review of the profiles. Assume all women lie aobut their weigth and att 30 pounds or Just take it as it is reported and be plesantly surprised to meet a woman who reported it correctly!

Not posting a weight is just as bad in my opinion. That to me is like them saying, "Oh hell, they don't really care!" or "If I don't list it, perhaps they wont notice!" ACK!!!!

I have noticed men are more honest about this than not. The fact that most men know and rarely lie aobut it to others helps with the beliefe factor.

So women lie aobut it all the time huh? That is odd. Perhaps my little bubble of a world is aobut to pop! Mrs. CXXC comes through the bedroom screeming her wieght in frustration so often, I know what she weighs on a weekly basis. You would think someone as small as she is would feel OK with what she weighs. BUT NOOOOOO!!!!!! However, it is reported correctly.

6'4" 226 computer geek here! Was 231 a few weeks ago! Damn Easter vacation!!! ALL THAT HAM!!! I CAN'T HELP MYSELF! Mashed tatos, assorted rolls....... I'm drooling. Gotta stop!

[truckerbuddy]

WOW its all about honesty..


been seeing the word around a lot lately..

[CXXC]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

I just read this and I have to reply... that makes no F'ing SENSE! Ok, when I was 20 I weighed about 110. The funny thing is that sizes HAVE changed since then. I know this because at 135 I am now wearing the same size I wore at 110. Make sense of that! So to tell me that it's ok if my swim suit is a couple of sizes larger than I know I wear because they are made that way is just backwards from what I have personally experienced in shopping over the last 15 years, and especially in the last year. The last time I was the size I am now was 6 years ago and I KNOW I'm wearing smaller sizes now than I was even 6 years ago at the same weight.

REAON NUMBER ONE!!!!

By Dropping the sizes, they have incresed the sales of adult clothing. Children are now having to wear adult clothing (Costs more) as the sizing has been lowered to meet what was once the older childrens sizes.

REASON NUMBER TWO!!!!

By dropping the size of womens clothing to match the childrens bodies, the children are able to dress in more "Popular" fashions! this is why you see 10 year old gilrs dressing like 16 year olds and 15 year old girls dressing like 21 year olds!

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by CXXC

So women lie aobut it all the time huh? That is odd. Perhaps my little bubble of a world is aobut to pop! Mrs. CXXC comes through the bedroom screeming her wieght in frustration so often, I know what she weighs on a weekly basis. You would think someone as small as she is would feel OK with what she weighs. BUT NOOOOOO!!!!!! However, it is reported correctly.

I was being facetious about saying that all women lie about their weight. That does seem to be the attitude that some women take "well all women lie about their age and their weight" or that's just something you don't ask a lady. I've heard of women even going so far as to cut out the tags on their clothes rather than admit their true size.... but now that they are adjusting the sizes they shouldn't have to do that so much. Then again... 10 years ago all women strived to be a size 4. Now you can't be happy if you are larger than a 0! How the hell do you have a zero size anyway?! Shouldn't that mean you are wearing nothing!?

[CXXC]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

I was being facetious about saying that all women lie about their weight. That does seem to be the attitude that some women take "well all women lie about their age and their weight" or that's just something you don't ask a lady. I've heard of women even going so far as to cut out the tags on their clothes rather than admit their true size.... but now that they are adjusting the sizes they shouldn't have to do that so much. Then again... 10 years ago all women strived to be a size 4. Now you can't be happy if you are larger than a 0! How the hell do you have a zero size anyway?! Shouldn't that mean you are wearing nothing!?

Julie
Try my niece! 00! I swear her prom dress was the same width as the sleave of her prom dates tux! and the damn dress cost a fortune! Again, less fabric higher cost! I know!

I have never been so foolish as to ask a woman her age and I would NEVER be as suicidal as to ask her weight! HA HA HAH A HA!!! Just put the semi-auto against my temple and pull the trigger!

[exploringRM]

Our target range for play partners would probably be HWP, though that's hard to nail down. We're not restricting our search to super in shape people, heck we're not. But there is a range we desire. I do all of the online contacts and do get annoyed when the weight is not filled in. I don't understand why as sooner or later you are going to meet in person. I also don't like pictures that attempt to hide what one looks like. Like from the chest up, or the woman is behind something (her mate or some object). And actually I look at the weight of the man more than the woman as the wife has her preferences as well, 5'10 at 260 is not going to cut it for her, but 220 might be ok.

But I also understand that weight is not always an indicator of appearance as people carry it differently.

[sexcupid]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

I just read this and I have to reply... that makes no F'ing SENSE! Ok, when I was 20 I weighed about 110. The funny thing is that sizes HAVE changed since then. I know this because at 135 I am now wearing the same size I wore at 110.

I believe the phenomenon is known as "vanity sizing".

Some sizing issues are between companies...try a size 10 from 10 different stores and you might end up being in an 8 or a 12 depending on the manufacturer.