Whats up with some guys and online chat

[Ed & Bunny]

What is it with some guys in the online chat or phone calls. We are just not sure what to think. First off are my favorites, when I am chatting with the other guy. They always want to ask if Bunny likes cock or if she really likes to fuck. HELLO, would we be trying to meet people to swing with if she didnt? What would really impress me is if they would ask the best way act to make sure she is turned on. Unfortunatly it hasnt happened yet.

The second is way too many want to immidiatly talk sex when they get Bunny on the line. Now I understand that may work for alot of women out there, but not for Bunny. In fact we tell people in our profile that bunny is not into phone or internet sex. Yet still thats where they immidiatly try to go. Total turn off for her.

This all makes it really hard for us. When we are doing the online thing we are looking to try to make a good connection that goes beyond just sex. We would love the friends with benefits part. People we want to hang out with where we can shamelesly flirt with them anytime we are together and just have fun without having to hold back.

Well I guess we just keep trying. At least we are back in the scene meeting poeple again.

[JustMrJ]

Just like in sales or any other part of life... play the numbers, they WILL eventually work out.

Cheers!

[fun4Ds]

Wow, just reading your profile again and seeing that beautiful red hair of Bunny's . I could think of allot of better things to say .

Glad to hear your making an attempt to meet people again

As of lately, we haven't been pursuing single men. Good ones do exist though .

Although, it sounds like you've chatted with a few, we hoped to never meet

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by Ed & Bunny

What is it with some guys in the online chat or phone calls. We are just not sure what to think. First off are my favorites, when I am chatting with the other guy. They always want to ask if Bunny likes cock or if she really likes to fuck. HELLO, would we be trying to meet people to swing with if she didnt?

Are you referring to chat specifically here at The Swingersboard, chat at Swing Lifestyle or just on-line chat in general? This sort of thing both JoAnn and I have experienced with the Video Chat facility at Swing Lifestyle. Many will feel emboldened to express things in a chat window that they would feel foolish or inhibited "committing to paper", so to speak. As for the phone call experience, for many men, the only women in their lives have been two-dimensional; a page of a Playboy magazine or a moving image on a television screen who only communicates one way -- at him.

[corynlaine]

The longer I am here the more I am convinced that ALL single men skirting around the LS are like this. They simply believe in their heart of hearts that the M half of the couple is simply inadequate in some way or is cuckold.

I also think that this is due in large part to the swingers themselves.
The inter net is littered with adds upon adds of
Seduce my wife, pleasure my wife while I watch. "want big black cock" (which I find one of the most overt yet overlooked form or racism you can find today, but that's another thread) that all speaks to the idea, in the single male's mind at least, that you only need him because YOU can't do it.

the smarter ones just hide this better, get laid and are labeled the "good ones"

[CXXC]

Originally Posted by JustMrJ

Just like in sales or any other part of life... play the numbers, they WILL eventually work out.

Cheers!

JustMrJ
Unfortunately, this is the way the guys he speaks of think as well. It is unfortunate but true. These individuals simply refuse to accept the requests or requirements of others.

Sigh!

[red96]

You guys sound allot like us, my Mrs. is the same way. She is not really shy but does not like it when a chat conversation immediately turns to sex. It is stated in our on line profiles she will not cyber with anyone. Still a few have tried and are usually dismissed as someone that does not GET IT. We prefer to get to know a little about the person before discussing sexual likes and dislikes.

Most of the guys we have chatted with have been respectful and were Gentlemen. There are always exceptions to the rule though. If someone gets out of line they are warned once, if it continues to happen we move on and put them on our ignore list.

There are plenty of nice respectful Gentlemen out there you just have to take your time to find them.

[Ed & Bunny]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

Wow, just reading your profile again and seeing that beautiful red hair of Bunny's . I could think of allot of better things to say .

Glad to hear your making an attempt to meet people again

As of lately, we haven't been pursuing single men. Good ones do exist though .

Although, it sounds like you've chatted with a few, we hoped to never meet

I wil pass on your compliment to the Bunny. She doesnt appreciate her hair as much as she should.

The scary thing about this is that it is not the single guys we are talking about. They are married and part of a couple. Most we figure are just doing it when the wifes not around to hear, but one we do know would talk that way when the wife was around.

[Ed & Bunny]

Originally Posted by SW_PA_Couple

Are you referring to chat specifically here at The Swingersboard, chat at Swing Lifestyle or just on-line chat in general? This sort of thing both JoAnn and I have experienced with the Video Chat facility at Swing Lifestyle. Many will feel emboldened to express things in a chat window that they would feel foolish or inhibited "committing to paper", so to speak. As for the phone call experience, for many men, the only women in their lives have been two-dimensional; a page of a Playboy magazine or a moving image on a television screen who only communicates one way -- at him.

This goes for Swing Lifestyle, Yahoo, and the phone. The only exception to this rule is here on this board. All the contacts from here have been very polite.

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by Ed & Bunny

This goes for Swing Lifestyle, Yahoo, and the phone. The only exception to this rule is here on this board. All the contacts from here have been very polite.

My guess is these particularly-lonely husbands also find it difficult to relate what they feel to their wives. There was a Cleveland-based swingers'-connection Web site that tried to impose a system of interviewing couples on the phone before allowing them to advertise as a couple. Apparently did not work. The Web site was "off the air" only months after making it's first appearance. Made me think that the revenue generated by paid subscriptions of pests, cheaters and otherwise creepy critters keeps a swingers' Web site afloat financially. In my mind, putting up with pesky Video Chat is just part of the price that has to be paid.

~M

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by corynlaine

The longer I am here the more I am convinced that ALL single men skirting around the LS are like this.

You know in your heart the error in this generalization. We know more than one single man engaged in the lifestyle and most fit in well. Maybe I am just playing with words but the creepy ones who infest the chat places cannot actually be said to be engaged in The Lifestyle. I'd say that they are just biting the ankles of the people who are in The Lifestyle.

[CXXC]

Originally Posted by SW_PA_Couple

You know in your heart the error in this generalization. We know more than one single man engaged in the lifestyle and most fit in well. Maybe I am just playing with words but the creepy ones who infest the chat places cannot actually be said to be engaged in The Lifestyle. I'd say that they are just biting the ankles of the people who are in The Lifestyle.

I would have to agree with you. Although there is a certain percentage of uneducated, socially inept and thick skulled individuals within the lifestyle, I would be willing to bet on the idea that most of the men (must not exclude the preceved women) on the chat utiliites are simple posers and fakes.

Anyone with the slightest amount of social graces would know that jumping into a chat with sexual comments right off the bat will not work. I have yet to hear of a successful connection there, but I am not all knowing.