A strange trend? Seeking Financially Secure Swingers

[shy_couple]

Over the past few weeks we have noticed, on Swing Lifestyle, people seeking people who are financially secure. At first in one profile, then several. Are they asking to be paid for sex? Asking you to pick up the tab for the evening? Or just making sure they dont get stuck with the tab for food, drinks, hotel, or whatever?

With the economy all over the news, and hitting close to home, our entertainment budget is tight. As a result we are going out a little less and usually going to a club or house party when we do. But to us this is a weird red flag that may just be occuring in our area. Are others seeing similar postings? Any thoughts?

[ktimephoenix]

i think it's a "nice" way of ensuring you don't get mr and mrs welfare in the sack, so that A: you can actually relate with the person, and B: your not stuck with the bill. i mean if one couple thinks that McD's value menu is high class dining, and the other feels $15 for a meal is reasonable, there are going to be issues when it comes time to choose the meeting/play place.

Even before the "crisis" in Australia at least, plenty of people listed that they were "professionally employed", or stated that they were after "employed people".

[CXXC]

Hmmmm.... Interesting thoughts. I would think it is an attempt to find other couples who are in the same financial state as they are. Not so much to cover the tab and such, but someone who can go out and do stuff with.

Does money really matter? No. But socioeconomically speaking, there is a mind set that comes with financial stability. Perhaps they are simply looking for others with the same mind set.

THEN AGAIN!!!!!

It could be a great way to meet people who are well off, go out with them, have a great meal, drink or what have you, go to thier place, drop a couple Roofies in thier drinks, they pass out, you wipe them out.

Some times i scare me! Where do I get this shit? I gues it comes naturally! My mother had a bumper sticker on her vehicle that said, "Honk If you are rich!" They would honk, she would slam on the breaks! JUST KIDDING!

[Additude]

Originally Posted by shy_couple

Over the past few weeks we have noticed, on Swing Lifestyle, people seeking people who are financially secure. At first in one profile, then several. Are they asking to be paid for sex? Asking you to pick up the tab for the evening? Or just making sure they dont get stuck with the tab for food, drinks, hotel, or whatever?

With the economy all over the news, and hitting close to home, our entertainment budget is tight. As a result we are going out a little less and usually going to a club or house party when we do. But to us this is a weird red flag that may just be occuring in our area. Are others seeing similar postings? Any thoughts?

Have you considered the opposite?

I doubt your statement about "getting paid" for sex is an issue. However, not getting stuck with the bill, the tab for the evening, etc. is worthy of consideration.

Plus maybe some folks like to go out a lot, party, eat, dance, drink, vacation, sail, whatever, which costs money and they are also looking for people who have the finances to keep up.

I think there are several viable alternate considerations.

[fun4Ds]

I can't say we see that in profiles here in our area.

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by shy_couple

Over the past few weeks we have noticed, on Swing Lifestyle, people seeking people who are financially secure.

My best recollection is that these words have not, actually, begun to appear just recently. They have existed in a certain number of profiles for as long and we have been reading them -- in our case, several years.

I have a feeling that people who say "seeking people who are financially secure" are trying to say that swinging is not a poor man's sport but they don't know how to condense this message into just a few words. JoAnn and I have encountered the same situation that others have described here at Swingersboard. You are out with a couple on a get-acquainted date and you pretty soon come into the realization that they are trying to decided whether to order cocktails, dinner or dessert as they can only afford one of the three.

[exploringRM]

I've not seen the financially secure words but do see professional couple in many profiles. We would fall into that category from our jobs but it's currently not in our profile. It might convey a particular level of taste and affordability for various activities? Of course putting that in a profile does not really mean anything, until you meet.

[JustAskJulie]

I can definitely see where more couples might start saying that. I know for us lately it's happened more than once where we've been out with a couple and encountered the "we only brought enough money to do x or z". And in both cases they seemed to think that drinking was the higher importance.... and in both cases, it added to our decision that they definitely were not for us. In both of those cases, for us it was younger couples, and it's just been one more nail in the coffin for why we have come to prefer couples at least our age or older.

[JustMrJ]

I have not seen this in our area, but I will say that if we can't cover our own bill for the evening and possibly the other couple we are with, we won't go out.

I've been laid off since November 1st of 2008, but I've never been one to stick someone else with the bill.

FYI, I had a third interview this last Friday and hope to get the "You're hired, let's negotiate your salary." call.

[VegasLee]

"professional couple" Does that mean they are both hookers?

Ok, another reason we pretty much stick to the club. I don't care how much money someone has and don't care and really don't want to know.

AT the club, they are there, there is nothing for me to pay for. Money does not come into the picture at all.

We also host bar meets, everyone pays for their own drinks. I guess the ones that are really drunk are the ones with the most money. (I don't drink, guess I don't have the most money)

I hate for so many things to get in the way of being naked and having fun.

[Chicup]

Having been stuck with a bill a couple of times, I can understand this sentiment.

[JustAskJulie]

We weren't there but we heard about a couple who showed up to a local group dinner... first they needed a ride... another couple helped them out... then at dinner they didn't have enough to cover dinner...someone else helped them... THEN they asked for cab fair home. They were asked not to return.

[CXXC]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

We weren't there but we heard about a couple who showed up to a local group dinner... first they needed a ride... another couple helped them out... then at dinner they didn't have enough to cover dinner...someone else helped them... THEN they asked for cab fair home. They were asked not to return.

You have GOT to be kidding! Dare I guess, neither of them had condoms as well?

[corynlaine]

hmmm. I guess I'll chime in because in our original personal add, we ended it with something along the lines of

"If you'd like to get to know us better, invite us out to dinner"
Some one pointed out that this sounded like we were ASKING them to pay/take us out to dinner.

When all we meant to say was

1)if we go out to dinner, to a restaurant of your choosing you will feel more comfortable and we will be able to talk - as opposed to a club where there are people and loud music
ala the other post "what you say I can't hear you"

2)we are very adventurous when it comes to food. Anything from raw bars and sushi, to Indian food that offers breaded deep fried cows brains. and while these types of places may or may not be any more expensive then your local choke and puke this is not for everyone. If we picked this type of restaurant you may not be happy or comfortable.

3) it allows you to set the bar for cost - while not frequently, we have been known to spend upwards of $300 for dinner for 2. No we're not going to do this on a weekly basis, but if this is where you want to meet it's totally OK with us. The way we look at this is even if it didn't work out with you, at least we had some good food (hopefully - as we've found that local dives are on the average far more likely to offer unique cuisine then some of the high end places, but that's another topic. ) in a place we haven't tried before so the evening wasn't a total waist.

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by CXXC

You have GOT to be kidding! Dare I guess, neither of them had condoms as well?

Yeah, they had condoms, but when he was ready to screw, someone had to stand behind him and push his ass up and down for the pumping action to happen.





not really.
well, maybe.