What are your favorite swinger sites for meeting others?

[DenMor4]

What are the best sites out there (other then this one of course ). We're on a few but none of them really seem to have to much. Maybe it's because we're looking for a single woman. Any suggestions would be great!

[two4youinswva]

What sites are you currently on?

[DenMor4]

Originally Posted by two4youinswva

What sites are you currently on?

SwingLifeStyle
AFF
AdultMatchClub
SexyAds

I think that's it.

[sexylady1970]

We like swinglifestyle, Americanlowlife, and a new one ultraswinger

[unusualsuspects]

We're on
baycouples (SF bay area focused, though there are some outliers)
lifestylelounge (seems ok, though low hit rate so far)
swinglifestyle (just joined)

Other than these and this site definitely get ahold of the podcasts swingercast and the savage lovecast. Swingercast is a couple (John and Allie) who do trip reports and interviews with other swingers and is great for hearing a very human side of the swinging. Savage Lovecast is the podcast version of Dan Savage's excellent sex/relationship advice column Savage Love.

[DenMor4]

With so many of them you can't do anything for free it seems Which would be the best to pay for? The one that's most worth it?

[JustAskJulie]

Unfortunately, it depends a lot on where you are. My suggestion is always to take advantage of any free trial they offer and use that to search the site and get a good idea of how many people match what you are looking for locally (as well as check out their features). Then make a decision from there based on which one you're most likely to use.

I won't promote a site that doesn't at least have some sort of free trial attached to it for that reason. There are new sites popping up every day claiming to be swinger sites and claiming to have hundreds of thousands of members.

Looking back at your OP, you are looking for single females... your best bet is not going to be the internet. Most who have any success finding single females do so in their regular life or via vanilla clubs. Most single females (bi or not) aren't looking on swinger sites.... and unfortunately, most of those you will find (if you try to go the method I suggested above) are not real, so that's not even a good avenue.

Some sites do more to cut out the fakes than others, but they all have them. AFF is probably the worst for being riddled with SF ads that are nothing more than promoting some girls cam, website or 800#.

[DenMor4]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Unfortunately, it depends a lot on where you are. My suggestion is always to take advantage of any free trial they offer and use that to search the site and get a good idea of how many people match what you are looking for locally (as well as check out their features). Then make a decision from there based on which one you're most likely to use.

I won't promote a site that doesn't at least have some sort of free trial attached to it for that reason. There are new sites popping up every day claiming to be swinger sites and claiming to have hundreds of thousands of members.

Looking back at your OP, you are looking for single females... your best bet is not going to be the internet. Most who have any success finding single females do so in their regular life or via vanilla clubs. Most single females (bi or not) aren't looking on swinger sites.... and unfortunately, most of those you will find (if you try to go the method I suggested above) are not real, so that's not even a good avenue.

Some sites do more to cut out the fakes than others, but they all have them. AFF is probably the worst for being riddled with SF ads that are nothing more than promoting some girls cam, website or 800#.

Yea i should have known that about aff from when i was on there years and years ago but, hey, i figured what do i know any more right?

[screaminggood]

We find our single women at lifestyle clubs. They are there, it's just hit or miss on which nights, and sometimes they appear to be with a couple because they hang on to a couple for safety....so it takes some investigative talking to find out if they are available or already matched.

[Speed & Trixie]

We've had a profile on AFF for a couple of months, and have had very little success with it.

Our biggest problems with the site have been:
1. Couples contacting us (me) looking for a threesome with a single woman. We are a couple and the first sentence of our profile clearly states we are a couple and only play with couples as a couple.

2. Couples contacting us (as a couple), stating their interest in us and asking to read their profile and let us know if they're interested. Of the 3-5 couples we replied and said "yes, we'd love to meet you, let's set up a time and place" ZERO have contacted us again to set up a meet!

3. Single women rarely contact us (which we expected), but when they do, it's often a woman totally outside our description of who we're interested in meeting. For example, a married woman who's husband doesn't know she's on the site.

4. When I/we contact single women, they don't respond (also expected) or aren't what their profile states. I wasted a lot of time talking to a woman in my area, and it became obvious to me that she didn't really want to meet in person. She was/is a pic and story collector I guess...

5. LOL almost forgot about the single men! I've gotten lots of dick pictures and one-line emails like "U know ur hot, let's do this" or "am I gonna get lucky tonight?" They mostly end up in the junk box though.

Our AFF account expires in May, and we will not renew it. I'd like to try Swing Lifestyle or another site that's geared more toward swingers.

Trixie

[CXXC]

Originally Posted by Speed & Trixie

We've had a profile on AFF for a couple of months, and have had very little success with it.

Our AFF account expires in May, and we will not renew it. I'd like to try Swing Lifestyle or another site that's geared more toward swingers.

Trixie

Trixie

I dont know if you have tried LifestyleLounge yet, but they have a goo number of people in the CO area. I used to have a membership. There were just too few in the Savannah area to keep it.

[Speed & Trixie]

Originally Posted by CXXC

Trixie

I dont know if you have tried LifestyleLounge yet, but they have a goo number of people in the CO area. I used to have a membership. There were just too few in the Savannah area to keep it.

Mr. CXXC, we haven't tried that one yet. I actually didn't even know about any of these sites (including AFF) until a couple of months ago. It's kind of funny that Speed's the computer genius yet I'm somehow the one "in charge" of our online swinger accounts!

Thanks for the tip.
Trixie

[Speed & Trixie]

Originally Posted by Speed & Trixie

It's kind of funny that Speed's the computer genius yet I'm somehow the one "in charge" of our online swinger accounts!
Trixie

I love you for it babe!

Speed.

[sjsl]

Originally Posted by Speed & Trixie

We've had a profile on AFF for a couple of months, and have had very little success with it.

Our biggest problems with the site have been:
1. Couples contacting us (me) looking for a threesome with a single woman. We are a couple and the first sentence of our profile clearly states we are a couple and only play with couples as a couple.

2. Couples contacting us (as a couple), stating their interest in us and asking to read their profile and let us know if they're interested. Of the 3-5 couples we replied and said "yes, we'd love to meet you, let's set up a time and place" ZERO have contacted us again to set up a meet!

3. Single women rarely contact us (which we expected), but when they do, it's often a woman totally outside our description of who we're interested in meeting. For example, a married woman who's husband doesn't know she's on the site.

4. When I/we contact single women, they don't respond (also expected) or aren't what their profile states. I wasted a lot of time talking to a woman in my area, and it became obvious to me that she didn't really want to meet in person. She was/is a pic and story collector I guess...

5. LOL almost forgot about the single men! I've gotten lots of dick pictures and one-line emails like "U know ur hot, let's do this" or "am I gonna get lucky tonight?" They mostly end up in the junk box though.

Our AFF account expires in May, and we will not renew it. I'd like to try Swing Lifestyle or another site that's geared more toward swingers.

Trixie

Lets not leave these people out of the AFF description:

1) Profile of a single woman, you exchange e-mails or talk in chat only to find out she has a husband that likes to watch.

2) Profile as a couple, she is the one that gets to play and he can only touch what he brung or the women are only allowed to play together.

3) Friend collectors. Why would we want to include someone in our friends network when they live in freakin Germany?

[funfrkycpl]

Right now we use three sites on a regular basis, SwingersZoneCentral, Swappernet, & SwingLifestyle. Out of those three we think that SwingersZoneCentral is by far the best & is getting better all the time. Great customer service, great message board, & great party utilities. The groups on there aren't very active, but as the site grows we think that is going to change.

A year ago we would have probably said Swappernet, but in our opinion a lot of the changes they have made over that last few years have really hurt the site. It use to be the most active site we were on, but that isn't the case anymore. More and more people we know are leaving the site everyday & most of the people we know that are still on there, wouldn't be if they weren't lifetime members. If we didn't host parties & use the party invite system so often we would have left too. Hopefully they start to make some positive changes soon, but the way things have gone we doubt that will happen.

We don't use Swinglifestyle as much as we use to, but we think it's a good site. Not much to brag about, but we don't have anything negative to say about it either.

There are a few other sites we really like, LoveVoodoo, swingers date club, & LifestyleLounge, but they just aren't very active in our area.

The site that we think has the most potential is Kasidie. It started out as a online magazine for swingers with a lot of very informative articles, but they now have a personals section of the site as well. Again the only problem we have is there aren't many members from our area and the ones that are from our area we already know.