first email?

[ktimephoenix]

Having just upgraded our profile to a paid membership, we are running across the problem of how exactly to break the ice when emailing couples "cold"

any tips?

[The Fuse]

You can just write a friendly email with a few general comments in it, plus something you pick specifically from their profile to comment on. This way the couple you're emailing knows you've read their profile.

You could say, "We saw your profile and liked it. It looks like we have some things in common, and your pictures are very sexy. We especially liked how you wrote about xxx because we yyyy", and your pictures of boating, because we also boat (or whatever it is you picked out from their profile). We hope you'll take a look at our profile and let us know either way if you might be interested".

[IvoryTowers]

We always kept first emails fairly short and light and, as Fuse suggests, mention at least one thing that shows we've read and understood their profile and haven't just perved the pictures.

While swinging is about sex, people generally don't like to feel they're a piece of meat to you, so don't just talk about how hot she is!

[exploringRM]

Originally Posted by IvoryTowers

While swinging is about sex, people generally don't like to feel they're a piece of meat to you, so don't just talk about how hot she is!

So I guess "Nice tits" is not a good icebreaker?

As previously mentioned, I typically try to find something in common based on the profile, perhaps remark on the photos in a non cheesy sort of way. I also talk just a little about us, where we like to meet people, etc. I typically end it with, please view our profile and let us know if you are interested in us as well.

[dodgechevy]

For the love of all that is good and holy, have your pics open when you are the initiator! :-)

sorry pet peeve of ours. :-)

[corynlaine]

our concern in sending/posting pics is the other thread "outed by Vanilla"
While it is no real concern to me, and some confern to her in terms of work, the big issue is with our kids.

It really is not something that they need to know about and or deal with.
And we all know that there are pic collectors out there. How do you tell these people from the " we will not repond unless you have pics, but won't list theirs"

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by corynlaine

our concern in sending/posting pics is the other thread "outed by Vanilla"
While it is no real concern to me, and some confern to her in terms of work, the big issue is with our kids.

It really is not something that they need to know about and or deal with.
And we all know that there are pic collectors out there. How do you tell these people from the " we will not repond unless you have pics, but won't list theirs"

See http://www.swingersboard.com/forums/...-dont-you.html and lots of other threads like it. This has been discussed quite a lot.

The upshot is, do what makes you feel comfortable in terms of showing pictures. I suggest you ask yourselves what you would want others to do if they were initiating with you. Some people won't like how much you choose to show or not show in a first email. Think about how you can show enough in a picture to let the potential partners have enough information, i.e. general body type, without giving away your identities. This is not that difficult.

The Golden Rule applies for the OP's question as well. If you are wondering what to put in a first email to a couple, ask yourself what you'd like to see in an email from another couple who was contacting you. Don't send them your social security number, but say and show enough that they would know if they want to follow up with you.

[ktimephoenix]

Originally Posted by The Fuse

The Golden Rule applies for the OP's question as well. If you are wondering what to put in a first email to a couple, ask yourself what you'd like to see in an email from another couple who was contacting you.

this is going to sound sad, but we are just happy to get contacted but then again, we just love getting out and meeting people (even if nothing comes of it).

[MrkLin]

Originally Posted by ktimephoenix

this is going to sound sad, but we are just happy to get contacted but then again, we just love getting out and meeting people (even if nothing comes of it).

What we usually do is keep the initial e-mail brief. We introduce ourselves and mention the things in their profile that attracted us to them, any common interests or mutual friends we have, then invite them to check out our profile - with our private pics open to them before we send the e-mail. We usually get a reply, although not always. The majority of those replies are positive.

Some good advice has been given above by the other fine members of this board. My opinion is that in addition to the above advice, you should remember the things that attracted you to their profile in the first place, and mention a few of them. Don't gush, be courteous and respectful, and invite them to check out your profile.

[JustAskJulie]

I agree with all of the above on keeping the first email short and simple and trying to mention something that you saw in their profile (something that made you think they would be a good match for you - besides how hot they are).

I'm guessing that up to this point you've probably received a few emails, so think back to those and think which ones sparked your interest and made you want to look at their profile or gave you incentive to write them back. That's your goal so chances are if it worked for you it will work on those you want to attract.

[olycouple]

Originally Posted by The Fuse

You can just write a friendly email with a few general comments in it, plus something you pick specifically from their profile to comment on. This way the couple you're emailing knows you've read their profile.

You could say, "We saw your profile and liked it. It looks like we have some things in common, and your pictures are very sexy. We especially liked how you wrote about xxx because we yyyy", and your pictures of boating, because we also boat (or whatever it is you picked out from their profile). We hope you'll take a look at our profile and let us know either way if you might be interested".

Yeah, this ^^^^^



Mr. Oly

[NCfuncouple98]

This was a good question to ask, and brought up some very good discussions. It made me re-think the emails we have sent, maybe they were too generic, but it just wasn't something I had seen much advice on so I just went with basic, plain, vanilla emails.

Now I plan to use the above advice on our next emails.

Mrs. NC