Sybian Invitation

[Hardroqcoq]

I am a single guy who recently bought a sybian for women. I have always enjoyed using sex toys and also have a voyeuristic streak so this satisfies both fantasies. I have used it with a couple of women I date, but would like to offer it to women and couples in the lifestyle. I have sent messages to a few but do not get any responses. I assure them my participation isstrictly as a spectator unless otherwise invited. How do I arouse more curiousity and response? And how do I not make it seem weird?? lol

[red96]

We received a message from a guy on AFF about the very same thing. It was a very nice respectful message but we were a little weirded out by it. I suppose it was because it is not something we would be into. In our case my Mrs. does not like toys, she prefers the real thing. Maybe if you approached couples interested in a single male and after you establish some kind of connection you mention the Sybian and your fantasy.

[TNT]

Originally Posted by Hardroqcoq

I have used it with a couple of women I date, but would like to offer it to women and couples in the lifestyle. I have sent messages to a few but do not get any responses. I assure them my participation is strictly as a spectator unless otherwise invited. How do I arouse more curiousity and response? And how do I not make it seem weird?? lol

I'm not surprised you're not getting any response. Couples in the lifestyle who are interested in trying out a Sybian can usually find an on-premise club somewhere that offers one and/or there are quite a few house parties where a guest will bring theirs for others enjoyment.

At these venues, privacy to try out the Sybian is offered.

Having a single man invite a couple/single woman over to his house to ride a Sybian so he can watch is very weird, if not a bit creepy. I'm not sure there's any way you could make it less so.

If you're really wanting to share it, I'd suggest getting involve with a local swingers group and offering to provide it for parties. However, you will want to make sure that it's stated privacy is offered for rides. It's been my experience that some women just don't like strangers watching them ride.


Teresa

[Speed & Trixie]

I keep hearing about this Sybian, and I'm sooo curious about trying one!

But a guy I didn't know watching my first "trial run" with it would be strange. It would make me really self-conscious, and I'm not sure I'd be able to relax and enjoy it.

Now, if I tried it and liked it.... I would definately let the owner watch me if he's kind enough to let me play with his toy again! But I like being watched anyway LOL.

I like TNT's suggestion of a more "no strings attached" approach. There are women who like to be watched, and those who don't -- but we ALL talk to each other! If you tell a woman respectfully that you enjoy watching, but it's not required for her to try your Sybian, you might get approached by women who want you to watch them!

Trixie

[cplnuswing]

Originally Posted by TNT

I'm not surprised you're not getting any response. Couples in the lifestyle who are interested in trying out a Sybian can usually find an on-premise club somewhere that offers one and/or there are quite a few house parties where a guest will bring theirs for others enjoyment.

At these venues, privacy to try out the Sybian is offered.

Having a single man invite a couple/single woman over to his house to ride a Sybian so he can watch is very weird, if not a bit creepy. I'm not sure there's any way you could make it less so.

If you're really wanting to share it, I'd suggest getting involve with a local swingers group and offering to provide it for parties. However, you will want to make sure that it's stated privacy is offered for rides. It's been my experience that some women just don't like strangers watching them ride.


Teresa

What she said!

We're not interested in seeking out a Sybian to start with, but even if we were, getting an invite from a complete unknown to come over and use his Sybian while he watches won't get a reply from us either, it will just get you blocked.

[cpl4playmates30]

Originally Posted by TNT

I'm not surprised you're not getting any response. Couples in the lifestyle who are interested in trying out a Sybian can usually find an on-premise club somewhere that offers one and/or there are quite a few house parties where a guest will bring theirs for others enjoyment.

At these venues, privacy to try out the Sybian is offered.

Having a single man invite a couple/single woman over to his house to ride a Sybian so he can watch is very weird, if not a bit creepy. I'm not sure there's any way you could make it less so.

If you're really wanting to share it, I'd suggest getting involve with a local swingers group and offering to provide it for parties. However, you will want to make sure that it's stated privacy is offered for rides. It's been my experience that some women just don't like strangers watching them ride.


Teresa

Yes, what she said.

I've been curious about them too, but anywhere there's been one available to try, there has been an audience. I am really not into having an audience, ESPECIALLY when trying out something like that for the first time.

We were recently at a club that had several, in private rooms. I snuck off by myself at one point and closed the door and tried it out, but only got a couple of minutes on it. I would try it out again, ALONE, for a longer time sometime.

I think you're offer does come across as somewhat creepy, and I would definitely not take you up on it, especially with the watching part of the deal.

Good Luck.

Deb

[ALilOEverything]

If you have a Swing Lifestyle profile I would just put it in your profile as one of your fantasies. That would seem less creepy to me. Note that I said less... it would still seem a little odd to me. I think most couples looking to hook up with a single male are looking for a real flesh and blood cock... not a machine to give her pleasure. If they wanted a machine, I agree with what was stated above, they would be more apt to go to a club.

[BiloxiCouple]

Or you could just invite women over and let them watch you use it instead. That would be more unique.

[socolais]

We've been to house parties where they had a sybian in one of the rooms and it was a popular attraction. You may find success by pitching your offer to local party hosts or perhaps host your own party.

[ALilOEverything]

I just noticed under the Michigan Club listings that you are/were trying to set up your own club/house party for this fantasy of yours. Have you been successful in that?

[Menage_a_Trois]

We have a sybian as well but I would have to say if I got an email/invitation from a single man with one I would just simply feel he is "creepy"..........

Posting it in your profile that you are the proud owner and happy to share would probably go a long way with people IF and I emphasize the "IF" you don't push the sybian issue or card and just let it arise naturally...............

Just my opinion............

Pam