Obviously Fake Profiles

[sunrise_sunset]

a lot of couples dont even seek on the "swinger sites" anymore because they simply dont have the time to both sit down at the puter and try to sort out who is real and who is not. The site administrators claim that pics can't be stolen, but anybody with the SnagIt software can grab any pic and use it.

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by sunrise_sunset

a lot of couples dont even seek on the "swinger sites" anymore because they simply dont have the time to both sit down at the puter and try to sort out who is real and who is not. The site administrators claim that pics can't be stolen, but anybody with the SnagIt software can grab any pic and use it.

Print screen works too, and its built into windows.

[Travelingfools]

Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple

A brand new member on Swing Lifestyle with beautiful pictures of the lady. Profile states she can't play because of pregnancy but her husband can. Of course there's no pictures of him.

Hmmm.... Hope that wasn't us! I have been "profile challenged," in that I have been unable to figure out the various galleries very well.

Have it fixed now, though, ( I think) just in case you were referring to our profile! D&A

[BiloxiCouple]

Originally Posted by Travelingfools

Hmmm.... Hope that wasn't us! I have been "profile challenged," in that I have been unable to figure out the various galleries very well.

Have it fixed now, though, ( I think) just in case you were referring to our profile! D&A

It's just the fact that the one "playing" doesn't even have a picture posted. It's like the "wife's" picture is the hook and the profile description is a dead worm. Things that make you go hmmmm?

I have gotten a kitchen pass to play before without her. So I understand playing alone sometimes.

[Travelingfools]

[QUOTE=BiloxiCouple;362534]It's just the fact that the one "playing" doesn't even have a picture posted. It's like the "wife's" picture is the hook and the profile description is a dead worm. Things that make you go hmmmm?

Well - I don't think you are speaking of our profile then, since ours clearly states that I'm (the wife) playing! And, we have uploaded a photo of us together. (Think I figured out the "galleries!" Maybe....)

I'm glad, though, I read this thread and was able to correct a few things on our profile. Writing profiles for the first time is difficult and I'd bet it takes a few experiences first really to know what to put in one. I mean, it's difficult to know whether to be really gutsy, or somewhat tame, or.... And, I'm certain that, as experiences come and go, desires change. We "think" we know what we'd like - it may be an entirely different profile after a time or two!

There's a magic to being new at this - like the first time ever having sex, then the first time with my spouse, now the first time with .... a profile ever-evolving, right?

[kellimc]

Originally Posted by Chicup

Hehe, I have to be honest. When I see professional quality photos of a single female I automatically assume its fake.

You shouldn't. I have some professional pics that were taken for a site that sells swimsuits. I think I even posted one on my Swing Lifestyle profile for a while.

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by kellimc

You shouldn't. I have some professional pics that were taken for a site that sells swimsuits. I think I even posted one on my Swing Lifestyle profile for a while.

When I see ONLY professional pictures, hows that

[Willing29]

We recently changed our profile to read "if you contact us as a couple with only photos of the lady or no photos at all your e-mail will be deleted and not even answered." We expect to see a couple in the photos or at least one of the guy, is that so wrong? It also says to "read our entire profile before contacting us", so they all should have read that part. So in the last week we have been contacted twice like this. Once was a couple who said they are new to the site and don't have pics up yet, the second one had only one photo of the lady. I gave them the benefit of the doubt and said there are only photos of the lady, didn't you read our profile (well they did since they said they loved our profile, WTF)? So what my question is, are we being duped by fake profiles and pic hunters or are these profiles just not complete? The couple who are new I replied to let us know when you have pics up but the one with only the lady pics might be fake. Thoughts?

[Pensacolapair]

To the original post: We have seen and continue to see obviously fake profiles - but I hesitate to point out on an open forum the many things that make them so easy to spot. it's kinda like a country putting it's battle plan on CNN - assuming the other guys don't have TVs is a bad idea.

Originally Posted by Willing29

....Once was a couple who said they are new to the site and don't have pics up yet, the second one had only one photo of the lady. I gave them the benefit of the doubt and said there are only photos of the lady, didn't you read our profile (well they did since they said they loved our profile, WTF)? So what my question is, are we being duped by fake profiles and pic hunters or are these profiles just not complete? The couple who are new I replied to let us know when you have pics up but the one with only the lady pics might be fake. Thoughts?

Our opinion is that the old 'We're new to the site and havn't had time to put up pics/fill in the profile' thing sounds good..right up until the time you actually think about it.

Putting it bluntly, the Lifestyle is like any other pursuit - if you're going to do it, you're going to have to invest in the tools of the trade. In swinging, time is one of the tools that has to be invested. Years ago (at least 10), when digital cameras were in their infancy, a popular method of getting pics on one's profile involved taking a hard copy photo to Kinkos to be scanned, put on a disc (or 'floppy, LOL) for use on the computer. Being generous, this could take some time - however there were some back then who couldn't seem to get it done for months..often never. Fast forward to today, when even most phones have digital cameras in them - um..exactly how long do people expect others to believe it takes to snap a digital picture, transfer it to a computer, and upload it? I'll even allow time for cropping or blurring out faces - total time..maybe 10-15 minutes? Now..let me see if I've got this right - said person had time to start a profile, time to search other profiles for folks they found interesting (of course relying heavily on pictures provided on said profiles in making their choices), and time to fire off an introductory email - yet they don't have time to take a picture and post it.

As far as 'Her only' pics - it doesn't necessarily mean they are fake..it could be chalked up to they feel he's the less attractive of the two, and she's the bait. I believe the phrase is 'trophy wife'. My theory is that they are hoping that she is hot enough that others will let him play too in order to get a shot at her. Personally, we've never met a woman so 'hot' that my wife would 'take one for the team' for..so I have to wonder if it ever actually works. Oh - and the usual excuse given for not having pics of him is one of my personal favorites: "He is very well known in the community/job/Senate, etc"...but the smartass in me can't seem to get past the idea that if people know him that well, they probably know what his wife looks like too.

[Willing29]

Originally Posted by Pensacolapair

As far as 'Her only' pics - it doesn't necessarily mean they are fake..it could be chalked up to they feel he's the less attractive of the two, and she's the bait. I believe the phrase is 'trophy wife'. My theory is that they are hoping that she is hot enough that others will let him play too in order to get a shot at her. Personally, we've never met a woman so 'hot' that my wife would 'take one for the team' for..so I have to wonder if it ever actually works.

Thank you this is so true. We are into this for the both of US and the bait thing will never work since my wife needs to have an attraction and if the guy is dog ugly I wouldn't even think of asking. So the only pics of 'her only' thing will never work on us, since the guy must really be gross. As far as the digital pic statement that was my sentiment exactly. How friggin' hard is it to snap a pic even if it is from a camera phone (BTW, I see lots of them and it's better than nothing) not only that but everyone must have at least one photo of themselves on their computer these days. I think it was the second thing we did after creating our profile. Not sure if they are fake but definitely very lame. Our profile clearly says "if you want to peak our interest put a little effort into it". Just my rambling two cents.

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by Willing29

So what my question is, are we being duped by fake profiles and pic hunters or are these profiles just not complete? The couple who are new I replied to let us know when you have pics up but the one with only the lady pics might be fake. Thoughts?

Although seeing profiles with only pictures of the lady is a BIG pet peeve of mine, I don't think most of them are fake. There have been threads about this subject, that is, why so many profiles only have pictures of the woman. I don't intend to repeat the "reasons" some people have for this, since I don't think any of them are good. But we know many of these couples and have even played with a few. If someone contacts us online with no pictures of the guy, I always ask to see some. Sometimes they will, sometimes they won't. Occasionally I have even written to a couple with no pictures of the guy and asked for some. Pretty often, they add one or send one to an outside address.

Oh, and I used to think that a profile with only pictures of the lady meant either that they were not really swingers (fake profile or just not serious), or that the guy was a lot less attractive than his wife. I can say happily that I have been pleasantly surprised as much as any other result, upon seeing the gentleman or his picture.

It still annoys the hell out of me. But my main point is that there are many, many real profiles of real swinger couples, where the profile has only pictures of the woman.

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by The Fuse

Oh, and I used to think that a profile with only pictures of the lady meant either that they were not really swingers (fake profile or just not serious), or that the guy was a lot less attractive than his wife. I can say happily that I have been pleasantly surprised as much as any other result, upon seeing the gentleman or his picture.

Let me restate Chicups Law of Pictures: If there are only pictures of the female, there MAY be a real reason for the male not having his pictures up (high profile job or the like). If there are only pictures of the male, it is either a fake 'couples' profile, or the female is hideous.

[ncmd_couple]

As far as 'Her only' pics - it doesn't necessarily mean they are fake..it could be chalked up to they feel he's the less attractive of the two, and she's the bait.

We didn't have pictures of both of us up for a long time because I was always behind the camera, yeah, I know, I have a tripod and a remote for the camer, but never thought about it. But, we had a friend of ours take some pics of both of us just for putting up on the site.

S

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by Chicup

Let me restate Chicups Law of Pictures: If there are only pictures of the female, there MAY be a real reason for the male not having his pictures up (high profile job or the like). If there are only pictures of the male, it is either a fake 'couples' profile, or the female is hideous.

I have to say this law is very valid.

[Willing29]

Originally Posted by Chicup

Let me restate Chicups Law of Pictures: If there are only pictures of the female, there MAY be a real reason for the male not having his pictures up (high profile job or the like). If there are only pictures of the male, it is either a fake 'couples' profile, or the female is hideous.

You are entitled to your opinion an I mine but if someone has such high profile job why are they on these sites in the first place. First, if you are a Mayor or member of the government or whatever (just fill in the blank) and don't want anyone to find out then they shouldn't be there in the first place unless they don't care and BTW wouldn't everyone know his wife's photo. If they do choose to be on the site then why not a cropped shot or a blurred one? No one is saying that I need to see faces but simply a body of a guy and lady if they are indeed a couple. I an not sure if it would qualify as a fake profile but they sure smell like one. The other couple who contacted us with only lady pics has a tag line that says (new to site no pics yet) still has not respond to my mail from like 5 days and I know they read it and have been on everyday since then. As 'Pensacolapair' said how hard is it to post a pic from a phone? That only takes like 3 minutes to do. Our profiles clearly states our rule on only lady pics that all emails will be deleted and not even answered. I gave them the benefit of the doubt to try again and still got no answer so I have to think something is rotten in Denmark. Again just my newbie opinion. Anyhoo - the Willing29 rule is if you contact us as a couple we expect to see a couple and if not you email will not be answered (it says that right in our profile) and people still insist on doing it. Maybe I was just pissed or maybe confused as to why.