Why they didn't respond....

[JustAskJulie]

We had contacted a couple a week or so ago and asked if they were interested in meeting. Their response was a very positive "when/where?". We had replied back with a couple of options over the course of the next week (this past week) and never got a response back.

I was thinking about it today and thought I'm going to email them again and just see if they respond. I went to the mail history and could not find where I had mailed them the options of meeting. I found their last email to us and looked at the full mail history and it wasn't there. Evidently it got lost in whatever happened on Swing Lifestyle last weekend that caused quite a few emails to get lost. So here we were thinking they blew us off when they never got our email and probably thought we were blowing them off.

So I guess the moral of my story is, don't assume someone blew you off... it may be something like this. Or it could just be that one of them opened the mail and meant to reply after they talked to the other half and then life got in the way and because it got moved to a different folder (as they do on Swing Lifestyle) they just lost track.

I sent them a second email, we'll see where it goes. So now go give someone else that never replied to you a second chance.

[BiloxiCouple]

A thousand different reasons and counting.

[mwsw4]

We had something similar happen on Swing Lifestyle a while back. We seen a couple we were interested in and emailed them. Well we tracked it and they never opened the message. We didn't want to act weird and email again so we had waited. Luckily they had joined a local Yahoo swingers group we were in so we PMed them and hit it off later at a meet and greet. Here they said they never got out message. So this posses a small question of my own. If you do see someone hasn't opened your mail on Swing Lifestyle when is it or is it proper to re send a message?

[JTcamp05]

It's always good to keep an open mind.....

We had an experience of chatting back and forth with a couple, when some medical issues put that aside for a week or so. They wouldn't respond afterwords, guess they thought we blew them off, too bad could have been fun.....

[Chicup]

We had something similar happen to us a few years ago on Swing Lifestyle.

I couldn't find the history, and I assumed it didn't get sent and they didn't read it, so I sent another one.

This one I saw them get the "read" tag and they still didn't respond.

There was some bug/feature in Swing Lifestyle where deleting the mail deleted the history as well. I'm not sure if it had to be tagged unread or what when it was deleted to do this, but it definitely happened.

Now as I said this was a few years ago, who knows if they still have this issue, but if you don't hear anything from the second mail, don't be so sure they didn't' get the first.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by mwsw4

So this posses a small question of my own. If you do see someone hasn't opened your mail on Swing Lifestyle when is it or is it proper to re send a message?

I'd say a couple of weeks to a month if you know they've been online since you sent it. If they haven't been online then obviously they haven't read the message.

Originally Posted by Chicup

There was some bug/feature in Swing Lifestyle where deleting the mail deleted the history as well. I'm not sure if it had to be tagged unread or what when it was deleted to do this, but it definitely happened.

I've been wondering if this is still the case. If deleting a message on one end deletes from the history of both users? There have been a rare few occasions where we've used either the "view detail" or "message history" to read a message and never actually opened it and ended up deleting it without doing so. I try not to delete any messages from couples just so that we can reference a history if one exists.

The one thing I do wish is that it was easier to find the mail history between ourselves and a particular user to see if an item was read / view past images sent/ etc. There have been a few times we've had to go digging because we knew they had sent us a picture of both of them at some point in our conversations but didn't know WHICH message it was attached to, or even if we knew the message was burried 6 months back in the replied to message folder so we had to dig for it.

[N8ture Girl]

I try to be open minded, life happens, time gets away from us from time to time. I have tried to pay more attention to the e-mail history with the Swing Lifestyle gliches here lately. Our e-mails are forward to our personal e-mail, some are making it there and not to Swing Lifestyle and vice versa.... If I dont get a response I will check the history to make sure it arrived or dissapeared, and resend if need be.

[PB&J]

And then there's hotmail... which has MORE than once lost emails that we've sent. I've switched to gmail for things that I rally want to get through.

[spamcatcher]

Well, this is a thorny issue, to be sure. Our policy is to respond to every email, period. Because of that, I'm a little thin-skinned when others don't reply to ours. I'd prefer the quick "No thank you" to having to wonder if the message has been read or not.

I don't believe it's yet been mentioned that it's possible to view Swing Lifestyle messages without the system registering them as "Read". This can be done in a couple of ways on the system, itself, and there's always the mail forwarding option that another poster has pointed out. Because of this, there's a very good chance that your messages are being viewed, irrespective of the "Read" status on Swing Lifestyle. Unfortunately, there's no ironclad proof, aside from the other party replying to let you know.

I'll throw in a second good word for Gmail. Been using it almost exclusively for about 5 years and love it. Tried Yahoo for a short time, but quickly found that some messages I'd send to my wife weren't getting there. I've never had any reason to believe that a message I've sent from Gmail didn't make it to the recipient.

[PB&J]

yes... the only reason I bother having a hotmail account is for chatting.