Whats with profiles with no guy pics?

[funnewthings]

Looking through SLS, and I see 75% of the profiles have photos of the female half, but not the men.

Does anyone know why this would be? In this day and age you can photoshop out tattoos, or at least blur them enough not to be recognized. I will admit I did those with my own, as I knew I can be recognized as I drew almost everything on my body, so they are unique, and I do not want to be recognized.

Is it baiting? Is it because they aren't really couples?

[The Fuse]

You have hit on a big pet peeve of mine. Most of the time these are perfectly legitimate couples. Many times, the guy is even attractive. Why they don't put pictures of him on, is due to several things -- but no good reasons as far as I am concerned.

[jdavisauto]

Originally Posted by funnewthings

Looking through SLS, and I see 75% of the profiles have photos of the female half, but not the men.

Does anyone know why this would be? In this day and age you can photoshop out tattoos, or at least blur them enough not to be recognized. I will admit I did those with my own, as I knew I can be recognized as I drew almost everything on my body, so they are unique, and I do not want to be recognized.

Is it baiting? Is it because they aren't really couples?

It could be that the profiles without men may look like me. When we join SLS we want to attract people to our profile so I was going to stay out of the picture. But after a second thought we wanted people to see what they was getting into so I am in the pictures. That's why no one is responding to our profile or our requests.

[cocpl2007]

We are a couple who used to post our pictures. We weren't even shy about posting photos which included our faces. Then WAMMO! We were confronted with our posting by some family members (thank goodness it was only family) which went over much like sitting on a blender blade under full power. We both come from careers and have civic and community involvement which would be adversely impacted by such a disclosure.

So there are some of us who play, and very much enjoy engaging other couples in this sexy endeavor, who simply are not going to be posting pictures.

While pictures are a very popular means of attracting attention and other couples, it has been our experience in meeting other couples that their pictures are very, very seldom representative of the people we actually end up meeting. Having said that, we freely send photos once correspondence and interest has been nurtured.

We learned the hard way that the PUBLIC (anyone with internet access) can very easily get around any of the site roadblocks to viewing pictures... and Yes, even the nude ones. So pictures posters BEWARE, anyone with an internet connection...

Also on this subject, while we have had some encounters with some very photogenic couples which we have enjoyed, they are by no means the sexiest encounters we have participated in. Over the years we all seem to learn that the sexiest part of the human body is not it's appearance, rather it is the gray matter between their ears.

The Cos

[rpu3]

Looking through SLS, and I see 75% of the profiles have photos of the female half, but not the men.

Does anyone know why this would be?

You got me on any decent reasoning. It too is a pet peeve of mine. Nowadays, I just delete the messages if there are no pictures of the man. Why waste my time. I am the one who checks the various accounts and if a couple doesn't care if I'm interested or attracted to him, then why bother?

And I also agree with a previous poster that there's no excuse for not posting pics of both people, although I hear the excuse of "his job" all the time. Ummm, no offense, but many of us have to be discreet because of job and family, and some of us still post blurred pics of both members of the couple.

[fun4Ds]

I think it about good advertisement mainly. We figure Mrs.fun does most of the searching on sls and the new swingerzone. We have pics of both of us in our private gallery. Just ask we will open them anytime. But back to the advertisement part. Mrs fun will probably be the main one perving profiles. We can presume that if she finds an attractive profile with a womans picture, there will be an attractive male to go with it.

Then consider, I like photographing my wife and a few friends. They like modeling. Doesn't every woman ? Come on, what guy hasn't corhersed his wife for some sexy pictures in the beginning ? What woman doesn't want to be that desirable woman in those pictures ? Its not like I don't like to have my picture taken. But like others have said in the thread about Men in a thong. I don't want to freak people out and scare people off before they get a chance to know me. I mean, its not like I can say, " hey bob, lets get some good pictures for our profile" Women can do that, but men ? We have done the homework. If me and bob are standing there with hard on's, women don't care to see that in a profile. At least the majority. Women in general would rather get to know a male with his clothes on first. Then decide if they want to see a man naked or slightly dressed.

We are certain, from our experience. Most women check the profile and actually look at the woman first. Then when they see the male its like, " he's hansome, lets meet them and see if we click"

Guys on the other hand... Well, you know how we are....

[funnewthings]

I would like to see the mans shape, as I want to know if its a good 200, or not.

I am a very tiny girl, so in the guys I look for someone whos at least a bit on the athletic side, as I don't want someone who cannot hold up their weight and just kinda smothers me.

I have also noticed a lot of people lie about weight, which cracks me up, as I am a personal trainer, and can pretty much guess within 10lbs just by looking at you, even in photos.

We had a situation when we were first looking, there was this couple that had photos all taken from "creative angles"

He definatly seemed to have a little padding, but nothing bad, her photos seemed very deceiving. There were no photos that showed what their bodies looked like next to each other.

She was my height, and my bf said she looked like she was my size... (I have a flat stomach, no abs, a lil bit of handles, but thats due to being short waisted) They told him she weighed 125.

I vary in weight from 110-115. If she was my height, and 125 thats in my range, so cool. Girls need to also be somewhat height weight proportional too. I dont mind a little extra at all though.

We get them on webcam, and I could clearly see she was doing what we call in theater "blocking" which basically means she was sitting behind him to look smaller in relation, but to me it was clear, she lied. She probably weighed around 175.

My guy insisted i was wrong, as they were clothed, well mostly. But by looking at her body shape, boobies, and arms it was more than apparent to me.

The body type was not what they said, but what really turned me off is they acted like little children, and I couldnt see them being discreet, if we do see them out, which was a possibility, as her and her husband work in the same industry as my bf.

So... about 3 days later, they throw up some naked pics. Next to each other... And I realized that it was a typo she wasnt 125, she was 225!

Basically when I am looking I want to see who I am talking to, because yes I am shallow. I want attractive F*ck buddies, as I dont care how nice or good a provider or father he is, that does not effect me. I need to be attracted to someone in order to have NSA sex with them... bottom line.

So I still write to the profiles with no pics of the man, even sometimes with no pics period, but I find when I request pics, they still only send me pictures of the female!

So peeps... guess what? us ladies like to see whats going on... we want to know what we are getting into.

And in my case i want to see penis. If I dont, instant deal breaker, as my man is hung, and I am not into getting together with people who are in it because he is not big enough for her... as then he wont be big enough for me either!

I beg you put up pics! And if you are embarrassed enough to not put up photos based on the way your body looks, take matters into your own hands, and do some workouts, eat healthy, and you will have a body you are proud of, and you will probably extend your life a little as well! Being in shape isn't just about looking good, its about ensuring you will be there for those you love later in life!

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

We can presume that if she finds an attractive profile with a womans picture, there will be an attractive male to go with it.

I respect you guys, but.... HA HA HA HA HA HA!!!! Maybe it's like that where you live, but here, HA HA HA HA HA!!! Much of the time, the reason why there's no pictures of the guy is because there is a huge disparity in attractiveness between the man and the woman. Ever heard the expression "They're a 9-to-5 couple"? Meaning, she's a 9 and he's a 5? This happens a LOT.

I apologize for my tone, but this really aggravates me when I search for couples. Again, I respect you but strongly disagree.

I don't understand why people say, "If they like the pictures of her, they can write and ask for pictures of him". That requires me to jump through hoops, and puts me in the position of asking for those pictures, and then having to diplomatically turn down the couple if the guy's looks are a deal breaker. Most often, I don't bother in the first place.

And the whole "It's my job" thing is almost always a crock too. To the guys who say this, I ask: if you're so afraid of being recognized, then why are you posting pictures of your wife? Do you think people will forget who she's married to? Does her reputation matter so much less than yours?

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

Then consider, I like photographing my wife and a few friends. They like modeling. Doesn't every woman ? Come on, what guy hasn't corhersed his wife for some sexy pictures in the beginning ? What woman doesn't want to be that desirable woman in those pictures ?

This one I can understand, but I still want to see the guy before deciding if I might be interested! It's a couples profile.

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

Its not like I don't like to have my picture taken. But like others have said in the thread about Men in a thong. I don't want to freak people out and scare people off before they get a chance to know me.

Two things: one, put on a decent shirt and a pair of jeans, stand in front of a door, and take a snapshot. Blur out your face if you want. That's all I ask. Two, I'm not getting to know you without pictures, unless I meet you at a party. It is simply too much trouble.

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

We are certain, from our experience. Most women check the profile and actually look at the woman first. Then when they see the male its like, " he's hansome, lets meet them and see if we click"

You can be just as certain, this is not what I do. I check out the woman to see if Mr. Fuse might be interested, and usually because she is featured and I have to hunt for any pictures of the husband. But my main interest is the man, and I am not alone.

{Sweet smile} Have a lovely day. {End of rant... for now}

[two4youinswva]

Here's my thoughts on why generally there are more female pics than male pics.

Men tend to take more pictures of the lady than the other way around.
- - One possible reason is ladies usually have more "sexy outfits", and when the lady wears a sexy outfit, the obligatory picture must be taken.

I think the male half tends to be the one running and maintaining the profile.

So, when it comes time to drop some pics on the profile page, the guy looks around in the picture folder, realizes he has eleventy pictures of Mrs Sexy, but only one picture of Mr Sexy (most likely posing next to his favorite driving toy). So, he shrugs his shoulders, and drops in the pictures he has.

[jjtrindc]

It's a big pet peeve of my wife too. We'll be the first ones to say that pictures only tell a small part of the story in terms of who a couple really is. But at the end of the day, we all have certain "types" that we are more attracted to. May be something as simple as she doesn't like a man with beards, etc. Before we meet a couple we generally insist on getting a photo. It doesn't have to be nude, GQ, etc. Heck, the more G-rated the better as we want to get to know couples as regular people. Anyway, our basic point we try to make is if we want to a couple, we think its fair to see both the male and female. We always make sure photo's of both of us are available as well!

[Chicup]

We currently do not have an add up.

When we do put another one up in the semi-near future it will contain NO face shots of me, and most likely not my wife either.

The reason is I have FAR to many people who will know my face but I would not know theirs, its the nature of my work.

This will be the first time we've put an add up without pictures, but I just don't want to risk it anymore. I know this will make meeting new couples harder, but such is life.

[HotMrsJane]

I'm actually the female half who handles all profile, email, contact etc.
We're also guilty of not showing face pics of my other half until I've seen
the face pic of whom we're potentially interested in meeting. While we both
have very very very visible jobs...he's the main bread winner, meaning, he makes more than me lol...and having his face out there without knowing who we are talking to could be devastating to us financially should someone decide to "out" us.

The excuse of..."well...if they are on the site...then they are busted too"...doesn't fly with us. We've known of people who join sites just to look
at pics...and find out who's doing what in their community. It happens. We NEVER assume that everyone who joins a swinger site is legitimate and there for swinging.

Like Chicup...there are many who would likely recognise me and H...but we may not necessarily recognise them. And we also realize that we may not get much attention due to the picture thing...but oh well. We do prefer quality over quantity. We prefer NOT to meet with those who don't take privacy or discretion very seriously.

Jane

[The Fuse]

I don't think the original question was about face pictures. Rather, it was about profiles that only have pictures (face or non-face) of the woman, and none of the man, and why so many couples profiles are that way.

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by The Fuse

I don't think the original question was about face pictures. Rather, it was about profiles that only have pictures (face or non-face) of the woman, and none of the man, and why so many couples profiles are that way.

This topic has come up before, to summarize my input in those threads....

If there are no pictures of the man.....(in no particular order)

May-December relationship, man insecure about age.

Man may be hideous.

Man is concerned about job and outing, wife not in the workforce has a far less chance of being outed.

If there are no pictures of the woman......

Its not really a couple but a cheating/single male trying to avoid the couples only filters.

or

The woman is hideous.

[BiloxiCouple]

Originally Posted by Chicup

This topic has come up before, to summarize my input in those threads....

If there are no pictures of the man.....(in no particular order)

May-December relationship, man insecure about age.

Man may be hideous.

Man is concerned about job and outing, wife not in the workforce has a far less chance of being outed.

If there are no pictures of the woman......

Its not really a couple but a cheating/single male trying to avoid the couples only filters.

or

The woman is hideous.

Or, they are lazy like us and don't take many pictures Our picture here was a professional photo shoot several years ago. It's probably the last picture we have done together. Just the way life goes for us.